My MIL and SIL are more than happy to sit back and watch while someone else takes care of SIL's kids. When MIL volunteers to watch them, she's more than happy to nap while they play with my kids and I supervise and while I prepare lunch. Then she's more than happy to keep napping while I take my kids outside, and while SIL's tag along.

I finally got fed up with it and now, I take SIL's 2 yr. old kid to either SIL or MIL and say, "here ya go!" I will let them all play for about 10 minutes, but I draw the line there. The reason? It'll turn into an hour and it'll turn into a regular habit. Takers will take advantage as long as you let them. They longer say to me, "Can you watch him while I run to the store?" Or, "I just have to run up the street... I'll be right back." Nope... they no longer come to me because I drew the line.

Side note: We all live with my MIL. Our plans are to move in 2 weeks. Thank goodness. But if I had never drawn the line, I can't imagine. Now, because I'm dealing with petty, cry baby in-laws, I'm sure they think I'm a big ol' bitch, but I really don't give a shit. I'd rather be a bitch than taken advantage of.

So, YOU have to draw the line and stand up for yourself. Period. No one can do it but you.

Just say, "I can't do it. Its just too much. I wish I could, but I can't. It stresses me out too much."

I know family situations like this can be really difficult to navigate. Good luck to you.

There is not such thing as a free lunch OP.

Anonymous wrote:Wait, what? Your brother and SIL left and their kid is still with you? WTF? This is totally fake.

My mom lives here and wanted my nephew to visit from out of state. She was very involved with his life until she moved here to take care of my LO while i was at work.

If it was your house, OP, you'd be in charge of who's invited to come/stay over.

Wait, what? Your brother and SIL left and their kid is still with you? WTF? This is totally fake.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You enjoy playing martyr...that's why you let everyone walk over you. You don't want anyone's advice because if you actually stood up for yourself or said no, your martyr identity would be ruined and you wouldn't know how to feel good about yourself.

Ding ding ding, winner winner chicken dinner.

I think this thread is a troll, fake, or major exaggeration. I don't believe these events happened, no way does someone sleep until 4pm or does someone put up with this crap.

+1

Your family is toxic and you're a bitch. Have you always been the "good one" who gets pleasure from setting other people up and watching them fail? My guess is that your identity is based around being a "good person", right? Then ask yourself what kind of good person takes their shit out on a 6 year old?

Whoa. Ahahahaha. Go away. Just because someone vents doesn't make them a bitch. I said I couldn't handle both kids at one time. You can't read. I did not take. It out on him. All families have issues. Obviously, this isn't a good arrangement. With brother and SIL gone and us back in our routine, everythings has been great. Created some boundaries. Created a list of fun activities for is to do. And, the two kids are playing a lot better together. The baby plays back with him. Too cute.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You enjoy playing martyr...that's why you let everyone walk over you. You don't want anyone's advice because if you actually stood up for yourself or said no, your martyr identity would be ruined and you wouldn't know how to feel good about yourself.

Ding ding ding, winner winner chicken dinner.

I think this thread is a troll, fake, or major exaggeration. I don't believe these events happened, no way does someone sleep until 4pm or does someone put up with this crap.

+1

Your family is toxic and you're a bitch. Have you always been the "good one" who gets pleasure from setting other people up and watching them fail? My guess is that your identity is based around being a "good person", right? Then ask yourself what kind of good person takes their shit out on a 6 year old?

Haven't read all the comments but a six-year-old should have internalized some boundaries by now. People clearly aren't setting them with this kid.

Throw out the walker-those things aren't safe.

The poor kid was probably desperate for some fresh air and exercise.

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. I came out of the bathroom to find him jettisoning her in her walker away from him with his feet. Apparently, DH said he caught him doing this earlier and said to stop it. .

So the kid sat in the babys walker?

She was in the walker. He was kicking her across the room with his feet. Before I went to the bathroom, he was sitting on the couch playing online games.