which is why I stated Kumon is not necessary so why make them do it if they hate it. There are things kids must do, but kumon is not one of them. That is not something they need to learn to like doing. If your kids love kumon, then good for them. But maybe OP's kid wont' like going, and I bet there several kids that hate going, too, but their parents make them go. The argument is not against you. It's for OP to think about it.

Anonymous wrote:

You are the one that stated "kids must do things they don't like" in reference to this topic. So, that leads me to believe that your kid does not like going to kumon, and you are making your kid go because it is something he must do even if he doesn't like it. My assumption was that you think it's something your kid must do because it will somehow help him in life. If this is not the case, then I don't understand why you posted about kids doing things they don't like in reference to going to kumon.

Only in response to your statement and assumption kids must not like kumon.

Kids do NOT get to do everything they LIKE all the time. Kids sometimes have to learn to do what they DO NOT LIKE sometime. And for many kids many tasks (e.g., vegetables, milk, going to bed early and getting up early in AM, and Sushi) become acquired tastes with exposure, "repetition/practice" and tincture of time.

PS: my kids love kumon. what do your kids love? I bet we both let our kids do what they love in this instance, sometimes?

You are the one that stated "kids must do things they don't like" in reference to this topic. So, that leads me to believe that your kid does not like going to kumon, and you are making your kid go because it is something he must do even if he doesn't like it. My assumption was that you think it's something your kid must do because it will somehow help him in life. If this is not the case, then I don't understand why you posted about kids doing things they don't like in reference to going to kumon.

Anonymous wrote:

I agree kids must do things they hate sometimes, like I just told DC to go have a bath which DC hates to do. But kumon is not something they MUST do to be a functioning adult or get into a great college and then a good job. Get a grip.

Grip of what? You must concede, if a child and parent enjoy kumon; this is an activity they can participate in even if it is not necessary to become a functioning adult or get into a great college and then a good job. Get a grip of reality, there are a lots of things and activities we do with our children that have no bearing of functioning as an adult, going to a great college or getting a good job. Where did adults, college and jobs get into the mix?

Your speculative reach and imagination continues to amaze. Learning to swim, play the violin or read does not automatically translate to functioning adults, Ivy league, Wall Street, Olympic swimming, or Carnegie Hall.

I agree kids must do things they hate sometimes, like I just told DC to go have a bath which DC hates to do. But kumon is not something they MUST do to be a functioning adult or get into a great college and then a good job. Get a grip.

Anonymous wrote:

Good for you for keeping kumon in business. But maybe OP's kid will hate being forced to go to tutoring after school. When my DC was 4 DC loved doing activity books, too. But if I made DC go to a class to do it where it was structured, DC would've hated it.

So OP, if you think your kid will love going to after school tutoring, then go for it.

Kids do not get to do what they love and sometimes must do what they hate. At least not mine. They must learn to get up in the morning, clean up, take a bath, go to bed, turn the TV off, read, write, play, go to bed at night, and ..... must eat their vegetables (non negotiable for this medic even if this gustatory experience reminds them of kumon).

pre ks do not rule the roost.

Good for you for keeping kumon in business. But maybe OP's kid will hate being forced to go to tutoring after school. When my DC was 4 DC loved doing activity books, too. But if I made DC go to a class to do it where it was structured, DC would've hated it.

So OP, if you think your kid will love going to after school tutoring, then go for it.

This isn't your thread so we don't care that you like to do kumon with your kid. If you want to let people know you like doing kumon activities with your kid, go right ahead. I really don't care one way or another if you like doing kumon with your kid, but good for you. People were trying to reply to OP's post, not your's.

Anonymous wrote:

Well, I've never heard it stated this way before... but no, I'm certainly not jealous. Why would I be? I can afford to send my K to whatever tutoring if I wanted, but here's the thing... I don't think it's necessary, and I want my K to be a kid. Since my kids were babies, we would read to them every night. They loved reading, and this helped them learning letters. It was fun for them; we spent time together. Why tutor when you can spend time together at home doing these things with your PreK? If you want your PreK to be used to sitting for a few minutes doing work, why not just get them a preK workbook from any store. It has shapes, coloring, letter tracing. I also printout free coloring pages and math facts online. It's easy, cheap, and flexible. Tutoring sounds like overkill for a preK.

I didn't send my 3rd grader to a tutor, and DC did just fine..got into HGC and compacted math. So, are you now jealous? Geez. why do people always think it must be jealousy if someone disagrees. OP posted here asking for opinions. So you get various opinions, but it ain't jealousy.

Honey, we don't want to is the simple answer for you. We prefer Kumon. Some prefer $4,000 3-week summer camps. Isn't this overkill?

I never understand why people need to be so nasty on here. I guess because they can. Just like you think Kumon is the best thing every, i say unnecessary for us. And we are each entitled to our own opinions without being so nasty.

With respect to HGC, just pointing out that my kid is quite advanced, doing awesome in school without any need for Kumon on top of the already long school day and normal homework.

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate your kid is quite advanced. That's great. I'll send you a ribbon or trophy.
For us, it really doesn't matter whether our kids are advanced or not. We still enjoy kumon together. Can you accept this ... even for advanced kids?

My kids are very athletic and advanced in sklll set compared to peers. This doesn't stop them from intensive club sports or playing with the "big" boys as they desire and enjoy. What's the big deal here. You imply because your child is so smart and in HGC the child shouldn't do academic and intellectual tasks--like kumon--with their parents if all wish. Why not? Will you next tell me I shouldn't go to synagogue or church for hours on Sat and Sun because you and your child are already anointed with admission to the highly gifted cottages (HGC) in our heavens?

We are ok with your approach for your child and we are certainly ok with our approach with our kids.

Anonymous wrote:

Never and I have never heard of anyone else doing this before K. The work in K is pretty easy, why bother and then have your kid bored.

You have never heard of this? Hmm, are you an authority on this matter? Not only have I heard of this I have witnessed lots of pre-K children doing Kumon Math and Reading for years. I guess you are no authority after all. But, it's not too late to teach an ole fart new tricks. Your lack of knowledge and awareness will not turn back the clock to your preferable fume of life. Get over it. We all don't want to be like Mica!