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Anonymous wrote:Your ex tried to get out of it gracefully, and you pushed it.

I agree. Your DD asked to go when she wasn't invited. Your ex kind of balked and that's when I would've told DD that it probably isn't the best idea. The new GF really had no say in the matter so I can understand why she was upset. Next time, teach your DD not to invite herself and all will be fine.

GF, is that you?

What? So op gets to be the bad guy bc the dad screwed up? No.

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Anonymous wrote:You answered fine. She had no business pulling you aside like that. Next time, stop the conversation and call your ex over:

(Out of earshot of your kid)
"Jack, Susie here seems to be confused. Let's clear this up. When you were talking on the phone with Larla earlier, it was you that brought up the museum visit and invited her along. Susie seems to think I orchestrated this outing when we know that's not how it happened. Susie, is there anything else I can clear up for you?

Damn lady, you're good at this. Can you come to work and help me deal with the @ssholes there?

While the GF was certainly out of line, you don't know the behind the scenes thoughts in her head. Maybe she was planning this as a fun day to tell her kids that she and Ex were getting serious, or to see how they all interacted in such a situation. Or maybe it was a reward for one of her kids for some special accomplishment.

You need to talk to the GF about why she felt that way, if she was just being a bitch then Ex needs to put his foot down about how he will see his kids any chance he has and if she doesn't like it then don't let the door hit you on the way out. But if she had a plausible reason then let her know that Ex will see his kids any chance he gets, but until they are married there will be times that it might be understandable that his kids aren't included.

Its up to Ex to say no to DD and deal with his mistakes. Not mama and certainly not Girlfriend. Definitely talk to Ex if you haven't already about the entire exchange with Girlfriend and with Ex, tell Girlfriend those kinds of conversations are out of bounds and you will have to stop any future talks. Ex needs to be on his game here.

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Anonymous wrote:I just think your DD needs to learn that she can't just invite herself on outings. If they had wanted her to come, they would've asked her to come.

Are you the trolling GF?
What the hell is wrong with people. Kids deserve 100% parents. Now parents firgure it out!.

OP here. I agree, my kids get 100 percent of us and I am kinda surprised how many ppl blame my DD for "inviting herself" to a kid centered outing. But I am her mom so I know I wear rose colored glasses.