Anonymous wrote:OP, you can't know for sure what kind of expenses they may have. Perhaps some of they racked up a lot of credit card debt which they are aggressively paying down but are too ashamed or embarrassed to say so, even to close friends. I guarantee you that such a scenario is far more common than you might expect. Maybe they are helping out a family member financially and again are reluctant to admit it to friends, either out of embarrassment or respect for the person. You just don't know.
Undoubtedly some of your friends have just not been as good as preparing financially for emergencies as they should have. In that case, have some compassion. They haven't been taught good financial management, or they have emotional reasons for spending that they haven't come to terms with, or whatever. Maybe they have just been careless. In any case, they are going to learn a tough lesson. Surely, you can muster some kind feelings toward friends?
Very well said. I have a friend in this situation -- she makes about #120 in a southern city with a low cost of living, but she has student debt and massive credit card debt from college, before she learned how to make good financial decisions. In her defense her parents had their own issues and didn't teach her, like mine did, not to spend what you don't have. So, though she makes more money than I do, she is constantly worried about money because of the debt. And yet, for her job, she also feels like she has to buy very nice clothes, go out for drinks with coworkers, etc. She is in sales and appearance is important. If she were furloughed for a month or two without a paycheck, she'd be in trouble.
Also, I wonder if when people say they can't "afford" a shutdown they mean they would actually be unable to make the rent, or would have to go into savings. I feel bad for people in the former category but I think it's the case for many. We are lucky to be in the latter category -- two GS-14s. We have savings, we just really, really don't want to use them, particularly as our first child is due in November and as feds we have to take unpaid leave for that anyway. But if we shut down we will have to dip into savings. We can cover our expenses on my DH's salary alone but not mine, and if we shut down there will be no money coming in at all. I know people have said that's what savings are there for, and of course that's right -- but it still really hurts when you hoped to keep it for a true emergency down the line, like unforeseen medical expenses. The annoying thing about the shutdown is that it's foreseeable and completely unnecessary. It shouldn't be an emergency. It shouldn't be happening in the first place.