Anonymous
11/05/2012 09:44
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
``My dearest sister, now be serious. I want to talk very seriously. Let me know every thing that I am to know, without delay. Will you tell me how long you have loved him?''
``It has been coming on so gradually, that I hardly know when it began. But I believe I must date it from my first seeing his beautiful grounds at Pemberley.''
``It has been coming on so gradually, that I hardly know when it began. But I believe I must date it from my first seeing his beautiful grounds at Pemberley.''
Anonymous
11/05/2012 09:23
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.
So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.
Just curious -- what do you plan to do with your money when you die, if not leave it to your children? Would they lose your respect for actually using it to further their existing lifestyle?
Anonymous
11/05/2012 08:29
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.
So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.
Wait, 50 year olds don't work?
PP here. If you work in manual labor you can be effectively cripple by 50. Not everyone works in an office.
Anonymous
11/05/2012 08:04
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.
So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.
Wait, 50 year olds don't work?
Anonymous
11/05/2012 07:46
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
I married for love. But I don't think I could have fallen in love with a completely poor man or with a rich one either. I grew up very, very poor. Yet I managed to get myself into a good career and have a nice life. By 1% standards I'm middle class. By the standards of my native community I'm a 1%er. Although I socialize with the well-off, I secretly think less of people who aren't self-made. Similarly, when I see people from the old neighborhood who have no ambition and just accept their lot in life - well, I think less of them too. I guess I just can't respect anyone who was born on third and thinks he hit a triple; and neither can I respect someone who takes no for an answer and then blames everyone else in society for his lot in life. I could not love a man I didn't respect.
So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.
So I fell in love with and married a man who is just like me. Self-made. Not super well-off but we live in a way that a lot of people on here and from my neighborhood would call privileged. Although I'm not a fan of inherited wealth, I certainly would never cast aspersions on anyone for not yoking themselves to a poor man either. It's one thing to be poor when you are 20 and can work. Quite another to be that way when you are 50 and can't. Since your spouse can either double or half your income and that effect lasts all your life, it makes sense to love wisely.
Anonymous
11/05/2012 07:06
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I could say a lot of things, but honestly, I just feel sad for you. Yes, money is nice.. but if you married for that alone, you're missing out on a lot. I would much rather be poor and in love than rich and without.
Romantic lies from a foolish woman. Who has time for love when you are working 2 jobs and still scraping by? What you would be is constantly arguing or depressed, not oooolala I am so happy I found you.
Yeah, it's nice to just know that every time he's balls deep in you, that's the price you pay for marrying for money.
Stop being so dramatic. You can learn to love anyone. Marriages used to be more like a business arrangement than a romantic thing so save the drama you angry feminist. Use that energy to go out and be the man you want to be.
Nothing dramatic at what I said at all. I am simply acknowledging that your marriage is a business transaction: You get money, he gets to ejaculate inside of you. It's pretty straight forward. I'm just helping you strip things down to the bare basics (no pun intended).
I am not OP. But for an angry feminist you sure aren't sticking to the script. I thought women liked sex too and just because they have it, it doesn't make them a sex object. Women can walk around naked if they want and its fine. But I guess that is only the script when it fits your agenda.
I'm neither angry nor a feminist. Hell, I'm not even female. I just call it like it is. And I have no agenda. I repeat: It's a trade. Sex for money. That makes OP a whore of a different sort. But that's fine too. I don't judge.
Anonymous
11/05/2012 06:01
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
As I suspected, this thread is pretty boring.
Anonymous
11/05/2012 04:53
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
I feel like the OP is posting a small part of a larger conversation. The rest of it would be a justification about how she does not care that he misses her birthday, or is having an affair, or is emotionally not there. Which brings me to my point of, who cares?? She claims that things are good, which is by itself a defensive assertion since no one started the thread by challenging it.
That being said, the only 'smart' thing about her, or anyone else who gets married is to realize that your spouse cannot be everything you are lacking. They have areas of strength and weakness. So the best I can say for OP is that she does not place unrealistic expectations on DH, other than bringing in money.
My wondering is, though, what do you bring to the table? If its companionship and sex... A younger/ hotter version of yourself can do that much better.
That being said, the only 'smart' thing about her, or anyone else who gets married is to realize that your spouse cannot be everything you are lacking. They have areas of strength and weakness. So the best I can say for OP is that she does not place unrealistic expectations on DH, other than bringing in money.
