Anonymous
08/05/2013 18:32
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:This thread (though depressing) is the best thing I've read in a while. I've always felt like it was just me who was struggling to go to work each day and hated every second I spent there.
I moved to accept a position as a manager/buyer that was completely fictionalized. I do NOTHING all day. Not a thing. I'm supposed to be a manager, but with two bosses who are micromanaging, petty, lying, misleading, and downright abusive I feel like I'm in an asylum.
There is no morale, let alone low morale. The boss talks about everyone behind their back, or makes snide remarks to other employees about someone within earshot. Then the boss acts like everyone is their best friend! It's insane! I legitimately think that my boss is a sociopath.
There are other possible legality issues that I've yet to explore in detail. I'm fairly certain that a lot of the staff are taken advantage of in terms of how many hours they work and how they're actually compensated. If you question anything, however, the boss makes your life a living hell.
I stay because, like most previous posters, I have to financially. I look at other jobs constantly. I look at jobs far away.
In the beginning I turned to drinking to handle it. I've stopped that now because it only fuels my resentment, anger, depression, and anxiety. I try to have a positive attitude and I try to keep morale high with the employees, but it's emotionally exhausting when everyone is being mistreated and basically called stupid.
There's a huge staff turnover because no one can deal with our boss. Of course, he refuses to belief it's him and blames whichever staff member most recently left on anything that's gone wrong in the past few weeks or months.
It's awful and I don't want to go back tomorrow. It is nice to see that many people have managed to get out of this same position I'm in. I need to soon before I go berserk.
Wow sounds crazy, what industry is this? What jobs are your coworkers doing where they are being taken advantage of? Accounting? Do they know you have hardly any work yet they have too much? Good luck with putting up with the job.
Anonymous
08/05/2013 01:09
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
What do you do?
This thread makes me realize how lucky I am to have (finally) found a job I love
I'm always quite fascinated when people say they love their jobs. How do you "love" working all day for a living? Wouldn't you rather be doing something else? There's so much to do and explore in life and we all spend SO much of our short precious lives working. It's such a shame. Necessary I know, but a shame. My job is okay. I can't see ever loving going to work though. Do some people really prefer to be working than being free?
I enjoy my time off immensely, but I'm someone who loves their job and wouldn't trade it for doing something else. Every day I wake up looking forward to what I do and feeling challenged and appreciated. Every day is a little different, and I get to help people. Also, I'm just someone who gets bored staying home for too long.
What do you do for a living?
I counsel college and graduate students. I'm a psychologist.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 23:35
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
This thread (though depressing) is the best thing I've read in a while. I've always felt like it was just me who was struggling to go to work each day and hated every second I spent there.
I moved to accept a position as a manager/buyer that was completely fictionalized. I do NOTHING all day. Not a thing. I'm supposed to be a manager, but with two bosses who are micromanaging, petty, lying, misleading, and downright abusive I feel like I'm in an asylum.
There is no morale, let alone low morale. The boss talks about everyone behind their back, or makes snide remarks to other employees about someone within earshot. Then the boss acts like everyone is their best friend! It's insane! I legitimately think that my boss is a sociopath.
There are other possible legality issues that I've yet to explore in detail. I'm fairly certain that a lot of the staff are taken advantage of in terms of how many hours they work and how they're actually compensated. If you question anything, however, the boss makes your life a living hell.
I stay because, like most previous posters, I have to financially. I look at other jobs constantly. I look at jobs far away.
In the beginning I turned to drinking to handle it. I've stopped that now because it only fuels my resentment, anger, depression, and anxiety. I try to have a positive attitude and I try to keep morale high with the employees, but it's emotionally exhausting when everyone is being mistreated and basically called stupid.
There's a huge staff turnover because no one can deal with our boss. Of course, he refuses to belief it's him and blames whichever staff member most recently left on anything that's gone wrong in the past few weeks or months.
It's awful and I don't want to go back tomorrow. It is nice to see that many people have managed to get out of this same position I'm in. I need to soon before I go berserk.
I moved to accept a position as a manager/buyer that was completely fictionalized. I do NOTHING all day. Not a thing. I'm supposed to be a manager, but with two bosses who are micromanaging, petty, lying, misleading, and downright abusive I feel like I'm in an asylum.
