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Anonymous wrote:I will say because I think all fat people I know are lazy and have all types of excuses for not working out. I don't understand how anyone wants to stay fat. I have a friend that has gain lots of weight over the last years and now can't bend down to tie his shoes (he pulls his leg up with the pants and has to tie shoe on the side), but is always talking about going to the gym and never does (no wife or kids, only himself). I have another friend who alsways talks about losing weight and then we go out to eat and she gets mounds of pancakes and asks for extra butter, etc. It's disgusting to watch them gorge themselves with food and I hate being at restaurants with them. Very few of the fat people I know have some sort of hormone or metabolic issue.

Ok. There are two things going on here. One is that you lack empathy. Fat people know they are fat and don't want to stay fat. If you haven't ever been overweight perhaps it seems ridiculous, but it isn't. It is incredibly hard to be fat and then lose weight. There are all sorts of factors at play besides effort. (Among them, psychology, nutrition, chemical changes, behavioral changes etc.)

The other is: So what? Why does their being fat piss you off? Lots of people do things differently from you and you let it slide. Why not weight?

PP here. It wouldn't bother me so much if they would stop talking about how they want to lose weight as they are eating a bag of chips. Both of my friends that I referenced are some of the nicest most generous people that I know and I enjoy being friends with them. It's just I get tired of always hearing how they want to lose wright but NEVER do anything towards that "goal". Fine, you like being fat, I don't care but stop with the pity party. My female friend always thinks she is being discriminated against because she's fat. It's like...no one wants to be my friend because I'm fat, I didn't get the job because I'm fat, I can't get a husband because I'm fat, that person was rude to me because I'm fat...and on and on. I'm like ENOUGH already!!! Also, I am NOT jealous of the way they eat. I have grown beyond processed and fried foods. Can I eat it if I want to? Of course! But I have no desire to put that "garbage" in my body any longer.

PP have you ever been overweight (20+ lbs?) It seems so simple unless you have been there. It's a vicious cycle of food, endorphins, fatigue and psychology.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say because I think all fat people I know are lazy and have all types of excuses for not working out. I don't understand how anyone wants to stay fat. I have a friend that has gain lots of weight over the last years and now can't bend down to tie his shoes (he pulls his leg up with the pants and has to tie shoe on the side), but is always talking about going to the gym and never does (no wife or kids, only himself). I have another friend who alsways talks about losing weight and then we go out to eat and she gets mounds of pancakes and asks for extra butter, etc. It's disgusting to watch them gorge themselves with food and I hate being at restaurants with them. Very few of the fat people I know have some sort of hormone or metabolic issue.

Ok. There are two things going on here. One is that you lack empathy. Fat people know they are fat and don't want to stay fat. If you haven't ever been overweight perhaps it seems ridiculous, but it isn't. It is incredibly hard to be fat and then lose weight. There are all sorts of factors at play besides effort. (Among them, psychology, nutrition, chemical changes, behavioral changes etc.)

The other is: So what? Why does their being fat piss you off? Lots of people do things differently from you and you let it slide. Why not weight?

PP here. It wouldn't bother me so much if they would stop talking about how they want to lose weight as they are eating a bag of chips. Both of my friends that I referenced are some of the nicest most generous people that I know and I enjoy being friends with them. It's just I get tired of always hearing how they want to lose wright but NEVER do anything towards that "goal". Fine, you like being fat, I don't care but stop with the pity party. My female friend always thinks she is being discriminated against because she's fat. It's like...no one wants to be my friend because I'm fat, I didn't get the job because I'm fat, I can't get a husband because I'm fat, that person was rude to me because I'm fat...and on and on. I'm like ENOUGH already!!! Also, I am NOT jealous of the way they eat. I have grown beyond processed and fried foods. Can I eat it if I want to? Of course! But I have no desire to put that "garbage" in my body any longer.

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Anonymous wrote:I will say because I think all fat people I know are lazy and have all types of excuses for not working out. I don't understand how anyone wants to stay fat. I have a friend that has gain lots of weight over the last years and now can't bend down to tie his shoes (he pulls his leg up with the pants and has to tie shoe on the side), but is always talking about going to the gym and never does (no wife or kids, only himself). I have another friend who alsways talks about losing weight and then we go out to eat and she gets mounds of pancakes and asks for extra butter, etc. It's disgusting to watch them gorge themselves with food and I hate being at restaurants with them. Very few of the fat people I know have some sort of hormone or metabolic issue.

