Anonymous
Post 03/10/2013 09:03     Subject: Re:To women - would you be open to an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Be flirty with the woman. Don't mention your wife/kids too much, but when you do, don't put them down. For me, I explain I love my wife and she's a great mother, while at the same time being flirty.


Yeah, but do you get some extra action? Or do you just become known as That Guy, eyes rolling, smirk induced.
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2013 07:18     Subject: To women - would you be open to an affair?
m here. I have thought about seeking other companionship. Someone less critical. The problem is I do not want my 10 yo daughter to lose respect for me. She currently has minimal respect for my wife, but does listen/respect me. Also, I have medical issues, and do require periodic intense care.


So if you decide to sleep with me, realize, that,1) my wife is unstable and I do not know how she will react, 2) my daughter's needs come first, and 3) I have health issues that come with me....I will probably have more surgeries with long recoveries and statically have a low chance of surviving more than three years.

On the plus side, I am witty, intelligent, and can appear to listen.

If that is ok, lets meet.

This is me. Every man has similar issues (maybe not the medical issues).
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2013 01:20     Subject: To women - would you be open to an affair?
*in my life
Anonymous
Post 03/10/2013 01:19     Subject: To women - would you be open to an affair?
Seriously, I want nothing to do with taking care of yet another man's physical or emotional needs.One is enough work. So no, I would not be open. But I can tell you that if I somehow wound up in the situation, I would be terribly inattentive to your needs and desires. One wrong move, one drink I would have to pay for, one dumb thing you say, one sport I must feign interest in, the one time I want to see you and you are not there and I have to compromise or come second... I am out. So no. I wouldn't even go down that path of having to compromise who I am - never mind my morals - for one more person in mal
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2013 23:20     Subject: Re:To women - would you be open to an affair?
Be flirty with the woman. Don't mention your wife/kids too much, but when you do, don't put them down. For me, I explain I love my wife and she's a great mother, while at the same time being flirty.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2013 22:49     Subject: Re:To women - would you be open to an affair?
Anonymous wrote:I don't think so. It's really disrespectful and if I was going down that road, I think I'd prefer to separate and date other people. I think affairs are escapes and they mask bigger issues, both in yourself and in the marriage.

It's making a bad situation worse.

That said, my DH's affair was a great catalyst for us. Most painful thing I've ever confronted, but going through it changed our marriage and definitely woke DH up to the fact that he was becoming a person he wasn't proud of. People only have so much energy, and affairs require a lot of energy. It means you are taking away from your spouse and family. And marriage and raising kids is hard enough. For my DH, it seemed like a solution/escape/numbing in the short term but caused him a lot of humiliation and shame in the long term.


So, you were doormat and remained married to him?
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2013 22:46     Subject: To women - would you be open to an affair?
Nope. Wouldn't cheat on a partner and I won't be the other woman.

If you're that miserable, leave. But it's disrespectful and cowardly to cheat.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2013 19:43     Subject: Re:To women - would you be open to an affair?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
strongone wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So for those women who are open to an affair, how do I broach the subject?


Ask me to lunch. Flirt with me. Act like you would on a date. Pick up the check.


Good advice! Any others...?


Talk about what a miserable b your wifey is.


Had a guy do all the above. Seriously lost all respect for him. He was married with two, young, beautiful children. I would never go there and do that to another woman and her family. I wonder if she knows what a SOB she is married to?


I agree.
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2013 18:54     Subject: Re:To women - would you be open to an affair?
Anonymous wrote:
strongone wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So for those women who are open to an affair, how do I broach the subject?


Ask me to lunch. Flirt with me. Act like you would on a date. Pick up the check.


Good advice! Any others...?


Talk about what a miserable b your wifey is.


Had a guy do all the above. Seriously lost all respect for him. He was married with two, young, beautiful children. I would never go there and do that to another woman and her family. I wonder if she knows what a SOB she is married to?
Anonymous
Post 03/09/2013 06:41     Subject: Re:To women - would you be open to an affair?
strongone wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So for those women who are open to an affair, how do I broach the subject?


Ask me to lunch. Flirt with me. Act like you would on a date. Pick up the check.


Good advice! Any others...?


Talk about what a miserable b your wifey is.
strongone
Post 01/22/2013 11:43     Subject: To women - would you be open to an affair?
Anonymous wrote:Ugh, you sound like a needy loser, no thanks.


Thanks for the pre-rejection! Makes me honestly feel better to know I was rejected by a woman I wouldn't have wanted anyway due to her insufferably stiff upper lip! Dodged a bullet on that one...
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2013 11:39     Subject: To women - would you be open to an affair?
Ugh, you sound like a needy loser, no thanks.
strongone
Post 01/22/2013 11:21     Subject: Re:To women - would you be open to an affair?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So for those women who are open to an affair, how do I broach the subject?


Ask me to lunch. Flirt with me. Act like you would on a date. Pick up the check.


Good advice! Any others...?