My wondering is, though, what do you bring to the table? If its companionship and sex... A younger/ hotter version of yourself can do that much better.
Anonymous
11/04/2012 22:15
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Almost sounds like OP is bragging about it..like I married rich and things are still "good" 15 years later....Are you writing this to make yourself feel better about a relationship that is lacking in some ways? If you were never really into him...then this must be your way of justifying it. Material things are great, but they will never make you truly happy in the long run, and if you don't feel like you have a true partner or best friend, your Rolex watch, Mecedes Benz, and Hermes bag aren't really going to give you what you truly need. I hope you are keeping up your end of the bargain (ie looking like a good accessory) because he might just ditch you in a few years for a younger better looking accessory. Get off your high horse please.
Anonymous
11/04/2012 09:27
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:With the recession, not as many well off guys. There are many 50 something corporate refugees.
And now they are angry because their trophy wives are kicking their sorry asshole asses to the curb acting like their wives should love and support them. Um no. She married you for your money and power and you married her for being young and hot. You failed to live up to your side of the bargain when you lose your power and position.
Anonymous
11/04/2012 09:25
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
I've never been head-over-heels for my husband, either and there is no money to speak of. We still have a wonderful thing going on and our marriage is incredibly strong.
Anonymous
11/04/2012 09:23
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I could say a lot of things, but honestly, I just feel sad for you. Yes, money is nice.. but if you married for that alone, you're missing out on a lot. I would much rather be poor and in love than rich and without.
Romantic lies from a foolish woman. Who has time for love when you are working 2 jobs and still scraping by? What you would be is constantly arguing or depressed, not oooolala I am so happy I found you.
Yeah, it's nice to just know that every time he's balls deep in you, that's the price you pay for marrying for money.
Stop being so dramatic. You can learn to love anyone. Marriages used to be more like a business arrangement than a romantic thing so save the drama you angry feminist. Use that energy to go out and be the man you want to be.
Nothing dramatic at what I said at all. I am simply acknowledging that your marriage is a business transaction: You get money, he gets to ejaculate inside of you. It's pretty straight forward. I'm just helping you strip things down to the bare basics (no pun intended).
I am not OP. But for an angry feminist you sure aren't sticking to the script. I thought women liked sex too and just because they have it, it doesn't make them a sex object. Women can walk around naked if they want and its fine. But I guess that is only the script when it fits your agenda.
Anonymous
11/04/2012 09:13
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I could say a lot of things, but honestly, I just feel sad for you. Yes, money is nice.. but if you married for that alone, you're missing out on a lot. I would much rather be poor and in love than rich and without.
Romantic lies from a foolish woman. Who has time for love when you are working 2 jobs and still scraping by? What you would be is constantly arguing or depressed, not oooolala I am so happy I found you.
Honey, we've been there. We've had NO money. We've been where we're both working our fingers to the bone and still see red in our bank account. We're much better off now. We've never been unhappy together, and yes, I was always happy I found him. There was never constant arguing, there was no depression. There was doing the best we could with, and being thankful for what we had, and knowing that things would get better eventually.
What are you going to do if your husband doesn't have his money anymore? Because it happens. Are you going to constantly argue and be depressed if you can't get a manicure or have to fire your cleaning lady? Are you going to leave him for a man who can provide you with those things? Sad.
Anonymous
11/04/2012 09:06
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I could say a lot of things, but honestly, I just feel sad for you. Yes, money is nice.. but if you married for that alone, you're missing out on a lot. I would much rather be poor and in love than rich and without.
Romantic lies from a foolish woman. Who has time for love when you are working 2 jobs and still scraping by? What you would be is constantly arguing or depressed, not oooolala I am so happy I found you.
Yeah, it's nice to just know that every time he's balls deep in you, that's the price you pay for marrying for money.
Stop being so dramatic. You can learn to love anyone. Marriages used to be more like a business arrangement than a romantic thing so save the drama you angry feminist. Use that energy to go out and be the man you want to be.
Nothing dramatic at what I said at all. I am simply acknowledging that your marriage is a business transaction: You get money, he gets to ejaculate inside of you. It's pretty straight forward. I'm just helping you strip things down to the bare basics (no pun intended).
Anonymous
11/04/2012 08:47
Subject: Yes I did marry my husband for money.
With the recession, not as many well off guys. There are many 50 something corporate refugees.