Anonymous wrote:Please do not put the burden of rape on your child. If you tell him or others, that is what you will be doing. You will put a label on him he absolutely does not need. Please allow him to create his own path and self without ruining him with the label "child of rape".

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There is no need to go to this level of detail! I know a number of adopted children and this level of detail is NEVER required when their parents are asked about the adoption, which in and of itself should be private too... let alone the details of who created the child.
It should be more than sufficient to say the birth mother and father are not together.

Family member of adopted baby. For some reason my brother and SIL made up a bizarre story about niecec birth parentage, which came down to bm doesn't know who bf is. They should have just said something along the lines of "we don't have much info". Now at every family function there is gossip about "what really happened." Keep the story to yourself and child when appropriate.

I would definitely hold the information to just you (and your spouse/partner if applicable) for now. When your child is a young adult, I think this is information that I would consider sharing. But not anytime soon.