My ILs do one of "just the family" at every event where everyone gets together. I joke and call it their "divorce insurance" photo. That way if any of the kids gets a divorce they can just use the photo without the spouses. It has bothered me to varying degrees over the years. Keeping a sense of humor with ILs is important even if their actions sometimes sting a bit. (My DH and I have been together 18 years, married 15).

Omg 9:45! I cant believe she claimed to be "deleting" your pics after years of not including you. They are brats. F them

^^Well that gave me a panic attack just reading it.

I am the annonymous with the calendar issue
this is how I replied to it:

Original Email

Subject: last call for calendar pix!
I want to finish it up over the weekend...need summer, winter, and christmas pics if you have them!

thanks!

--
HER

My response:
This is the first I'm hearing of this.
I will see what I can come up with by this weekend, I haven't even printed our cruise pictures yet.lol
ME

(She responded that she may have sent the original email to my work email - my work email is set to delete all but official emails approved by the BOSS.)

My response:My response to the calendar pictures is honest and one that has been thought through for a while.
I talked it over with Andy and have decided that in light of some of past events in relation to pictures being taken of DS and myself not being included, before and after Andy and I were married, it won't be necessary to put mine and DS's pictures in the calendar.
I came to the conclusion last year that it wasn't because Andy and I were not married. This has in turn hurt feelings, and caused mixed emotions. So to eliminate any more confusion, we will respectfully bow out of the calendar. I can respect the need for familial separation, I just wish the line were a little more clear. I think in passing we have touched on this before, but last year when the pictures were taken of the children, and DS was not invited, I called MIL and she said she had nothing to do with the decision as to who was included, I then understood. I'm sorry I didn't respond earlier, I have been thinking of the best way so as not to come across impolite.

I have, however, included a few pictures of DSD and DH from the cruise.

Thanks for understanding.
ME

Her response:

No worries, I'll delete the ones I already have in the calendar of you and DS. Thanks for the ones of DSD and DH...

My Response:

Thank you for understanding.
I sent 3 emails there were 8 pictures and some may have been repeated, the first couple times I tried they wouldn't go through.

Have a good rest of the day!
ME


So as you can see i did not cave and I set the foot print for not being walked over anymore. I felt like a big weight had been lifted.

Self involved, unaware assholes. F them