Anonymous
Post 01/09/2013 14:48     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
OP - are you for real? Or just some bored teenager sitting around trying to figure something out to post.

Your post is so insensitive that it's hard to believe you had a m/c b/c you trivialize it so much.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2013 14:27     Subject: Re:I don't mean to be a jerk but...
OP, as someone who has had a miscarriage yourself, I think you should just have compassion for someone else going through that experience, rather than questioning them as to why they handled the situation differently than you did.

Anonymous
Post 01/09/2013 11:43     Subject: Re:I don't mean to be a jerk but...
Wow! You ARE a jerk, and very self centered as well. My sister miscarried. She thouhgt she was 12 weeks, but was 15 weeks. She nearly bled to death. She had emergency surgery which saved her life. This has happened to others I know, also. When you see that much blood, go to the hospital and do not drive yourself!
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2013 11:39     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
Anonymous wrote:OP here: I don't think anyone who goes to the doctor is a wimp. Sorry if my tone indicated that.

I just don't think it's common to die or have major complications from a miscarriage in early pregnancy. (Unlike with appendicitis, a heart attack, or a bullet wound. Come on, really guys?)

I get that losing a pregnancy is terrible, even devastating, and I get that sometimes it isn't doing what it needs to do and needs help. But I also wonder if there is a rush to the doctor because people think it's like a knife wound or something.

I read stuff online about it, and so many websites would have had me sitting in the ER, and I think that would have made the whole experience even worse.


You are either very insensitive or misinformed. I miscarried at 11 weeks and bled so heavily I passed out and went into shock. I had to go to the ER for an emergency D&C. It was a pretty traumatic experience for me.

But hey, glad to hear for you it was no big deal.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2013 11:36     Subject: Re:I don't mean to be a jerk but...
A good lesson for OP (and really the rest of us) - if you ever feel the need to start a sentence with "I don't mean to be a jerk/asshole/shithead/etc. but ..." maybe you should re-think whether or not you should ask this question or whether it needs to be rephrased. You probably are not an insensitive pompous ass, but you certainly sound like one.
Anonymous
Post 01/09/2013 10:29     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
I had my first miscarriage when DH was deployed and I was in a new town where I didn't know anyone. There was no urgent care so I drove myself to the ER where I passed out in the bathroom. I was glad that I passed out in the hospital and not alone at home on my own with no one to check up on me!
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 23:50     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
Dead fetal matter is incredibly toxic. I wanted the shit out ASAP. I scheduled a d&c no waiting. Was back at work the next day. No beach house for me. Or was that your point? You were able to m/c at a beach house vs a hospital? Nice for you, then. If that's your ideal scenario. Personally, I wouldn't want to bleed shit around other people and play cards. Now that's weird. Sharing bathrooms with other people, eww!
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 23:25     Subject: Re:I don't mean to be a jerk but...
Fast forward- OP actually becomes a parent one day, she will lack the necessary empathy and compassion needed to be a loving parent. Fast forward: Johnny: (Age 5) wahhhhhhhhh!!! OP : Johnny, you fell down? you what? You busted your lip from falling on your toys? Why are you crying? It's just a little cut and blood. Suck it up Johnny. Here is a tissue. We can't leave the beach house to go to the ER!?! We just started paying cards and having fun! Lol
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 22:56     Subject: Re:I don't mean to be a jerk but...
OP,

Check out WebMD next time b/f posting:

http://www.webmd.com/infertility-and-reproduction/guide/pregnancy-miscarriage?page=2
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 22:50     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
I imagine most women go to the hospital because they think they need health care services. What a bizarre question.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 22:30     Subject: Re:I don't mean to be a jerk but...
I had four miscarriages before this current pregnancy. It was emotionally devastating to experience each one. I never had to go to the ER, and I know I am very lucky that I didn't have to. Incomplete m/cs, hemorrhaging, and ectopics are real, and they are serious health risks -- sometimes life-threatening. I'm amazed the OP can't take this information in.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 22:27     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
Op I can't believe you kept calling your poor midwife! Three times?? She must have been so over your drama!

Why did you call her at all?

Maybe for some of the same reasons others sought treatment. Duuuuuhhhh...
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 20:43     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
Heard of a D&C?
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 20:40     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
I was only a few weeks pregnant when I miscarried - still the OB told me to go to the hospital for checks. I don't think I had a D&C but I do think they want to make sure you have expelled everything or you could wind up with necrotic tissue in your womb.
Anonymous
Post 01/08/2013 18:43     Subject: I don't mean to be a jerk but...
I thing OP wants to know that she's the most laid back of all people. I guess "congrats" - you win.