Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone else's birthday isn't about you, OP.

While I am not Jewish, a LOT of my friends are and I tend to be conscious of the major Jewish holidays. But there are also some times when despite that knowledge I have no choice but to schedule something on a Jewish holiday, because of some other factor that was important and just couldn't be scheduled any other way. Sorry about that. I understand that you may not be able to attend, but thought it would be more rude to not include your child than to include you, let you decide how important that holiday was for you, and let you accept or politely inclined. If you would prefer that we exclude your child from future invitations if we think you might be unavailable, we can do so.

Substitute the word "Christian" and then instead of Yom Kippur say the holiday is Christmas. The briskly, let's generously call it matter-of-fact tone likely would not apply then. Scheduling a part on THE main Jewish holiday is a faux pas if some of your invitees are Jewish.

Anonymous wrote:Someone else's birthday isn't about you, OP.

While I am not Jewish, a LOT of my friends are and I tend to be conscious of the major Jewish holidays. But there are also some times when despite that knowledge I have no choice but to schedule something on a Jewish holiday, because of some other factor that was important and just couldn't be scheduled any other way. Sorry about that. I understand that you may not be able to attend, but thought it would be more rude to not include your child than to include you, let you decide how important that holiday was for you, and let you accept or politely inclined. If you would prefer that we exclude your child from future invitations if we think you might be unavailable, we can do so.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of non-Jews don't quite understand that Yom Kippur is our MOST religious and important day of the year. It is to us what Christmas is to them. Maybe if people understood that more they would be less likely to schedule things on that day. The other Jewish holidays aren't as big of a deal, but I think people would be pretty annoyed if I scheduled my child's party on Christmas.

We were recently invited to an adult evening event on Yom Kippur. There were lots of other dates the host could have chose. I think they really don't understand the importance of this holiday to those who are Jewish.

Not everyone knows that Yom Kippur is so important. I know there are many Jewish holidays and I work with many Jewish people, but I don't know the "weight" of each individual holiday. I'm Muslim and also don't expect anyone should be aware of which are our holidays and which are weighted higher. I would not be offended if someone invited us to a birthday party on a Muslim holiday. I would just decline.

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of non-Jews don't quite understand that Yom Kippur is our MOST religious and important day of the year. It is to us what Christmas is to them. Maybe if people understood that more they would be less likely to schedule things on that day. The other Jewish holidays aren't as big of a deal, but I think people would be pretty annoyed if I scheduled my child's party on Christmas.

We were recently invited to an adult evening event on Yom Kippur. There were lots of other dates the host could have chose. I think they really don't understand the importance of this holiday to those who are Jewish.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone else's birthday isn't about you, OP.

While I am not Jewish, a LOT of my friends are and I tend to be conscious of the major Jewish holidays. But there are also some times when despite that knowledge I have no choice but to schedule something on a Jewish holiday, because of some other factor that was important and just couldn't be scheduled any other way. Sorry about that. I understand that you may not be able to attend, but thought it would be more rude to not include your child than to include you, let you decide how important that holiday was for you, and let you accept or politely inclined. If you would prefer that we exclude your child from future invitations if we think you might be unavailable, we can do so.

This.

Anonymous wrote:I feel like most people I know who are not religious, whatever they may have been raised with, are not that tuned in to religious holidays period. If my friends throw a party on Good Friday or Easter, I'm not going to attend, but I'm not going to be pissed off either, because I know that they are not religious so they weren't aware of it. Heck, I have a friend who is Jewish but not super observant who scheduled her wedding for a Jewish holiday without realizing it until it was too late, and some close family members weren't able to attend.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. Op here. I was unclear.

We were invited. And are Jewish. As, oddly enough, is the birthdays girls dad.

My daughter was just so excited as it is one if her best friends and it came home in the agenda.

Anonymous wrote:Someone else's birthday isn't about you, OP.

While I am not Jewish, a LOT of my friends are and I tend to be conscious of the major Jewish holidays. But there are also some times when despite that knowledge I have no choice but to schedule something on a Jewish holiday, because of some other factor that was important and just couldn't be scheduled any other way. Sorry about that. I understand that you may not be able to attend, but thought it would be more rude to not include your child than to include you, let you decide how important that holiday was for you, and let you accept or politely inclined. If you would prefer that we exclude your child from future invitations if we think you might be unavailable, we can do so.