Anonymous
Post 07/21/2013 21:59     Subject: Re:How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Anonymous wrote:I am a father of a 4 year old....I have custody of him and had it for almost 2 yrs...i have joint but physical....but his mother is relentless...I have been to court over 30 times in these short 4 years...mostly all frivolous show causes...and ALL of the cases we dismissed...I am going to court next month for my 3rd custody case in less that 2 years..she accusing me a medical negligence. ..which is crazy...she makes Dr. appointments without telling me....and then when there missed she accuses me of not taking him...this has cost me ridiculous amounts of money...promotions at my job...i might even lose my job if this continue...and its seems to be no end in sight...somebody....anybody....if u have any advice....I'm all ears


You need to include a motion to be awarded your attorney fees. that way if judge dismisses her motion, judge still has to rule on your motion. Chances are good you will get it. In addition to attorney fees, you might also include your work compensation, especially because it sounds like you are using uncompensated leave.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2013 22:38     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
12:47 Are you serious? Spend more money?

12:01 Why don't you share custody?
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2013 12:47     Subject: Re:How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Anonymous wrote:I am a father of a 4 year old....I have custody of him and had it for almost 2 yrs...i have joint but physical....but his mother is relentless...I have been to court over 30 times in these short 4 years...mostly all frivolous show causes...and ALL of the cases we dismissed...I am going to court next month for my 3rd custody case in less that 2 years..she accusing me a medical negligence. ..which is crazy...she makes Dr. appointments without telling me....and then when there missed she accuses me of not taking him...this has cost me ridiculous amounts of money...promotions at my job...i might even lose my job if this continue...and its seems to be no end in sight...somebody....anybody....if u have any advice....I'm all ears


You need to get a divorce lawyer who can file a cease and desist motion on her for harassment.
Anonymous
Post 07/18/2013 12:01     Subject: Re:How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
I am a father of a 4 year old....I have custody of him and had it for almost 2 yrs...i have joint but physical....but his mother is relentless...I have been to court over 30 times in these short 4 years...mostly all frivolous show causes...and ALL of the cases we dismissed...I am going to court next month for my 3rd custody case in less that 2 years..she accusing me a medical negligence. ..which is crazy...she makes Dr. appointments without telling me....and then when there missed she accuses me of not taking him...this has cost me ridiculous amounts of money...promotions at my job...i might even lose my job if this continue...and its seems to be no end in sight...somebody....anybody....if u have any advice....I'm all ears
Anonymous
Post 02/21/2013 08:24     Subject: Re:How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Anonymous wrote:I just don't get why two people would pay someone else $100,000 for things they can probably sort out themselves for much less money. Lawyers are only in it for the money.


How can you assume that both parents are capable of being reasonable? The father here is harassing the mother with cases he can't win.

Really, if you can't help, go start a blog or something, where we don't have to read the small-mindedness and judgment here. People come here for help, they already know they're in a bad situation.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2013 18:51     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Anonymous wrote:00:16 Parents do not split the legal fees. I'm not sure how they pay for the guardian ad litem.

00:03 If your ex sues you for custody, and won't negotiate, you hire a lawyer not because you want to, but because you are afraid what might happen if you do not hire one. Divorce lawyers are an interesting breed.


If you're not sure how guardian ad litems fees are paid, why are you certain the cost is not allocated to the parents involved in the custody matters? Who else would pay but the parents?
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2013 07:32     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Info on guardian ad letim in virginia
http://www.courts.state.va.us/courtadmin/aoc/cip/programs/gal/home.html
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2013 00:09     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
00:16 Parents do not split the legal fees. I'm not sure how they pay for the guardian ad litem.

00:03 If your ex sues you for custody, and won't negotiate, you hire a lawyer not because you want to, but because you are afraid what might happen if you do not hire one. Divorce lawyers are an interesting breed.
Anonymous
Post 02/15/2013 00:03     Subject: Re:How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
I just don't get why two people would pay someone else $100,000 for things they can probably sort out themselves for much less money. Lawyers are only in it for the money.
Anonymous
Post 02/10/2013 00:16     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Anonymous wrote:14:17 How did your attorney get the judge to do that? I know a father who sued for full custody and the mother spent $100,000 on legal fees. He wasn't even doing 50-50 before he sued.

17:51 Lawyers charge per hour. (Are you divorced?) Plus this is not a 5-minute phone conversation!


Court appointed attorney for the child is called a guardian ad letim. I would think both parties split the cost.
Anonymous
Post 02/09/2013 18:53     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
What drug are we talking about?
Anonymous
Post 02/09/2013 09:07     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:14:17 How did your attorney get the judge to do that? I know a father who sued for full custody and the mother spent $100,000 on legal fees. He wasn't even doing 50-50 before he sued.

17:51 Lawyers charge per hour. (Are you divorced?) Plus this is not a 5-minute phone conversation!


$100,000??? What was she trying to hide?


How did you jump from being charged legal fees with someone trying to hide something? Custody cases are litigation. On top of legal fees there are also the costs of experts, psychologists etc. every motion, hearing, brief costs thousands of dollars. Letters back and forth with other counsel. Fees add up very quickly. Knucklehead ex spouses with money to burn churn the process to bury the other side in debt as a strategy.

If you're not familiar with contested divorces don't opine here.
Anonymous
Post 02/09/2013 00:06     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
She wasn't hiding anything. That's what a custody battle costs, and she was trying to maintain custody. Which she did.

Another friend wanted to relocate and spent $35,000 before negotiating an agreement out of court. Her ex spent about the same.

Lawyers charge $500 an hour ... Do the math.
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2013 23:13     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
Anonymous wrote:14:17 How did your attorney get the judge to do that? I know a father who sued for full custody and the mother spent $100,000 on legal fees. He wasn't even doing 50-50 before he sued.

17:51 Lawyers charge per hour. (Are you divorced?) Plus this is not a 5-minute phone conversation!


$100,000??? What was she trying to hide?
Anonymous
Post 02/08/2013 22:03     Subject: How can I stop my ex from constantly taking me to court
14:17 How did your attorney get the judge to do that? I know a father who sued for full custody and the mother spent $100,000 on legal fees. He wasn't even doing 50-50 before he sued.

17:51 Lawyers charge per hour. (Are you divorced?) Plus this is not a 5-minute phone conversation!