Anonymous wrote:I would if I were older (like 45) and if there was plenty of money to go around for child support

+1

Don't see much of a possibility when younger, especially if you want your own kids.

I would if I were older (like 45) and if there was plenty of money to go around for child support

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Anonymous wrote:I am 2 months into a relationship with a man with 3 kids. I have no children of my own. I love it!

I'm the quoted poster. He is interested in having another (in his words, he'd have a dozen if he could afford them) and his ex isn't too bad. Even if that wasn't the case, I wouldn't mind. Him and his kids are great.

Hope you learn correct grammar before you spend any time with these kids.

Possibly, not likely. I did go on a few dates with a guy with 3 kids, and it was really hard to schedule anything because he was always juggling kids activities. I respected him for it, but it really would have made it difficult for us to spend meaningful time together if we'd hit it off.

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Anonymous wrote:I think single young women w/o kids (who expect to have their own biological kids) would not be interested in a divorced man with kid(s).

Single women with kid(s) would be interested in single dads - divorced or widower.

There are also women who are not great catch themselves (older, physically unattractive, in low paying jobs) who would be willing to go for a divorced dad.

Widower dads are more palatable than divorced dads. I think the reason is that women are more amenable to adjusting to not so great guys for the sake of marriage and kids, so there has to be something really wrong with a man for his wife to divorce him. And if ex-wife did not want him - why would another girl want him?

Not PC I know, and not even true in all instances - but by and large true.

Horseshit! My ex was a psycho who ran off with another man - no longer with him - and left me with the kids.

Are you my BIL? Because that's exactly what happened to him. And his ex is on husband #3.

No, I'm not. But statistically speaking, women are more likely than men to initiate a divorce, which tells me there has to be something really wrong with the woman for the man to leave.

Anonymous wrote:I am 2 months into a relationship with a man with 3 kids. I have no children of my own. I love it!

I'm the quoted poster. He is interested in having another (in his words, he'd have a dozen if he could afford them) and his ex isn't too bad. Even if that wasn't the case, I wouldn't mind. Him and his kids are great.

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Anonymous wrote:Sure, women with their own baggage will not be turned off by a single father with 3 children. However, single women with no children will not be interested.

Umm, wow. Thanks, jackass. My dad was a widower with two children when my mom married him.
Yes, some women would still be interested in a single father. I've dated guys with kids before. My only hesitation to three kids would be that I very much want to experience being pregnant/giving birth, so he would need to be open to more children. And I'd want to know back story on the ex because of potential drama.

So what you're saying, is basically, you're not interested unless the ex-wife is perfect, and he wants more children. Good luck with that, jackass.

I briefly dated a guy with 3 kids. Theoretically I would have considered the right situation but here I knew it probably wasn't going to work out because

1) I wanted a bio kid of my own as well, and i'm not sure he was up for #4.
2) he had just split and I was the first person he was seeing and
3), because of the fact that he had just split, he was WAY too eager to involve me in his kid's lives. Like, meeting them on the 3rd or 4th date.

This told me that he had no idea what it meant to be a single dad, and if I were his ex wife I would have been pretty angry about having new dates meeting the kids before anything got serious. And I knew this as a woman who had not had any kids--now that I'm a mom, it makes me even more angry!

But, if for some reason I split with DH now, I'd date someone with 3 kids if it was a stable situation, and particularly if the kids were older. However, my age range (45 up) means that the kids would probably be older anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:I think single young women w/o kids (who expect to have their own biological kids) would not be interested in a divorced man with kid(s).

Single women with kid(s) would be interested in single dads - divorced or widower.

There are also women who are not great catch themselves (older, physically unattractive, in low paying jobs) who would be willing to go for a divorced dad.

Widower dads are more palatable than divorced dads. I think the reason is that women are more amenable to adjusting to not so great guys for the sake of marriage and kids, so there has to be something really wrong with a man for his wife to divorce him. And if ex-wife did not want him - why would another girl want him?

Not PC I know, and not even true in all instances - but by and large true.

Horseshit! My ex was a psycho who ran off with another man - no longer with him - and left me with the kids.

Are you my BIL? Because that's exactly what happened to him. And his ex is on husband #3.

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a story of a lovely lady...

I was waiting for someone to post this!

There is always someone out there for a wonderful man and father.

Yup thought of that too

Anonymous wrote:I think single young women w/o kids (who expect to have their own biological kids) would not be interested in a divorced man with kid(s).

Single women with kid(s) would be interested in single dads - divorced or widower.

There are also women who are not great catch themselves (older, physically unattractive, in low paying jobs) who would be willing to go for a divorced dad.

Widower dads are more palatable than divorced dads. I think the reason is that women are more amenable to adjusting to not so great guys for the sake of marriage and kids, so there has to be something really wrong with a man for his wife to divorce him. And if ex-wife did not want him - why would another girl want him?

Not PC I know, and not even true in all instances - but by and large true.

Horseshit! My ex was a psycho who ran off with another man - no longer with him - and left me with the kids.

Hypothetically (as I'm already married), yes, I'd be interested if I were a single woman with no children. With a few caveats that have already been mentioned (I wouldn't be interested if he wasn't involved with his children, and I'd want him to be interested in having at least one more). I'd be much more hesitant if I already had a child/children of my own.

No, unless the kids go to boarding school. In Europe.

Anonymous wrote:yes! too much baby/mama drama

oops that should have read "no!! "

No. Kids get on my nerves.