Ok. There are two things going on here. One is that you lack empathy. Fat people know they are fat and don't want to stay fat. If you haven't ever been overweight perhaps it seems ridiculous, but it isn't. It is incredibly hard to be fat and then lose weight. There are all sorts of factors at play besides effort. (Among them, psychology, nutrition, chemical changes, behavioral changes etc.)

The other is: So what? Why does their being fat piss you off? Lots of people do things differently from you and you let it slide. Why not weight?

Anonymous wrote:I am disgusted by people who are disgusted by fat people.

First, I think that as previous posts have noted, the fact that so many people are overweight is indicative that there is a problem greater than "self control."

Second, assume that being overweight is solely, 100% attributable to a person's moral character (weak-willed, lazy, etc.) If so, so what? We are all flawed human beings. My most overweight friends is also one of the kindest, most generous people I know. She has great qualities, and maybe also some weaknesses, just like EVERY SINGLE OTHER HUMAN BEING in the world.

So for the thin people out there, think about your worst habits, your worst vices or failings, and imagine that they were emblazoned in giant neon lights across your chest and back for all the world to see, and could never be hidden. Everywhere you go, constantly, everyone could see that you are selfish, or cheap, or insecure, or envious of those who are wealthier, or have better jobs, or who are better looking than you, or would know that you are a a huge slob at home, are incapable of forgiveness, or are up to your ears in credit card debt. Imagine it being broadcast 24/7 that you are bad at your job, or unable to control your temper, or hit your kids and scream at your spouse, or are addicted to alcohol or pills or shopping onr online porn or gambling, or cheating on your spouse. What if everyone could know and judge that you are in a sham, loveless marriage that you are only staying in for financial reasons or for the sake of the kids, or that you hate your parents and don't speak to them, or that you cut yourself, or that you are bulimic or anorexic.

Anonymous wrote:I am disgusted by people who are disgusted by fat people.

First, I think that as previous posts have noted, the fact that so many people are overweight is indicative that there is a problem greater than "self control."

Second, assume that being overweight is solely, 100% attributable to a person's moral character (weak-willed, lazy, etc.) If so, so what? We are all flawed human beings. My most overweight friends is also one of the kindest, most generous people I know. She has great qualities, and maybe also some weaknesses, just like EVERY SINGLE OTHER HUMAN BEING in the world.

So for the thin people out there, think about your worst habits, your worst vices or failings, and imagine that they were emblazoned in giant neon lights across your chest and back for all the world to see, and could never be hidden. Everywhere you go, constantly, everyone could see that you are selfish, or cheap, or insecure, or envious of those who are wealthier, or have better jobs, or who are better looking than you, or would know that you are a a huge slob at home, are incapable of forgiveness, or are up to your ears in credit card debt. Imagine it being broadcast 24/7 that you are bad at your job, or unable to control your temper, or hit your kids and scream at your spouse, or are addicted to alcohol or pills or shopping onr online porn or gambling, or cheating on your spouse. What if everyone could know and judge that you are in a sham, loveless marriage that you are only staying in for financial reasons or for the sake of the kids, or that you hate your parents and don't speak to them, or that you cut yourself, or that you are bulimic or anorexic.

Anonymous wrote:Right on, PP.

Anonymous wrote:I am disgusted by people who are disgusted by fat people.

First, I think that as previous posts have noted, the fact that so many people are overweight is indicative that there is a problem greater than "self control."

Second, assume that being overweight is solely, 100% attributable to a person's moral character (weak-willed, lazy, etc.) If so, so what? We are all flawed human beings. My most overweight friends is also one of the kindest, most generous people I know. She has great qualities, and maybe also some weaknesses, just like EVERY SINGLE OTHER HUMAN BEING in the world.

