Anonymous wrote:I thought that if I could manage financially, it'd be ok. It wasn't. Biggest mistake of my life. Children deperately need fathers. Unless he's beating you, try to let it pass. Get counciling for yourself if you can. Build a support system. Let go of some of the issues go if you can. Use us to vent.

This is the worst advice I have read on this board. Hello People..it is 2013 last time I checked. Women should not have to stay in unhappy marriages due to kids. The single mother stigma has long passed. Sheesh.

You will be okay and survive financially.
You sound like you have no debt and what you make is enough to live off of.

While the children are young, a 1-bd condo is doable. Either you all share a bedroom or you can sleep in the living room on a sofa bed.

You may get alimony and child support, but you may not.

Good for you, not relying on a man for money.

Because those situations are recipes for disaster. Too many women are forced to stay in unhappy and unhealthy marriages because they didn't try to establish self-sufficiency.

OP, why aren't you responding to any of the PPs' questions? It's hard to give you advice you you don't provide feedback.

Have you considered a less expensive outer suburb?

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Anonymous wrote:I am really surprised how sadly dependent on their husbands some of the posters are. The housing costs are the biggest costs and of course you can live in a 1 bedroom condo. I lived in a studio when my DS was younger. We moved into a one bedroom when he was 4 or so. I saved and saved and we moved into a 2 bedroom condo when he was in 3rd grade. Only you can make this choice but don't draw it out forever.

My SIL makes what you do, has a 7 and 2 year old and is almost having a nervous breakdown from the stress. I think PPs are just trying to be honest.

married people also have nervous breakdowns. To assume that the OP will have a nervous breakdown or regret her decision is presumptuous. Being married and miserable can cause a worse nervous breakdown. Children would rather see their mother happy than miserable in a marriage for financial reasons...