To me (and I am not your target audience I suspect, I'm an early 40 something married woman with kids) you come across as way too self-involved. The idea that your musical tastes, your vintage porsche, and your scotch drinking--excuse me, Laphroig, neat-- somehow defines you as a person---much less as someone 'odd' or out of step or unique--is amusing. The fact that you dropped in being on the high school football team (but yet apart from it) and that you don't really care about money (and yet--there's an inheritance) and that you happen to be oh so good looking is a bunch of faux modesty. The fact that you think these things somehow convey something of importance about you--and that you share nothing of your values, interests, life experiences--is also telling.

While a list of attributes on an anonymous message board surely cannot convey the intricacies of a person, the story you construct about yourself sounds a hell of a lot like a well-crafted personal ad. Moreover, it's clear to me that you're not really worried that you're a weirdo. You are seeking out feedback, admiration, positive reinforcement, hoping to elicit exactly the responses you are mostly getting (wow, such an interesting, deep, soulful type--why is he done?). But carefully constructed self-image in need of constant reinforcement, even from strangers, is a total turn-off. Dating someone like that is exhausting and pointless--there's no room for anyone else.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, since you used the preposterously absurd term "whilst", i am assuming you are the same poster who stated a month ago that he would never, ever give up his seat for anyone, handicapped, pregnant or otherwise on the Metro. In which case, yes, you are a weirdo. Actually, worse, you are _________ (fill in the blank time ladies!).

Holy shit. Not me.
Wtf

Now this is the first time you appear not to be trying too hard to impress. Relax...loosen up...laugh at something stupid. People.who take themselves too seriously make other people uncomfortable. I've been on a couple first dates with people like that and they were miserable.

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Anonymous wrote:I think you are fine. You are an old soul, as a pp put it. Just carry on being yourself, most people are screwed up anyway. You gotta get through the bad to get to the good so keep on plugging away. If you had great & loving parents it makes you realize how effed up people are so you tend not to identify with folks easily, therefore you see people are fundamentally flawed much earlier in a relationship than most people.

You'll get along fine with people like this who describes others like you as an "old soul". ITA that you take yourself VERY SERIOUSLY and people like you generally lack any sense of irony or humor about themselves. Not fun to be around honestly.

Ha ha! This is the pp you are quoting, I'm really sarcastic. And mean. Insecure folks like you probably take my humor way to seriously. Joking with an insecure person is like lighting a match in a gasoline factory.

Anonymous wrote:Well, since you used the preposterously absurd term "whilst", i am assuming you are the same poster who stated a month ago that he would never, ever give up his seat for anyone, handicapped, pregnant or otherwise on the Metro. In which case, yes, you are a weirdo. Actually, worse, you are _________ (fill in the blank time ladies!).

Holy shit. Not me.
Wtf

Anonymous wrote:I think you are fine. You are an old soul, as a pp put it. Just carry on being yourself, most people are screwed up anyway. You gotta get through the bad to get to the good so keep on plugging away. If you had great & loving parents it makes you realize how effed up people are so you tend not to identify with folks easily, therefore you see people are fundamentally flawed much earlier in a relationship than most people.

You'll get along fine with people like this who describes others like you as an "old soul". ITA that you take yourself VERY SERIOUSLY and people like you generally lack any sense of irony or humor about themselves. Not fun to be around honestly.

You sound pretty interesting and well rounded to me.

If you substituted Americana or folk music for the type of music you do like, you sound perfect

except for the fact that you are posting on a parents forum which is a little suspect to me.

Or maybe someone (a sister or a friend) posted this profile on your behalf just to get some input.

Also, I would want to know - what type of job do you have and where did you go to college?

Anonymous wrote:No I just meant sometimes I really want to make a difference (positively) & other times I just don't care. Not trying to be deep. Weird posting = typing on an iPhone.

friends who are brutally honest? They think I should be nailing all of the women I work with / at my gym...and that confidence is my issue.

I spent a long time in a (codependent) relationship with an older woman. It's been really hard since.

Thank you all for the replies.

Are you purpously skipping me?

30 what? Any kids?

Past relationships?

Buh bye OP!

Well, since you used the preposterously absurd term "whilst", i am assuming you are the same poster who stated a month ago that he would never, ever give up his seat for anyone, handicapped, pregnant or otherwise on the Metro. In which case, yes, you are a weirdo. Actually, worse, you are _________ (fill in the blank time ladies!).

I think you are fine. You are an old soul, as a pp put it. Just carry on being yourself, most people are screwed up anyway. You gotta get through the bad to get to the good so keep on plugging away. If you had great & loving parents it makes you realize how effed up people are so you tend not to identify with folks easily, therefore you see people are fundamentally flawed much earlier in a relationship than most people.

No I just meant sometimes I really want to make a difference (positively) & other times I just don't care. Not trying to be deep. Weird posting = typing on an iPhone.

friends who are brutally honest? They think I should be nailing all of the women I work with / at my gym...and that confidence is my issue.

I spent a long time in a (codependent) relationship with an older woman. It's been really hard since.

Thank you all for the replies.

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Anonymous wrote:I swear I'm not pretentious. But yeah, I def have a tendency to take everything too seriously. I also find myself getting way into anything I find interesting.

boring is okay, I guess. What do people think is exciting? I was in a touring punk rock band at 19. Raced motocross for a few years as a kid.

One of the first posters nailed the 'confidence' thing. I don't know what people mean when they take about confidence. For real - what does that mean?

Sometimes I wanna save the world and sometimes I wanna see it burn.

Thanks

OK, now you sound weird. But I know plenty of weird women, so there's one out there for you somewhere.

Nah, he was just trying to be deep.

Do you have any close friends who can be honest with you? Are you a bit of a loner?