Anonymous wrote:Most of the third graders know perfectly well who is in and who is out of the program, and sadly, sometimes they are cruel.
I have boy/girl twins. Still waiting on letters and CogAT scores. I do have a question, though...Girl scored 99%tile on NNAT, Boy scored 98%tile on NNAT. Anyone have twins where only 1 got in? I highly suspect that girl twin will get in, even teacher said that she would suggest high GBRS for girl. However, boy twin I am not too sure about. He is not like sister - she is VERY studious and LOVES everything about school. Just want to know what other parents did, in case only 1 gets in. FYI both twins really want to get in AAP, as older sister is in AAP. Thanks for any feedback.
Anonymous wrote:Thank you above poster. I have an older child in AAP, so my youngertwins are all about AAP - they just are. It has nothing to with me. I feel that I have to tell them and did that not everyone will get in. I don't want both to think that they will be in AAP just because big sis is.
Others, before you reply to my question - read it through and understand what I wrote. Thanks!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Kids do NOT need to know about "in pool" and "got in" and "appealing" etc. They just don't. My child was on the cusp of the pool last year (I did not refer her). Her best friend (and she doesn't have a huge circle of friends) was accepted to AAP. At the very end of the year, I just told my DD that her friend would be going to another school. That's all she needed to know.
The only possible outcome when you tell the child that some kids get in and some don't and that it's about getting a "better education" etc. is that they will feel left behind and insufficient. All you need to say is that some kids are going to a different school and if asked "why" the answer is "that's what their parents decided." THE END.
Don't set your kids up to feel inadequate just b/c this is somethng running through your mind.
+1 My son scored in the 99% on the NNAT last year. He has no idea what AAP is, and we will not tell him unless he gets in. There is no point in telling him now.
That only works for your first child. We did that with our first, but now that he is in AAP, my younger son wants to go too. Once kids are exposed to the existence of AAP, they figure out pretty quickly what it is, and no amount of parents saying "it is just for kids who have different learning needs" will prevent those children from figuring out that AAP is where the smart kids go.