Anonymous
05/16/2024 18:24
Subject: Re:Why do people hate kids graduations?
Anonymous wrote:Because as full time employees and grandparents of 7 kids the obligation to go to EVERYTHING is overwhelming, piano recitals, 30 seconds of jump rope, 5 minutes of track, ballet practice & recitals, play where your child introduces themselves and that is all, special lunch events for every Holiday, etc. etc. it is never ending and WE ARE TIRED. They say there is "no pressure" but there absolutely IS and the constant feeling of guilt if you are able to go to one child's event and not another sucks. While there are some things that are absolutely worth celebrating this is not one of them. Can we please celebrate actual achievements? I love my grands and want to support them but it is all too much.
You feel so strongly that you dug up an 11 year old thread?
Anonymous
05/16/2024 18:22
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
Because if you're not in your last year of high school or college, you are NOT graduating. Being promoted? Sure, but it's not a graduation.
DS is "graduating" from 8th grade today. His school is over the top, celebrating it as a real graduation, cap and gown, and everything else, including a full graduation ceremony. It's ridiculous. Some families take it so seriously. They will have every Grandma, grandpa and cousin possible in attendance. It's not a graduation. We go along with it to support our kid and celebrate the promotion to 9th grade but it's insane how over the top it is.
Yes, we knew this when we applied to the school.
DS is "graduating" from 8th grade today. His school is over the top, celebrating it as a real graduation, cap and gown, and everything else, including a full graduation ceremony. It's ridiculous. Some families take it so seriously. They will have every Grandma, grandpa and cousin possible in attendance. It's not a graduation. We go along with it to support our kid and celebrate the promotion to 9th grade but it's insane how over the top it is.
Yes, we knew this when we applied to the school.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 17:15
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
I don't hate them, but I do think a graduation ceremony for any class before middle school is overdoing it.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 17:12
Subject: Re:Why do people hate kids graduations?
Anonymous wrote:When I think about it, I least object to a celebration for the end of preschool. Calling it graduation is silly. But it's a big transition.
The "promotions" at the end of elementary and middle school are pretty dopey, in my opinion. Yay, you're moving to a new building because you have to!
Anonymous
05/16/2024 17:12
Subject: Re:Why do people hate kids graduations?
When I think about it, I lease object to a celebration for the end of preschool. Calling it graduation is silly. But it's a big transition.
The "promotions" at the end of elementary and middle school are pretty dopey, in my opinion. Yay, you're moving to a new building because you have to!
The "promotions" at the end of elementary and middle school are pretty dopey, in my opinion. Yay, you're moving to a new building because you have to!
Anonymous
05/16/2024 17:08
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I was invited to a Pre k graduation. The mom invited everyone in her office. There were 16 people there just from moms work for this one child.
Unless the mom's office was the administrative unit for the preschool this is seriously insane. Yes, many people believe their kids are the center of the universe, but it is in everyone's best interest, especially the child's, if we act like they are not.
+1
Anonymous
05/16/2024 16:29
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
Anonymous wrote:I have heard 3 times this week that various people hate pre k and K graduations. Why all the hate
One mom with twins in K said she hated attending their Pre K grad (she was proud just thought it was obnoxious) and is dreading another graduation at the end of K. Her older daughter will also be graduating from 2nd at her school. The school her kids go to have large graduation ceremonies for pre k, k ,2nd, and 5th.
Why do you hate graduations?
Because they are ludicrous and stupid.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 16:24
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
For me it was because it was just one more event that I was expected to take time off work to attend in the middle of the work day. There are so many things the schools ask mom's to do, expect moms to do, and expect mom to take care of during the day, and it's SO hard to do at those ages because it feels like if they aren't home sick the school needed me at school for some event.
Dad's don't get the pressure to attend everything in the same way.
Dad's don't get the pressure to attend everything in the same way.
Anonymous
05/16/2024 16:24
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
I was ready to type out a manifesto on this subject before I realized you meant little kid graduations. Last year my kid’s hs graduation was well over two hours in the blazing son and included an (extremely) extended version of free bird on an electric “keytar.”
Anonymous
05/16/2024 16:20
Subject: Re:Why do people hate kids graduations?
Because as full time employees and grandparents of 7 kids the obligation to go to EVERYTHING is overwhelming, piano recitals, 30 seconds of jump rope, 5 minutes of track, ballet practice & recitals, play where your child introduces themselves and that is all, special lunch events for every Holiday, etc. etc. it is never ending and WE ARE TIRED. They say there is "no pressure" but there absolutely IS and the constant feeling of guilt if you are able to go to one child's event and not another sucks. While there are some things that are absolutely worth celebrating this is not one of them. Can we please celebrate actual achievements? I love my grands and want to support them but it is all too much.
Anonymous
09/03/2013 20:00
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
Anonymous wrote:OP -- I happen to love celebration and found the 4-day Princeton graduation festiities my dd had in June to be fabulous. I've never seen anything like it...but I went to a state university and we didn't even have our names read.
Some people don't want to celebrate life's little moments. I think too they don't want to buy someone a gift every time they turn around. So maybe if people said they just wanted to celebrate and have a party with no gifts...that might stop some of the "hating" you reference.
Your "child's" graduation from an Ivy (nice job working that in!) isn't what OP was talking about.
Anonymous
09/03/2013 18:17
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
Anonymous wrote:I agree. High school and college draduation are expected in my family. You'll get a cute gift but graduating isn't really and option... So get thru kindergarten is not even up for discussion.
This. High school was expected as was college. The only special ceremony I went to was my call to the bar. Law school graduation coincided with a compulsory articling class (Canada) and it was out of town so I didn't go.
Anonymous
09/03/2013 18:05
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
Anonymous wrote:they're usually made out of construction paper.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mortarboards for preschoolers are just stupid. Have a little party, fine. Mimic a grown-up ceremony, dumb. It's overvaluing something that's not a real accomplishment.
The cap and gown industry is happy with this celebration.
not the ones I have seen
Anonymous
09/03/2013 18:01
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
they're usually made out of construction paper.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mortarboards for preschoolers are just stupid. Have a little party, fine. Mimic a grown-up ceremony, dumb. It's overvaluing something that's not a real accomplishment.
The cap and gown industry is happy with this celebration.
Anonymous
09/03/2013 17:44
Subject: Why do people hate kids graduations?
I agree. High school and college draduation are expected in my family. You'll get a cute gift but graduating isn't really and option... So get thru kindergarten is not even up for discussion.