There is no morale, let alone low morale. The boss talks about everyone behind their back, or makes snide remarks to other employees about someone within earshot. Then the boss acts like everyone is their best friend! It's insane! I legitimately think that my boss is a sociopath.
There are other possible legality issues that I've yet to explore in detail. I'm fairly certain that a lot of the staff are taken advantage of in terms of how many hours they work and how they're actually compensated. If you question anything, however, the boss makes your life a living hell.
I stay because, like most previous posters, I have to financially. I look at other jobs constantly. I look at jobs far away.
In the beginning I turned to drinking to handle it. I've stopped that now because it only fuels my resentment, anger, depression, and anxiety. I try to have a positive attitude and I try to keep morale high with the employees, but it's emotionally exhausting when everyone is being mistreated and basically called stupid.
There's a huge staff turnover because no one can deal with our boss. Of course, he refuses to belief it's him and blames whichever staff member most recently left on anything that's gone wrong in the past few weeks or months.
It's awful and I don't want to go back tomorrow. It is nice to see that many people have managed to get out of this same position I'm in. I need to soon before I go berserk.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 22:48
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Hate my job.
Have nothing to do 80% of the time since my boss is a non-delegator and even though I ask, it's like, um never given me stuff to do. Highly underutilized and ignored.
Can surf or do other stuff, because in a cube filled office with no privacy.
Not enough parking spots, so first come first serve. Arrive late and you have to park 1/4 mile away.
No windows in building. Kitchen is lame...(i.e. they don't provide any cups so you have to bring your own for water/coffee). Freezing.
Wish this were the case at my office. We so need to clean house.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 22:46
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Hate my job.
Have nothing to do 80% of the time since my boss is a non-delegator and even though I ask, it's like, um never given me stuff to do. Highly underutilized and ignored.
Can surf or do other stuff, because in a cube filled office with no privacy.
Not enough parking spots, so first come first serve. Arrive late and you have to park 1/4 mile away.
No windows in building. Kitchen is lame...(i.e. they don't provide any cups so you have to bring your own for water/coffee). Freezing.
Have nothing to do 80% of the time since my boss is a non-delegator and even though I ask, it's like, um never given me stuff to do. Highly underutilized and ignored.
Can surf or do other stuff, because in a cube filled office with no privacy.
Not enough parking spots, so first come first serve. Arrive late and you have to park 1/4 mile away.
No windows in building. Kitchen is lame...(i.e. they don't provide any cups so you have to bring your own for water/coffee). Freezing.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 22:13
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
What do you do?
This thread makes me realize how lucky I am to have (finally) found a job I love
I'm always quite fascinated when people say they love their jobs. How do you "love" working all day for a living? Wouldn't you rather be doing something else? There's so much to do and explore in life and we all spend SO much of our short precious lives working. It's such a shame. Necessary I know, but a shame. My job is okay. I can't see ever loving going to work though. Do some people really prefer to be working than being free?
We have some really old people who come to work because they don't have anything else to do if they retired. So I guess they don't like being free.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 22:09
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
What do you do?
This thread makes me realize how lucky I am to have (finally) found a job I love
I'm always quite fascinated when people say they love their jobs. How do you "love" working all day for a living? Wouldn't you rather be doing something else? There's so much to do and explore in life and we all spend SO much of our short precious lives working. It's such a shame. Necessary I know, but a shame. My job is okay. I can't see ever loving going to work though. Do some people really prefer to be working than being free?
I enjoy my time off immensely, but I'm someone who loves their job and wouldn't trade it for doing something else. Every day I wake up looking forward to what I do and feeling challenged and appreciated. Every day is a little different, and I get to help people. Also, I'm just someone who gets bored staying home for too long.
What do you do for a living?
Anonymous
08/04/2013 21:40
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
I hated my job as a federal contractor(engineer) but couldn't find anything better. Got laid off so now I get to be broke AND miserable.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 21:31
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
What do you do?
This thread makes me realize how lucky I am to have (finally) found a job I love
I'm always quite fascinated when people say they love their jobs. How do you "love" working all day for a living? Wouldn't you rather be doing something else? There's so much to do and explore in life and we all spend SO much of our short precious lives working. It's such a shame. Necessary I know, but a shame. My job is okay. I can't see ever loving going to work though. Do some people really prefer to be working than being free?
