Anonymous wrote:

It is actually not legal for teachers to make these types of diagnoses or suggestions.

Not legal as in, criminal for a teacher to make these types of suggestions? I'm a teacher, and have never been told it was *illegal* for me to suggest to parents that they get certain things checked out.

Of course it isn't a diagnosis. Teachers are not qualified to make medical diagnoses.

I guess the teacher was out of line, but if she is raising the issue AND it helps you seek out help (which I think you should), I think in the end, her coming forth to you was brave on her part. As a parent, yes it would bug me, but at the same time, I would be grateful that a teacher took the time to really notice and to reach out to me. That's just me though.

There were a lot of posts with great suggestions:
Raising Your Challenging Child classes w/ Dr. Shapiro,
the books mentioned,

this:

The Explosive Child mentioned above s a really good book to read. Also check out this website:

http://www.thinkkids.org

especially this http://www.thinkkids.org/learn/our-collaborative-problem-solving-approach/

And this inventory of lagging thinking skills: http://www.thinkkids.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/TSI_clinical-9-12.pdf
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All in all, I think there is a lot of reasons to be hopeful and empowered to start looking for help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A preschool teacher offers a diagnosis for a child? A trip to the administrator's office -- immediately -- to report this nonsense. Because think of what she's saying and doing about the children who DO have a diagnosis.

This.

To PPs who say the teacher was "just trying to help" may be correct, but there most likely a procedure in place at any preschool to make suggestions about getting kids evaluated no matter what their issues.

It's unprofessional of the teacher and may be a pattern of behavior not just a simple case of poor choice of wording.

Would you feel the same way about a preschool teacher telling a parent, "I think your child might have chicken pox. See those bumps there? They look like chicken pox to me. My son had that and it looks exactly the same. I think you should get her checked out."

It's not a diagnosis, just an alert to something that might be going on.

Apples and oranges, and I think you know it. Chicken pox is not a lifelong problem. It doesn't follow a child throughout his schooling. It doesn't have a lifelong stigma. It's not a special need.