don't hold a grudge, just do what you want without regard for what they're doing. if this one-upmanship is a theme in the friendship, that's more of a problem than the choosing of the wedding location.

obviously the place seems to be one where a lot of people get married. if it was that oh so special, weddings there would be rare no?

who cares? its not like you guys are having the same decorations, dj, food, etc etc. his is on new years and yours is 10-11 months later.

Are you over 21 OP? If so, I'm not sure you are ready to get married. If this bothers you, are you going to be giving up any SN children for adoption due to not being able to handle the stress?

OP, learn the lesson: stop telling people the details of your plan, so that they can't copy it. It's like not telling your baby names, otherwise someone else may use it.

Henceforward keep the details to a very trusted, very few (preferably already married).

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Lots of other people will have their weddings their too. It will also be there special place. How dare you hone in on that???

Since it's not too far away, have you thought about renting a vehicle to bring everybody and renting a large place for them all to stay? I have no idea where you are located or what you special site might be, but this may be a way to lower costs.

I know a friend did this. A big group of their friends from college and their 20s piled into one of those monster commuter vehicles and all went to a gorgeous rural in Georgia, where they stayed in a Bed and Breakfast that the bride and groom had basically rented out.

The more professional, grown up type friends, family friends, extended family, etc. managed the transport on their own and didn't come early for all of the pre-wedding activities.

Sounded fun to me.

Anonymous wrote:OP, NEWS FLASH if your friends can't afford it then they won't be saving or going to your wedding, period. Every destination wedding I've been to (too many) random folks that like to travel show up. Rarely do most close friends or family because, as non-travel junkies, they spend money elsewhere.

This is a blessing in disguise. Make your wedding locale so your well, sick, and poor friends & family can be there. Seriously.

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I truly don't understand this. Unless you are getting married either in your parent's living room or in the Oval Office, why does it matter that they are getting married in the same place, at a completely different date. Explain to me what the problem is. Am I missing something? How does this affect your wedding, which I assume is going to have completely different guests for the most part, a different theme, and a different bride and groom. How does this affect your life?

If you told me they were getting married on the same date, okay, that would be a problem. But what is the problem here?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Vent allowed! I'd be pissed too. However, there is exactly ZERO you can do about it. So you'll need to forgive and move on....

That's what I keep telling myself. Fiancee says we'll just have to one up him for our wedding. I think he was joking....I think.

You are being ridiculous. Your wedding is over a year away and friend's is a bit over four months away . Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.

I wouldn't care. Are other brides allowed to have the same ring, dress, hairstyle or honeymoon? Because you know, they will. Why care? Spend your crazy on something else.

It would never occur to me to be upset about this....

Oh please, the bride always pick the details about the wedding. I doubt it was the guy's choice.

This is "off topic". Why shouldn't she post here!?
This website is not just for parents.

Why do you need to find a different location? Just have the wedding you want, wherever you want it. People will come if they can come. It's so stupid to be like "we can only have MY wedding there or it won't be special". What are you, like 19?

The way I see it he is a friend so neither your family nor your fiance's will be at his wedding.

All of your common friends know you "called" this location first so he looks like the bad guy.

This is really no big whoop.

Unless of course you are just worried that his wedding will be great and you'll be left trying to do one better for all the common friends. . .