I do Botox which DH thinks in creepy, but I just let him roll his eyes. I don't really discuss it with him. I'm not sure what I'd do if he really objected. I suspect I'd still do it.

I have those 11's lines between my eyebrows. People did notice when I had it done the first time. They didn't notice because it looked artificial, they noticed because I looked happier. The 11 lines always made me angry or unhappy because I was scowling all the time. After Botox, I didn't look that way.

There are definitely docs out there who overdo Botox and it looks awful. But as a PP mentioned, people often confuse badly done fillers with Botox. If you go to someone good, you'll come away looking better, not overdone.

Botox certainly isn't for everyone, but I am happy to appear happier.

Anonymous wrote:Don't ask, don't tell!

+1000

I've been doing botox for a year and DH has no idea -- which is great! I started it at just the right time, that he didn't notice a major reversal in appearance. Trust me when I say this to you, that I am forever thrilled at the effect it has on my appearance. I am a natural blond with very fair skin and prefer the natural look. My dermatologist is excellent, but I have wondered if I should check around for a plastic surgeon to do the botox to see if there would be any other recommendations made on how the botox is used.

Go for it!

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Anonymous wrote:DH here. Ultimately, it is your face, so of course you have the final say.

I think a lot of men prefer the "real" look of a woman, not an artificially "improved" look with Botox. If you're 37, there is nothing wrong with having some wrinkles. It would be weird if parts of your face look like they are much younger.

But again -- it's your body, just wanted to let you know how I look at it.

OP, my dh is like this dh. I think you're lucky that your dh loves the way you look without botox. Like this pp said, it's your body but I hope you appreciate your dh!

+1

I don't go into detail with DH on how I pick a pimple, wash my face, condition my hair or manage personal body hair. To me, botox is the same.

Kind of a no-brainer- if you are bleaching your anus or waxing your moustache that's your business; who has to know? I like to be beautiful without a breakdown and discussion. Take ownership of your beauty- why point out what you are doing?

DH has expressed he's creeped out by surgery and doesn't much like botox either but he points out the extremes like the posters on here as well. When it's good, you don't know (ie if you are old with no nasolabial fold, you look bizarre and unnatural). Fillers are worse (unnatural than botox) imho. Fillers give botox a bad rap because most people don't know the difference and blame it on botox.

Having said that, when it's time, I won't be asking permission. I don't drink, sun or smoke so if I need it it won't be any fault of mine and he knows that.

Don't ask, don't tell!

I'm not against Botox but do worry about toxins so close to the brain. Does anyone really know how years of Botox affect us in the long-term? Isn't it a relatively new thing (for cosmetic purposes)?

Anonymous wrote:DH here. Ultimately, it is your face, so of course you have the final say.

I think a lot of men prefer the "real" look of a woman, not an artificially "improved" look with Botox. If you're 37, there is nothing wrong with having some wrinkles. It would be weird if parts of your face look like they are much younger.

But again -- it's your body, just wanted to let you know how I look at it.

OP, my dh is like this dh. I think you're lucky that your dh loves the way you look without botox. Like this pp said, it's your body but I hope you appreciate your dh!

To the 22:24 poster, what an idiot thing to say.
Tough call to do it against his wishes as you seem to have a fairly solid relationship and since he is opposed to it, getting it done with or without his 'blessing'is the same thing. You would know!
Personally, I'm all for it.....
I recently tried it and love the results. I had dinner with friends the other night, whom I've told I had it done, and they all saidd it was so subtle that they would not have noticed, but they whould just have noticed that I don't look as "tired and drawn"!
I went to Dr. West in Chevy Chase and really loved the results. I also informed her that I did NOT want to be 'over-done' and she was great about listening to my wishes!
Good luck OP!

Anonymous wrote:Ultimately, my husband would have to decide for himself what will make him happy. It is "his body, his choice". Isn't this the mantra that we as woman use?

Right. Because deciding to undergo a cosmetic procedure is JUST LIKE deciding to have an abortion.

My husband doesn't know. Get it done at a low level first. You can always get a little more the next time if you want. I look more refreshed, like I have been sleeping better and being more healthy.

I guess you've already discussed it so that makes it harder.

Ultimately, my husband would have to decide for himself what will make him happy. It is "his body, his choice". Isn't this the mantra that we as woman use?

What if your husband were balding and wanted to get a toupee or hair transplant? And you thought he looked great as-is (and might look ridiculous with plugs)? How much weight would you want him to give your opinion?

OP--you said your husband was pretty laid back and rarely voiced strong opinions like this. The bottom line is this: is this hill you want to fight? Is it really that important? Only you can answer.

Remind him that it will only last three to six months. Its not permanent.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is he against it? Cost or some other reason?

If it's cost, you have to respect his wishes.

I'm not comfortable with "respect his wishes." Marriage is a partnership. They need to make financial decisions together. The cost may be a very legitimate concern for their family. I was wondering if he has medical concerns which may also be very legitimate. We're not talking about dh being opposed to you choosing a certain nail polish color. This is about injecting something into your face.

I don't care if you're comfortable with it or not. That's a stupid thing to waste money on. And if that's his problem with it, she should have some respect for it. Her vanity doesn't trump his wishes to not spend money so frivolously.

OP here. I think I already mentioned this - it's really not about the money. Dh couldn't care less if I spent 1k on a bag, for example