Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 12:47     Subject: Re:social smoking
I think it's kind of more of an issue that you are comfortable lying to your husband about this. I don't need my DH to tell me everything, but if he point blank lied to my face about this, I would be very angry. It's behavior that can affect everyone, in theory--it's risky behavior, and as a spouse I think I'd have a right to know. And the lying is reflective of the liar's character.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 12:40     Subject: social smoking
Maybe her husband has nasal polyps or something that has stamped out his ability to smell. I remember before smoking in restaurants was banned, just going in to a building where others were smoking on the other side would make me smell! I'd come home and smell stale cigarettes on my hair and clothes and have to shower before bed.

Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 12:39     Subject: social smoking
People who smoke are smelly (and yes - you DO stink after even just 1 cig), dirty, and selfish. And stupid, because everyone knows the health risks to themselves and others around them.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 12:08     Subject: social smoking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
maril332 wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You won't get much love for smoking on an upscale mom forum, obviously. Loitering outside a bar smoking a few times a week doesn't make you look any less trashy than an addict sucking them down by the office loading dock on the hour, not to mention some hillbilly flicking one out of a pickup truck.

If you want to have a roguish smoking habit, own it. Subsequently seeking salvation of your self esteem here will disappoint. And I'd be surprised if your husband were surprised that you smoke. And don't bother applying for life insurance until five years after you stop.

Sure, I'm a little bitter that I was a tobacco junkie and could never smoke in moderation for long. In sustaining your mild habit, you have a rare capability. But a lot of people still render you a scumbag anyway.



Okay... point one out to me and I'll be sure not to ask them about my "addiction".





If you aren't addicted, then why would you continue to smoke? Can you go out with friends for the next year and not smoke socially? Once you actually do that, not just say you could, come back and tell us that you did it.



Not the op, but another social smoker. I do it because smoking is FUN! You can ask the same question about drinking...If your not addicted why would you have a few drinks when your out with your friends? Since you do so, it must mean your addicted!


+1. Smoking and having deep conversations is fun.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 11:37     Subject: social smoking
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Man, I love social smoking.


So do I. Miss it so much. Makes me wish I lived in Europe, where it's more socially acceptable.


I miss it too. Husband misses it even more.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 11:27     Subject: social smoking
Anonymous wrote:Man, I love social smoking.


So do I. Miss it so much. Makes me wish I lived in Europe, where it's more socially acceptable.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 11:27     Subject: social smoking
She's not lying to him. He probably hasn't thought to ask
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 11:23     Subject: social smoking
Man, I love social smoking.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 10:42     Subject: social smoking
maril332 wrote:Ok, just asked DH "do I smell like smoke". He said "No, why would you? You don't smoke."


I think if I did smoke to an extent that he knew about it, we would have had an all out war.


Is it better to be a liar than a smoker? So now when he catches you, there will be an all out war because A)you smoke and B) his wife lies to him.

My husband used to lie to me about smoking. It was so stupid. I was really pissed that he thought I was too dumb to realize that I could smell it on him. There have been all out wars in my house because he lies about smoking.

I don't believe that when you return home from smoking that he can't smell it.

Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 10:07     Subject: social smoking
Anonymous wrote:
maril332 wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You won't get much love for smoking on an upscale mom forum, obviously. Loitering outside a bar smoking a few times a week doesn't make you look any less trashy than an addict sucking them down by the office loading dock on the hour, not to mention some hillbilly flicking one out of a pickup truck.

If you want to have a roguish smoking habit, own it. Subsequently seeking salvation of your self esteem here will disappoint. And I'd be surprised if your husband were surprised that you smoke. And don't bother applying for life insurance until five years after you stop.

Sure, I'm a little bitter that I was a tobacco junkie and could never smoke in moderation for long. In sustaining your mild habit, you have a rare capability. But a lot of people still render you a scumbag anyway.



Okay... point one out to me and I'll be sure not to ask them about my "addiction".





If you aren't addicted, then why would you continue to smoke? Can you go out with friends for the next year and not smoke socially? Once you actually do that, not just say you could, come back and tell us that you did it.



Not the op, but another social smoker. I do it because smoking is FUN! You can ask the same question about drinking...If your not addicted why would you have a few drinks when your out with your friends? Since you do so, it must mean your addicted!
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 06:38     Subject: social smoking
maril332 wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You won't get much love for smoking on an upscale mom forum, obviously. Loitering outside a bar smoking a few times a week doesn't make you look any less trashy than an addict sucking them down by the office loading dock on the hour, not to mention some hillbilly flicking one out of a pickup truck.

If you want to have a roguish smoking habit, own it. Subsequently seeking salvation of your self esteem here will disappoint. And I'd be surprised if your husband were surprised that you smoke. And don't bother applying for life insurance until five years after you stop.

Sure, I'm a little bitter that I was a tobacco junkie and could never smoke in moderation for long. In sustaining your mild habit, you have a rare capability. But a lot of people still render you a scumbag anyway.



Okay... point one out to me and I'll be sure not to ask them about my "addiction".





If you aren't addicted, then why would you continue to smoke? Can you go out with friends for the next year and not smoke socially? Once you actually do that, not just say you could, come back and tell us that you did it.
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 02:00     Subject: social smoking
maril332 wrote:is this as "gross" "horrifying" and other exaggerated words that "chain" smokers are called?

I have been smoking for about 2 years about 3 cigs a night while out with friends. I don't reek of smoke and my teeth aren't yellow. I know it is still a risk and also second and third hand smoke but is "social smoking" as stigmatized as being just a smoker plain and simple?


Yes you do
Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 01:51     Subject: social smoking
maril332 wrote:nope not in denial. I stated that I smoke. When someone asks I say "socially". In order to not be in denial do I need to check myself into a clinic to show that I want "help". Quite honestly I don't see anything wrong with smoking in moderation. Less than a pack a month isn't terrible. There was a week when I went through almost a whole pack. I had to backpedal and reevaluate because I did not want to be a chain smoker. So I know what I'm doing, I just don't think it makes me a trashy, uneducated, immature slut.


I also partake. I know that by some DCUM standards this makes me the anti christ.



Not really. Like I said, just dumb.
maril332
Post 08/28/2013 00:22     Subject: social smoking
nope not in denial. I stated that I smoke. When someone asks I say "socially". In order to not be in denial do I need to check myself into a clinic to show that I want "help". Quite honestly I don't see anything wrong with smoking in moderation. Less than a pack a month isn't terrible. There was a week when I went through almost a whole pack. I had to backpedal and reevaluate because I did not want to be a chain smoker. So I know what I'm doing, I just don't think it makes me a trashy, uneducated, immature slut.


I also partake. I know that by some DCUM standards this makes me the anti christ.

Anonymous
Post 08/28/2013 00:17     Subject: social smoking
OP, you're in denial.

Yes you smell. He doesn't notice because he thinks your smell comes from other ppl smoking around you since he knows you're out and about drinking.

Smoking is gross and dumb.