Anonymous wrote:That's all well and good, but I don't appreciate non-parents posting parenting advice on those specific forums, because you really have NO IDEA what it's like to be a parent until you become one. None.

I am a parent, but I know of several people who have spawned children and have no clue about parenting. You are incredibly rude and stupid PP.

Anonymous wrote:And yes, I'm referring to the 29 y.o.,married to mid-life crisis guy, who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.) Then why the hell are you, and others like you, spending so much time here? it's bizarre. have you never heard of reddit?

She has step-children.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone wants bio kids, you know? Sure, it's not the norm, but people like that exist (I'm one of them).

29yo has no kids and no intention of ever having kids. It's not about bio kids at all - she is not planing to adopt.

Well, the original post made it sound like she was being discredited b/c she didn't have or want bio kids (said nothing about step kids or having no kids at all):

"who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.)" and the bolded part makes the OP sound like he/she is in disbelief that someone might not want bio children.

Anyway, I don't know this 29 year old or if she's a stepmom or not, but I have friends who have step-kids and they are excellent parents (or parent-figures for those of you who apparently don't believe being a step-parent means you have kids), plus many of them have been step parents for way longer than I myself have been a parent.

Tell me of a legal document where the step-mother of a child is listed under the rubric 'mother'.

OMG. You're probably the kind of person who always uses qualifiers- "she's an adoptive parent," "their step-children," "his half-brother," and so on. There are many, many step-parents who fill the role of "parent" better than the biological parent. Sure this 29 year old may only be a "stepmom" but who, besides you, cares?

Anonymous wrote:You all need to quit harping on the 29 year old. You are coming off as pure, hateful SHREWS. Stop all this "Our younger sisters undermine us when they reward men for this behavior!" YOU reward men for "this behavior" when you jump on the second wives like banshees. I can't get over the woman bashing that goes on here in the name of sisterhood and solidarity. "Younger women need to support their older sisters!" The older sisters are just going to shit on them for their choices in marriage and family planning. No wonder these men don't want to be married to you anymore, I mean, my God. You are insufferable. A 13 page thread bashing the 29 year old wasn't enough, you must start another?

What are you talking about? Most of us "harping" on the 29yo who needs "romantic getaways to New England" to get sex started, have been married for many years with no divorce in sight.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone wants bio kids, you know? Sure, it's not the norm, but people like that exist (I'm one of them).

29yo has no kids and no intention of ever having kids. It's not about bio kids at all - she is not planing to adopt.

Well, the original post made it sound like she was being discredited b/c she didn't have or want bio kids (said nothing about step kids or having no kids at all):

"who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.)" and the bolded part makes the OP sound like he/she is in disbelief that someone might not want bio children.

Anyway, I don't know this 29 year old or if she's a stepmom or not, but I have friends who have step-kids and they are excellent parents (or parent-figures for those of you who apparently don't believe being a step-parent means you have kids), plus many of them have been step parents for way longer than I myself have been a parent.

Tell me of a legal document where the step-mother of a child is listed under the rubric 'mother'.

You all need to quit harping on the 29 year old. You are coming off as pure, hateful SHREWS. Stop all this "Our younger sisters undermine us when they reward men for this behavior!" YOU reward men for "this behavior" when you jump on the second wives like banshees. I can't get over the woman bashing that goes on here in the name of sisterhood and solidarity. "Younger women need to support their older sisters!" The older sisters are just going to shit on them for their choices in marriage and family planning. No wonder these men don't want to be married to you anymore, I mean, my God. You are insufferable. A 13 page thread bashing the 29 year old wasn't enough, you must start another?

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone wants bio kids, you know? Sure, it's not the norm, but people like that exist (I'm one of them).

29yo has no kids and no intention of ever having kids. It's not about bio kids at all - she is not planing to adopt.

Well, the original post made it sound like she was being discredited b/c she didn't have or want bio kids (said nothing about step kids or having no kids at all):

"who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.)" and the bolded part makes the OP sound like he/she is in disbelief that someone might not want bio children.

Anyway, I don't know this 29 year old or if she's a stepmom or not, but I have friends who have step-kids and they are excellent parents (or parent-figures for those of you who apparently don't believe being a step-parent means you have kids), plus many of them have been step parents for way longer than I myself have been a parent.

Anonymous wrote:Not everyone wants bio kids, you know? Sure, it's not the norm, but people like that exist (I'm one of them).

29yo has no kids and no intention of ever having kids. It's not about bio kids at all - she is not planing to adopt.

Not everyone wants bio kids, you know? Sure, it's not the norm, but people like that exist (I'm one of them).

I don't mind childless people, but I do mind getting lectures on relationships, family and children from a clueless, childless 29yo with <5 years of marriage under he belt.

Anonymous wrote:I thought trolls were people who put up fake posts and then try to start fights for the fun of it? If that is what OP meant, then I get her question. I have no idea why people find that to be fun, but it happens all the time here. As for the off-topic forum, there was a time that people used that primarily to ask questions like, "Please recommend your electrician"- now it has turned into some weird cyber version of Jerry Springer. The train wrecks can be amusing to read, but I sometimes think 50% of the posts are fake- especially the "I'm a... ask me anything" threads like the one OP is referencing.

No, on DCUM, a troll is anyone who annoys you. Because they married an older man. Because they care about their step kids. Because they don't care about their stepkids. Because they like their hometown, at times, maybe more than they like DC. Because they go to restaurants during operating hours and expect the restaurant to be open. Because they manage to carve enough time out of their schedule to vacuum their house once a week. Because they don't hate their spouse. Because they don't care if their kid is advanced. Because they drive an SUV instead of a Forester. Because they stay home with their kids. Because they send their kids to daycare.

Anonymous wrote:The 29 year old is mother to some children, just not biologically hers. Or should we ban mothers of adopted children? Sorry her story is so irritable to OP.

Um, no she is not. She disnt adopt her stepchildren. Their mother is a totally diffeerent woman.

I don't have a kid, but I darn well know, that I don't have to have one yet, to know he won't be sleeping in my bed til he's 7, or walking around with a pacifier at 5 years old.

Anonymous wrote:And yes, I'm referring to the 29 y.o.,married to mid-life crisis guy, who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.) Then why the hell are you, and others like you, spending so much time here? it's bizarre. have you never heard of reddit?

this is a troll post. don't feed the troll.

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Anonymous wrote:I am single and do not have kids yet.
I am on here because:
* I am TTC via IVF/donor sperm (TTC thread)
* I am a Democrat (politics thread)
* I am a teacher (education threads)
* I like good food /restaurants and fashion/fitness (see those threads)
* I am a world traveler (traveler forum)

you are weird, wanting to be a single mon on very low income? How is that responsible or good for type kid.

You are cold, ignorant and narrow-minded. How's that good for your kids?