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Anonymous wrote:The PP who keeps harping on this kid bringing bullying on himself because of his weight is undoubtably someone with food/body image issues of her own. There's no other excuse for her to be so aggressive about this. I sure hope she isn't teaching her kids that its OK to bully a child who is overweight.

No, I'm not. And I'm not a "her."

I'm not saying that the bullies' behavior is acceptable. I'm not saying there shouldn't be an intervention. I'm merely pointing out that one way -- the BEST way -- to fix the problem is to lose weight. I really don't understand why you don't think this is a beneficial idea. Unlike the lisp example, at least weight is something the target can control.

losing weight is an excellent health goal with excellent benefits.

it will not fix a bullying problem. the weight is a convenient excuse to bully. a bully will always find another excuse until stopped.

ignore the obsessive lose weight poster wrt fixing bullying... sure most of us will be healthier if we lose unneeded weight

YOu can and should advise your son, but at this point, as a freshman in high school, he needs to be his own advocate. You can work with him to role play either with members f the school administration, or with the bullies directly, but you should not be intervening on his behalf.

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With that said, the problem OP posted about was bullying. Nobody gets to bully OP's kid for any reason, whether it's weight, gender, sexual orientation, race or disability status. PP's blame the victim BS is either ignorance or (fairly clumsy) trolling.

Yes.

^^kidst =midst ^^

He is in the kidst of puberty At his age his hormones are running wild. Kids at this age can gain weight and lose weight quickly depending on their hormone levels. Many boys go through a fat stage at 13-14 only to become very lean at 17-18 when testosterone levels max out.

Encourage him to eat a healthy diet and to get some fairly exerting and sustained exercise 3 times each week to prevent a mildly overweight situation from morphing into one of morbid obesity.

As others have suggested, please inform the principal first Monday morning.

Anonymous wrote:What in hell is wrong with you people? The question is what to do about the son getting bullied, and so many people are answering saying the kid just needs to lose weight? I am now, officially, done with this site.

Don't let the door hit you in the ass.

Anonymous wrote:What in hell is wrong with you people? The question is what to do about the son getting bullied, and so many people are answering saying the kid just needs to lose weight? I am now, officially, done with this site.

I think its just one person.

What in hell is wrong with you people? The question is what to do about the son getting bullied, and so many people are answering saying the kid just needs to lose weight? I am now, officially, done with this site.

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Anonymous wrote:So, he's being picked on because he is fat?

Well, things HE can do include lose weight.

I suppose you could talk to the principal.

But the best thing for him to do would be to lose weight.

You are an idiot, PP.

OP talk with the principal. They should have anti-bullying policies in place. These often are disregarded. I remember that kid last year (I can't remember which local school) was being bullied and nothing happened until a reporter who was interviewing him caught him being smacked on the head by another kid. So keep on this.

I'm sorry for your son. I hope it gets better soon.

I'm an idiot for stating the obvious? Fuck no.

Fix the problem, not the blame. The problem is the weight gain. You think other kids consider a health issue when they see that? No.

The problem is the other kids' behavior.

No, actually. The problem appears to be the kid's weight. Yes, the other kids' behavior is a problem, but acting as if the kid's weight isn't contributing it is disengenuous. The quickest way to make this stop (which is the goal, right?) is to have the boy lose weight.

100% wrong.

I think at least 75% of Americans could stand to lose substantial weight --- including me (and probably PP). I'm at about 14% body fat and actively losing fat while lifting heavy

With that said, the problem OP posted about was bullying. Nobody gets to bully OP's kid for any reason, whether it's weight, gender, sexual orientation, race or disability status. PP's blame the victim BS is either ignorance or (fairly clumsy) trolling.

OP, talk to the school. As and AP at a different school recently told me, not only are there policies in place to deal with this, the administration probably sees jumping on this as a big part of their job.

Hmmm...this is high school. I'm not sure that telling on the bullies and getting them in trouble will do anything but make things worse for your son.
The administration definitely need to be aware of it but tread carefully here.
It's great that he is talking to you and yes, he is asking for help. The best thing he can do is ignore them, hold his head up and go about his business. He needs to treat their stupid comments as the nonsense it is.

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here

I meant 134lbs, not 184. No idea where the 8 came from. We are working towards maintaining this weight and dealing with it as much as he wants to, I'm not about to push him to lose weight if he does not want to. I was quite large as a kid and teen, and I realized a long time ago that unless I wanted to, I wouldn't be able to lose and maintain my own weight.

Bullshit

Why? This is the OP here, btw, I sometimes mess stuff up, like any human being.

OP, just ignore this guy. For some reason your posts have brought out the bully in him.

Do not be bashful!!! Report it to Pete Cahall or Andre' Williams, they will stop the bullying immediately!!!

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here

I meant 134lbs, not 184. No idea where the 8 came from. We are working towards maintaining this weight and dealing with it as much as he wants to, I'm not about to push him to lose weight if he does not want to. I was quite large as a kid and teen, and I realized a long time ago that unless I wanted to, I wouldn't be able to lose and maintain my own weight.

Bullshit

Why? This is the OP here, btw, I sometimes mess stuff up, like any human being.

There seem to be a lot of bullies on this thread. OP, listen to your son. The fact that he is sharing this with you rather than hiding it is a huge advantage. But it also means that he is looking for an advocate. And that's your job. Good luck.

Anonymous wrote:OP Here

I meant 134lbs, not 184. No idea where the 8 came from. We are working towards maintaining this weight and dealing with it as much as he wants to, I'm not about to push him to lose weight if he does not want to. I was quite large as a kid and teen, and I realized a long time ago that unless I wanted to, I wouldn't be able to lose and maintain my own weight.

Bullshit