So for the thin people out there, think about your worst habits, your worst vices or failings, and imagine that they were emblazoned in giant neon lights across your chest and back for all the world to see, and could never be hidden. Everywhere you go, constantly, everyone could see that you are selfish, or cheap, or insecure, or envious of those who are wealthier, or have better jobs, or who are better looking than you, or would know that you are a a huge slob at home, are incapable of forgiveness, or are up to your ears in credit card debt. Imagine it being broadcast 24/7 that you are bad at your job, or unable to control your temper, or hit your kids and scream at your spouse, or are addicted to alcohol or pills or shopping onr online porn or gambling, or cheating on your spouse. What if everyone could know and judge that you are in a sham, loveless marriage that you are only staying in for financial reasons or for the sake of the kids, or that you hate your parents and don't speak to them, or that you cut yourself, or that you are bulimic or anorexic.

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Anonymous wrote:2/3 of the people in the US are either overweight or obese. It's an epidemic.
So many health issues that could be avoided if they would just lose the weight.
And, yes, I have been overweight. It was really hard to lose the pounds, but I did it - now, I am no longer on BP meds or cholesterol meds.

OP here. I agree, but there is a lot that needs to be addressed beyond shaming fat people in order to turn that ship around.

I've been overweight and lost it myself. However, I still don't get the vitriol. No one runs around calling people a "smoker" or treat people who don't do monthly breast exams poorly.

Actually, you're wrong. I think there has been a lot of shaming and bashing of smokers in the last decade. In fact, it's actually legal for employers to NOT hire a person based solely on smoking (in most states), and so many places do urine or blood tests. I have yet to see a person not get hired because of weight.

Interestingly enough, between the shaming and the increased taxes, smoking rates decreased. I'm not saying it's the right way or ethical/compassionate way, but you have to admit it's been effective.

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Anonymous wrote:I just assume that someone who fat-bashes, or fat-shames has eating of self-image issues themselves. Thats certainly been the case with the people I've met like that. Why else would they care?

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Anonymous wrote:I am disgusted by people who are disgusted by fat people.

First, I think that as previous posts have noted, the fact that so many people are overweight is indicative that there is a problem greater than "self control."

Second, assume that being overweight is solely, 100% attributable to a person's moral character (weak-willed, lazy, etc.) If so, so what? We are all flawed human beings. My most overweight friends is also one of the kindest, most generous people I know. She has great qualities, and maybe also some weaknesses, just like EVERY SINGLE OTHER HUMAN BEING in the world.

So for the thin people out there, think about your worst habits, your worst vices or failings, and imagine that they were emblazoned in giant neon lights across your chest and back for all the world to see, and could never be hidden. Everywhere you go, constantly, everyone could see that you are selfish, or cheap, or insecure, or envious of those who are wealthier, or have better jobs, or who are better looking than you, or would know that you are a a huge slob at home, are incapable of forgiveness, or are up to your ears in credit card debt. Imagine it being broadcast 24/7 that you are bad at your job, or unable to control your temper, or hit your kids and scream at your spouse, or are addicted to alcohol or pills or shopping onr online porn or gambling, or cheating on your spouse. What if everyone could know and judge that you are in a sham, loveless marriage that you are only staying in for financial reasons or for the sake of the kids, or that you hate your parents and don't speak to them, or that you cut yourself, or that you are bulimic or anorexic.

Anonymous wrote:I am disgusted by people who are disgusted by fat people.

First, I think that as previous posts have noted, the fact that so many people are overweight is indicative that there is a problem greater than "self control."

Second, assume that being overweight is solely, 100% attributable to a person's moral character (weak-willed, lazy, etc.) If so, so what? We are all flawed human beings. My most overweight friends is also one of the kindest, most generous people I know. She has great qualities, and maybe also some weaknesses, just like EVERY SINGLE OTHER HUMAN BEING in the world.

So for the thin people out there, think about your worst habits, your worst vices or failings, and imagine that they were emblazoned in giant neon lights across your chest and back for all the world to see, and could never be hidden. Everywhere you go, constantly, everyone could see that you are selfish, or cheap, or insecure, or envious of those who are wealthier, or have better jobs, or who are better looking than you, or would know that you are a a huge slob at home, are incapable of forgiveness, or are up to your ears in credit card debt. Imagine it being broadcast 24/7 that you are bad at your job, or unable to control your temper, or hit your kids and scream at your spouse, or are addicted to alcohol or pills or shopping onr online porn or gambling, or cheating on your spouse. What if everyone could know and judge that you are in a sham, loveless marriage that you are only staying in for financial reasons or for the sake of the kids, or that you hate your parents and don't speak to them, or that you cut yourself, or that you are bulimic or anorexic.