Such an easy fix--why not allow it if she's unhappy? She may not even do it that often if she starts at a young age. DD can go for weeks or months without thinking about it.

DD mentioned this at 9 after a friend said she had hairy legs. She's now 10 and hasn't mentioned it in about a year. I'll probably let her next summer if she asks again.

I remember wanting to at 9 or 10 and I think my mom made me wait until 12. I was mortified in PE class.

Anonymous wrote:I asked for a few months and my mom kept saying until you're 16 so one day I stole my dads razor and did without any clue how. My mom noticed a few months later and was furious. I was in 6th grade and not blonde.

I did the same thing, except it was my mom's razor

I asked for a few months and my mom kept saying until you're 16 so one day I stole my dads razor and did without any clue how. My mom noticed a few months later and was furious. I was in 6th grade and not blonde.

When the other girls start making serious fun of the hair? particularly in the bathing suit area...

I started shaving under my arms and legs the summer I started Jr. high, 7th grade.

My mother bought me an electric razor to use so I could get the feel of shaving. I started shaving with a razor probably 6 months later.

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Anonymous wrote:My 14 yr old DD shave her privates as well. She saw that I shaved and she started to as well. Watch what you offer up.

I'd be wary of that. You sure she's not sexually active? I mean shaving my privates isn't the most fun I can have by any stretch. If I wasn't sexually active I'd just trim at the most.

I think it also can be dependent on if she is around other older girls a lot. I was a competitive swimmer (think 80s and 90s, not the long suits like today but the leg openings that reached up to the ceiling!) and started shaving my bikini area to just a landing strip pretty much when I was only about 14 because all the older girls who were 17 and 18 did and basically told us to! I started on a varsity team the summer before high school, so all of the young girls like me just did what we thought we were supposed to- we were pretty innocent and just went with what the older girls told us to do. I was a virgin until after HS! I could see that scenario playing out a lot with HS freshman learning from seniors

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Anonymous wrote:Overheard a group of 10-year-olds talk about this--according to the one who brought it up, her mom said she had to wait until 6th grade.

I'm fair-haired, but even so I remember being teased by a boy about not shaving when I was in 6th or 7th grade. I didn't bring it up with my mom, but I wish I had--she thought I wasn't self conscious about it.

This pisses me off, though I'm aware that boys learn that it's all about their gaze early and it happens a lot.

The girls tease more than the boys btw.

Well if that's true, then I'm sure the boys will be cowed into a lifetime of body modification to transform themselves into creatures considered deserving of love and respect... oh, wait.

Yeah, never mind. Just talk to your precious boy (who can no doubt do no wrong unless, well, you know... boys will be boys) about how girls aren't made of plastic or paper and he's a junior asshole for telling my girl her legs are too hairy.

In return, I've already done you the favor of telling her not to retaliate by calling him short, pointing out that although boys' body snarking at girls is especially vile given the incredible power they hold to declare girls attractive (and thus worthy of love and respect) or not, she should take the high road.

Not the person you quoted, but I think she meant that GIRLS are teased more by other GIRLS than by boys.

I'm sorry you have such a massive chip on your shoulder. You must have had to deal with some real misogynistic jerks throughout your life. Wow.

Umm, yeah. What a strangely bitter post PP.

I was the poster who says the girls tease more than the boys.

I was a very hairy girl, including facial hair. The girls made comments constantly. I remember one boy making a comment to me.

I had hairy sisters. They were also teased by the girls way more than by the boys.

The girls also started making rude comments as young as first and second grade. The one boy that made a comment to me was around 6th or 7th grade, at the age where all the kids are nasty and rude, regardless of gender.

The girls definitely tease other girls far, far worse about body hair than the boys do. Girls have no qualms with nit picking and teasing other girls' deficiencies or oddities.

Boys may talk about it amongst themselves (or likely not at all if the boys I know are any indication) but are also likely too embarrassed to say anything to the girls about hair legs, arms or faces.

You really do have some sort of chip on your shoulder. You really ought to talk to some one about your anger.

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Anonymous wrote:Overheard a group of 10-year-olds talk about this--according to the one who brought it up, her mom said she had to wait until 6th grade.