17:05 again...
My friend, William Cumpiano, who I quote above (a master luthier) told me many years ago that he doesn't understand people who live lives where "life" and work are separate and they hate "work".... his life is his work. He does what he loves. We should all be so lucky.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 21:28
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
What do you do?
This thread makes me realize how lucky I am to have (finally) found a job I love
I'm always quite fascinated when people say they love their jobs. How do you "love" working all day for a living? Wouldn't you rather be doing something else? There's so much to do and explore in life and we all spend SO much of our short precious lives working. It's such a shame. Necessary I know, but a shame. My job is okay. I can't see ever loving going to work though. Do some people really prefer to be working than being free?
I enjoy my time off immensely, but I'm someone who loves their job and wouldn't trade it for doing something else. Every day I wake up looking forward to what I do and feeling challenged and appreciated. Every day is a little different, and I get to help people. Also, I'm just someone who gets bored staying home for too long.
Anonymous
08/04/2013 21:15
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
What do you do?
This thread makes me realize how lucky I am to have (finally) found a job I love
I'm always quite fascinated when people say they love their jobs. How do you "love" working all day for a living? Wouldn't you rather be doing something else? There's so much to do and explore in life and we all spend SO much of our short precious lives working. It's such a shame. Necessary I know, but a shame. My job is okay. I can't see ever loving going to work though. Do some people really prefer to be working than being free?
Anonymous
08/04/2013 07:32
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
What do you do?
This thread makes me realize how lucky I am to have (finally) found a job I love
Anonymous
08/03/2013 23:00
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Despise my toxic, dysfunctional office. Trying to find a way out. Will likely mean a career change but I need more of a financial cushion before I can leap. In the meantime I hope my husband or I don't end up having a heart attack or breakdown. I was so angry the other day I took a sick day and kept my toddler home from daycare and celebrated my husband's birthday with the family. Greatest day I have had in a while. Not a long term solution but put some energy back in the tank.
Anonymous
08/01/2013 21:46
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Anonymous wrote:Just gave my notice to leave my toxic job today! I'm just switching practice areas within the agency, so it isn't a big move, but still, it's something. Bitch boss had the nerve to tell me that where I'm going it will be worse. As if! Everyone knows she's the worst boss in the entire department. Completely delusional and abusive. Oh, and she's also another who is way past retirement. What is wrong with these people?!
17:05 Et seq. here ....
good luck ... some of these are clueless myopic narcissistic managers past their prime ... others are younger narcissistic clueless types ... lack of self-awareness and humility seems to be the common thread I observed in 33+ yrs. of legal practice/ 26 yrs. of federal practice.
FWIW, I can offer words of wisdom from someone who has been my friend for more than 35 yrs. and is an acknowledged master in his field, luthier William Cumpiano.
www.cumpiano.com
Substitute whatever word or field is appropriate where he mentions "guitarmaking" and these are words to live by (IMO/IME):
BEGINNER’S MIND
A crucial necessity to survival and success in guitarmaking is an appropriate attitude. I learned this from the greatest living guitarmaker, Manuel Velasquez, who told me, in his seventies, that he considered himself "still a student." After almost fifty years of guitarmaking, I realized the man had survived and prospered because he still had a beginner’s mind, and was not at all interested in whether he was or was not a "master."
The old Zen masters called a "beginner’s mind" an attitude that your knowledge is never sufficient or complete, and thus you must be perennially receptive to receiving a lesson at any time and from wherever you are and whatever it is that you do. So "beginner’s mind" is essentially a posture of humility towards what it is that you are trying to master--to accept that you are ignorant, essentially--and you are a student who is striving towards a state of lessened ignorance—rather than toward a state of mastery. Without a beginner’s mind you can’t master anything.
~~~~~~~~~~~\
Good luck & peace to all...
Anonymous
08/01/2013 21:04
Subject: Anyone else really unhappy in your work?
Just gave my notice to leave my toxic job today! I'm just switching practice areas within the agency, so it isn't a big move, but still, it's something. Bitch boss had the nerve to tell me that where I'm going it will be worse. As if! Everyone knows she's the worst boss in the entire department. Completely delusional and abusive. Oh, and she's also another who is way past retirement. What is wrong with these people?!