Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 23:19     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
DH makes 75K and I stay home. There are so many variables to consider, and families, bills and budgets are so different, you really can't base your decision on what anyone else is doing.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 23:15     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
I wouldn't give up my job for any amount of money. I don't make that much but I love my work.

But I'd love it if DH could make more. We are cutting it close on what I make and the little he brings in. I guess he's sort of the one staying home. He works from home, but his most valuable contribution is as SAH parent and homemaker.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 23:02     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
150k, no debt, emergency savings, reasonable mortgage and potential for huge salary growth
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:55     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
400k. We both worked full-time until DH hit somewhere around that number. At that point, the craziness of constant business travel, plus 100 hours of work or more between the two of us just didn't make sense anymore. I felt well protected economically, and quit.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:48     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never have kids and then give them to someone else to raise when they are 3 months old unless I HAD to. And if I valued independence then a job is the last thing I would have. You know I might actually try to be independent as opposed to dependent on a job and someone else to raise my kids.


I SAH and this makes no sense. Unless you saved your own $$ pre-kids to live off of, or inherited it, or won it, how can you not work, and yet be independent? I get that you want to raise your own kids full time. But how do you propose that w/o working yourself or being supported by someone else who works?


You do not understand the previous post.


None of us do...because it makes no sense. Please explain.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:40     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I would never have kids and then give them to someone else to raise when they are 3 months old unless I HAD to. And if I valued independence then a job is the last thing I would have. You know I might actually try to be independent as opposed to dependent on a job and someone else to raise my kids.


I SAH and this makes no sense. Unless you saved your own $$ pre-kids to live off of, or inherited it, or won it, how can you not work, and yet be independent? I get that you want to raise your own kids full time. But how do you propose that w/o working yourself or being supported by someone else who works?


You do not understand the previous post.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:36     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
DH makes a little over 300K a year. I stay home. Kids are in elementary school.

Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:33     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:I would never have kids and then give them to someone else to raise when they are 3 months old unless I HAD to. And if I valued independence then a job is the last thing I would have. You know I might actually try to be independent as opposed to dependent on a job and someone else to raise my kids.


I SAH and this makes no sense. Unless you saved your own $$ pre-kids to live off of, or inherited it, or won it, how can you not work, and yet be independent? I get that you want to raise your own kids full time. But how do you propose that w/o working yourself or being supported by someone else who works?
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:30     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:I would never have kids and then give them to someone else to raise when they are 3 months old unless I HAD to. And if I valued independence then a job is the last thing I would have. You know I might actually try to be independent as opposed to dependent on a job and someone else to raise my kids.


The who and the what now?
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:30     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:I would never have kids and then give them to someone else to raise when they are 3 months old unless I HAD to. And if I valued independence then a job is the last thing I would have. You know I might actually try to be independent as opposed to dependent on a job and someone else to raise my kids.[/quote


Three snaps in a circle, you go girl!
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:24     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
I would never have kids and then give them to someone else to raise when they are 3 months old unless I HAD to. And if I valued independence then a job is the last thing I would have. You know I might actually try to be independent as opposed to dependent on a job and someone else to raise my kids.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:21     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:No amount of DH's salary would persuade me to deal with the drudgery and boredom of child care & housework.

Don't want to deal with a shift in our relationship if DH has all of the economic power. Ugh.


+1
It's not just about money - it's about independence and relationship dynamics.

DON'T. DO. IT.
good point!
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:19     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:I would only stay home if I had enough money in the bank to live off the rest of my life. in my name. I love my husband, but power corrupts even saints.
love this
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:18     Subject: How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
I'm a Dad and would stay home if my wife made $150k.
Anonymous
Post 09/25/2012 22:17     Subject: Re:How much money would your spouse/significant other have to make in order for you to stay home?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mine just bumped up $100k from $300k this week and I still wold NEVER give up my job. I make $150k WAH on an incredibly flexible schedule for the Federal govt. I a17 years in with tons of leave too. I work only when my kids are in elem. school. I possibly would bump down to part time--but I will always have income and benefits. I was raised to have this mindset.


Lucky you. If I were in your position and DH made $1million a year I would probably still work. But aren't you already only part time if you only work while your kids are in school?

Btw, don't pay yourself too hard on the back for your "mindset." You've got a great gig that most people would kill for, regardless of what their husbands make.

Signed,
A SAHM because my profession imploded. Not because of my "mindset."


Agreed. Many SAHMs and FT WOHMs would kill to have that setup, but don't have the option.


Not to mention a DH that makes $400k.

"Oh, I would neeeever give up my little $150k WAH part time side job with gov't benefits that I do at my laptop while my kids are in school and my DH is out making $400k...that's just how I was raised."

Sorry to be harsh, PP. I just don't think this thread is for you.