I'm fair-haired, but even so I remember being teased by a boy about not shaving when I was in 6th or 7th grade. I didn't bring it up with my mom, but I wish I had--she thought I wasn't self conscious about it.

This pisses me off, though I'm aware that boys learn that it's all about their gaze early and it happens a lot.

The girls tease more than the boys btw.

Well if that's true, then I'm sure the boys will be cowed into a lifetime of body modification to transform themselves into creatures considered deserving of love and respect... oh, wait.

Yeah, never mind. Just talk to your precious boy (who can no doubt do no wrong unless, well, you know... boys will be boys) about how girls aren't made of plastic or paper and he's a junior asshole for telling my girl her legs are too hairy.

In return, I've already done you the favor of telling her not to retaliate by calling him short, pointing out that although boys' body snarking at girls is especially vile given the incredible power they hold to declare girls attractive (and thus worthy of love and respect) or not, she should take the high road.

Not the person you quoted, but I think she meant that GIRLS are teased more by other GIRLS than by boys.

I'm sorry you have such a massive chip on your shoulder. You must have had to deal with some real misogynistic jerks throughout your life. Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:Overheard a group of 10-year-olds talk about this--according to the one who brought it up, her mom said she had to wait until 6th grade.

I'm fair-haired, but even so I remember being teased by a boy about not shaving when I was in 6th or 7th grade. I didn't bring it up with my mom, but I wish I had--she thought I wasn't self conscious about it.

This pisses me off, though I'm aware that boys learn that it's all about their gaze early and it happens a lot.

The girls tease more than the boys btw.

Well if that's true, then I'm sure the boys will be cowed into a lifetime of body modification to transform themselves into creatures considered deserving of love and respect... oh, wait.

Yeah, never mind. Just talk to your precious boy (who can no doubt do no wrong unless, well, you know... boys will be boys) about how girls aren't made of plastic or paper and he's a junior asshole for telling my girl her legs are too hairy.

In return, I've already done you the favor of telling her not to retaliate by calling him short, pointing out that although boys' body snarking at girls is especially vile given the incredible power they hold to declare girls attractive (and thus worthy of love and respect) or not, she should take the high road.

This brings back so many memories for me. I'm a dark brunette with fair skin. In the fifth grade, my legs started getting really hairy and I was super self-conscious about it, especially as all my friends had either blonde or light brown hair and virtually no body hair. I begged my mom to let me shave, and felt so much more confident afterwards. As an adult, I've had laser hair removal on my legs and it has changed my life!! I only wish that had been available to me as a child. My own daugher has light brown hair, but the hair on her legs is much more noticeable than her friends'. Last year, she was very self-conscious about it and said she wasn't going to wear shorts anymore, but this year she seems to have forgotten about it. Long may that last... she's only nine. However, I'll let her shave the next time she seems upset about it. I can certainly empathize.

I am fair and shaved the first time without asking my mom. I think I was in 5th grade. My mom just shook her head and said, "you will regret that, it never ends now." Boy was she right. Even though I am fair, I ended up with lots of dark leg hair. At least it was fine.

DD is 9 and also very fair, very pale blonde but starting to develop a bit. Still the hair on her legs is light, fine and unnoticeable. I hope it stays that way. DH has blonde hair on his legs and no chest hair but a huge head of thick hair. I think DD takes after him.

As for sleep away camp, that was where I did NOT Shave.! We would have contests to see whose leg hair grew the longest in the 4 week session. Of course, it was all girls.

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Anonymous wrote:Overheard a group of 10-year-olds talk about this--according to the one who brought it up, her mom said she had to wait until 6th grade.

I'm fair-haired, but even so I remember being teased by a boy about not shaving when I was in 6th or 7th grade. I didn't bring it up with my mom, but I wish I had--she thought I wasn't self conscious about it.

This pisses me off, though I'm aware that boys learn that it's all about their gaze early and it happens a lot.

The girls tease more than the boys btw.

Anonymous wrote:My 14 yr old DD shave her privates as well. She saw that I shaved and she started to as well. Watch what you offer up.

I'd be wary of that. You sure she's not sexually active? I mean shaving my privates isn't the most fun I can have by any stretch. If I wasn't sexually active I'd just trim at the most.