I have a similar friend but the new lover is male. She hasn't told me but its very obvious. I think it's strange. She is a really fun person but not a great friend. I wouldn't want my kids to know. I wonder what her kids know. The boyfriend practically lives with them.

Anonymous wrote:I found out last week that a female married friend of mine now has a girlfriend and a husband. Friend never knew she liked girls but is now in love. I am 100% fine with the gay aspect of it but 100% against the polyamorous aspect if it. She is not a very close friend but I see her about once a month. If it weren't for the thing we have together once a month, we'd probably never see each other. WWYD?

Ha, sounds like we have the same friend. When I found out about my friends lifestyle choice, we became closer, probably because she trusted me enough to open up to me and I could are less what she does.

No matter what people say, it's weird.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, if her husband knows and is ok with it, what's the big deal?

I know it's weird, but hey. A lot of couples have weird stuff. Hers is just out in the open. I find that refreshing, actually. So many people I know are pretending to have these stepford-perfect marriages and then they open up and there are so many issues there. Sounds like she recognizes that she likes/loves her husband but also likes/loves women.

+1

This has nothing to do with you, OP. And it isn't cheating. It's fine for you to be uncomfortable with it, but that's on you. De-friend and avoid if that makes you feel better.

Of course, I recognize that she could be one of those people who is in a new relationship/situation and cannot STFU about it and is all schmoopy about it. That bugs me with any flavor of relationship and I usually just wait for things to normalize.