OP, be sure to turn down the guys near you that are interested in you. You'll be well on your way to loving your cats, or maybe marrying the first guy with a pulse that isn't broke and can string together coherent sentences at 37.

OP, I understand that you are angry with this woman for "ruining your relationship", but it's really not her fault. She was not the one who made a commitment to you and then broke that commitment. While it would be nice if she had the integrity to say "No, I will not get involved with you because you're in a relationship", that's less important than his broken commitment.

I've also seen this movie before. Here's how it goes. Two people are in a relationship for a long time. One of those people, for whatever reasons, decides that they are not invested in that relationship, or that they are bored by it, or whatever, and starts seeing someone else. The betrayed lover finds out, ends relationship. At first, everyone is fine. The betrayed lover is righteously angry and heartbroken, has mean bitter thoughts about the cheater and goes through a phase where all their friends are making "Honey, you're better off without him" noises. The cheater is blissfully happy in new relationship with exciting new arm charm. Months go by and arm charm becomes just as boring as the girlfriend he cheated on with her. The betrayed lover starts remembering the good times. The former couple starts talking again, and they end up in their old dynamic. Of COURSE he's asking you to send pictures "like you used to". Of COURSE he'll "take care of it" before you come out to visit him. Except he won't. His sneaking out to call you to say good night makes me think that he'll tell you that only this one weekend will work for your visit, and when you get there, voila, the house is empty! His girlfriend has moved out! Except she won't have moved out. It'll be the weekend she's gone to her cousin's wedding, which he begs off going to because he "has to work" or something else.

You'll become the woman you are angry with, who will call you saying "He's in a relationship with me!" and you "won't care" just like she didn't care a year and a half ago. You'll think that you and this guy have finally, truly, worked out all your issues and are headed to a happy life together, right up until the point where he starts getting distant again, where he is disappearing late at night to have secret phone conversations, where you find faceless naked pictures of women that are not you on his cell phone.

And the worst thing? The reason why pretty much everyone responding to you on this thread has thrown up their hands? You know that this is what's going to happen, and you're going to make it happen anyway.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I am 25. I know it comes off as immature and petty but this girl ruined our relationship...a 5 year relationship. Him and I have remained good friends over the last year and have become closer. He tells me about their fights and when he's annoyed with her and when she's not making him happy. Yes, I know sending the pictures was wrong but it does make me feel somewhat good knowing he's coming to ME for them.

And there it is. No honey, HE ruined it. But you really don't want to hear that. You'd rather some guy turn to you and be "closer" while he is with/sleeping/in a relationship with someone else. Because half of a jackass is better than no jackass, right?

So really, is your life so pathetic that you "feel somewhat good" because he is asking you to send pictures of you naked? There's nothing else that can make you feel good about yourself? Really? This is the best way to feel good?

Please require more of yourself.

+++ infinity says the 50 year old who has seen this movie too many times before. Over. Done. Elvis has left the building.

Absolutely. OP, have some self-respect. Your lack of self-esteem is glaringly obvious.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I am 25. I know it comes off as immature and petty but this girl ruined our relationship...a 5 year relationship. Him and I have remained good friends over the last year and have become closer. He tells me about their fights and when he's annoyed with her and when she's not making him happy. Yes, I know sending the pictures was wrong but it does make me feel somewhat good knowing he's coming to ME for them.

And there it is. No honey, HE ruined it. But you really don't want to hear that. You'd rather some guy turn to you and be "closer" while he is with/sleeping/in a relationship with someone else. Because half of a jackass is better than no jackass, right?

So really, is your life so pathetic that you "feel somewhat good" because he is asking you to send pictures of you naked? There's nothing else that can make you feel good about yourself? Really? This is the best way to feel good?

Please require more of yourself.

+++ infinity says the 50 year old who has seen this movie too many times before. Over. Done. Elvis has left the building.

Anonymous wrote:OP Here: I am 25. I know it comes off as immature and petty but this girl ruined our relationship...a 5 year relationship. Him and I have remained good friends over the last year and have become closer. He tells me about their fights and when he's annoyed with her and when she's not making him happy. Yes, I know sending the pictures was wrong but it does make me feel somewhat good knowing he's coming to ME for them.

And there it is. No honey, HE ruined it. But you really don't want to hear that. You'd rather some guy turn to you and be "closer" while he is with/sleeping/in a relationship with someone else. Because half of a jackass is better than no jackass, right?

So really, is your life so pathetic that you "feel somewhat good" because he is asking you to send pictures of you naked? There's nothing else that can make you feel good about yourself? Really? This is the best way to feel good?

Please require more of yourself.

22:53 here...
Sounds like a reconciliation could be in the works.
Lucky guy that gets "sweet" texts!

keep us posted, interestin stuff

Anonymous wrote:OP...would you get physical with him if the chance arose?

OP here: Not if he was still with her. We have already discussed me going and visiting him sometime in December and I told him that nothing would happen if they were still together because I would not do that and he has said he would "take care of it" by then.

Anonymous wrote:Oh lord. I'm stepping away from this thread.

She's just baiting.

OP here: Baiting for what?

OP...would you get physical with him if the chance arose?

Oh lord. I'm stepping away from this thread.

She's just baiting.

OP Here: I am 25. I know it comes off as immature and petty but this girl ruined our relationship...a 5 year relationship. Him and I have remained good friends over the last year and have become closer. He tells me about their fights and when he's annoyed with her and when she's not making him happy. Yes, I know sending the pictures was wrong but it does make me feel somewhat good knowing he's coming to ME for them.

OP, are you 16? You're being ridiculous.

Seriously, are you even 20 years old? This whole thing is so immature and pathetic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wonder what he plans on doing with those pictures? Posting them online? Sending them to friends?

OP Here: I do not include ANY face in these pics. He got a boob pic with NOTHING that would show who I was and also a below the waist pic that again...wouldn't show who I was. I'm not that dumb.

Actually, you are. It really doesn't matter much that you do not include your face. You're missing the point: You're sending naked photos of yourself to a guy who cheated on you and is seeing someone else. Why do you think so little of yourself?

Oh god, send him the pictures. You want to, and you two deserve each other. Of course, he's not with you, he chose her, but he's so clearly truly in love with you.