Anonymous wrote:OP here again - OK, if the parents knew, I agree there isn't much the teacher could do. I don't expect her to sit next to the kid in the bathroom, comforting him. But what if the parents did not know? And I assume they didn't as otherwise they would have given him medication, no?

If I was called and told my DC has constipation, I would say to increase his water consumption and have him run around on the playground. Then that night, I would give him some prune juice if necessary. No medication needed.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again - OK, if the parents knew, I agree there isn't much the teacher could do. I don't expect her to sit next to the kid in the bathroom, comforting him. But what if the parents did not know? And I assume they didn't as otherwise they would have given him medication, no?

I would NOT give my kid medication because she had to strain extra hard to take a dump one day, no. Good lord, woman!

Seriously. Giving a kid medicine every time they have a little trouble leads to kids who can't poop without medicine. Just up fiber and liquid uptake. My daycare will mention at the end of the day if my kid is constipated, but I don't expect them to call me.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here again - OK, if the parents knew, I agree there isn't much the teacher could do. I don't expect her to sit next to the kid in the bathroom, comforting him. But what if the parents did not know? And I assume they didn't as otherwise they would have given him medication, no?

I would NOT give my kid medication because she had to strain extra hard to take a dump one day, no. Good lord, woman!

The parents could have given medicine, but miralax can take a few days to kick in. Also, I'm pretty sure NO preschooler is going to quietly take a suppository. So personally, I would never dream of bringing one to the school and using it on my kid.

I kind of think that pp's statement, that seem harsh, are just reminding us that our kids are pretty resilient and that while of course it's difficult to see (or hear from a teacher) that your child is upset, at the end of the day, he'll be okay. And at some point we want our kids to develop coping mechanisms apart from us, right?

Anonymous wrote:OP here again - OK, if the parents knew, I agree there isn't much the teacher could do. I don't expect her to sit next to the kid in the bathroom, comforting him. But what if the parents did not know? And I assume they didn't as otherwise they would have given him medication, no?

I would NOT give my kid medication because she had to strain extra hard to take a dump one day, no. Good lord, woman!

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Anonymous wrote:That sounds really crappy ( no pun intended). I'd expect them to call.

I would too PP. I'm horrified by the attitudes of a lot of other PP s in this thread towards their children. It's sad that they don't care that their kids are in pain and even worse that the parents don't care. I would want to know immediately and would expect a call.

If you send your child during the day to somewhere that is staffed by teachers, you can't get upset that they act like teachers and not parents. If you want your child to be comforted when upset and to have someone acting in the role of parent, then you either need to have a parent home or someone in loco parentis (aka a nanny).

Even if a child is just homesick and crying, which is common if not normal, they are trying to comfort him or her at least for a while, isn't it the case?

Sure, lots of teachers are caring, compassionate people however they are still not there to parent. Little kids need and want that comfort, attention, affection and presence of a parent of parent figure. It can be hard for infants, toddlers and preschoolers to go 8-10 hours a day without being parented. At that age there are so many needs that they can't yet meet on their own and that aren't a teacher's responsibility. A teacher is responsible for a group of students and is hired to keep this group safe and to provide activities and a stimulating environment, they aren't hired to act like parents.

OP here again - OK, if the parents knew, I agree there isn't much the teacher could do. I don't expect her to sit next to the kid in the bathroom, comforting him. But what if the parents did not know? And I assume they didn't as otherwise they would have given him medication, no?

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Anonymous wrote:That sounds really crappy ( no pun intended). I'd expect them to call.

I would too PP. I'm horrified by the attitudes of a lot of other PP s in this thread towards their children. It's sad that they don't care that their kids are in pain and even worse that the parents don't care. I would want to know immediately and would expect a call.

If you send your child during the day to somewhere that is staffed by teachers, you can't get upset that they act like teachers and not parents. If you want your child to be comforted when upset and to have someone acting in the role of parent, then you either need to have a parent home or someone in loco parentis (aka a nanny).

Even if a child is just homesick and crying, which is common if not normal, they are trying to comfort him or her at least for a while, isn't it the case?

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Anonymous wrote:That sounds really crappy ( no pun intended). I'd expect them to call.

I would too PP. I'm horrified by the attitudes of a lot of other PP s in this thread towards their children. It's sad that they don't care that their kids are in pain and even worse that the parents don't care. I would want to know immediately and would expect a call.

If you send your child during the day to somewhere that is staffed by teachers, you can't get upset that they act like teachers and not parents. If you want your child to be comforted when upset and to have someone acting in the role of parent, then you either need to have a parent home or someone in loco parentis (aka a nanny).

That is what happens when you send your precious children to be institutionalized. Don't blame the teacher, blame the system. That is how it works. Smiles and hugs to get your check, and then once you are gone....you will never know all that goes on.

No wonder kids grow up to be so angry and aggressive. Life isn't supposed to suck at 3 years old.

Anonymous wrote:What the hell was she supposed to do for him? She has other children to manage and he's not having a medical crisis.

Agree.....

Anonymous wrote:If a child is constipated - that is the parent's responsibility. it is a medical condition and not up to the teacher to deal with. What do you want her to do - manually disimpact him.

She is a teacher..a teacher, an educator.

AGREE.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here- so, I get it, I seem overreacting to many.
My next question is then- would they call ME about MY kid if I asked them?

OP, I think the only way you will know is if you ask. But will you also ask about any possible minor medical issue? Hangnails? Papercuts?

They will say they will.
My point is - call me if I can bring medication to relieve the symptoms.
I hope they are allowed to use bandaid on their own

Anonymous wrote:If you're having such frequent worries about this school, get out. It's not the only school in the area.

Whether or not this would bother anonymous jerks in an online forum is irrelevant. You're wary of this place. Respect that and move on.

Responses here make me think its pretty common, so what's the point of changing schools?
Also, maybe it's a teacher issue?

If you're having such frequent worries about this school, get out. It's not the only school in the area.

Whether or not this would bother anonymous jerks in an online forum is irrelevant. You're wary of this place. Respect that and move on.

Anonymous wrote:OP here- so, I get it, I seem overreacting to many.
My next question is then- would they call ME about MY kid if I asked them?

OP, I think the only way you will know is if you ask. But will you also ask about any possible minor medical issue? Hangnails? Papercuts?