Anonymous wrote:Hi OP, I would never judge someone for being overweight. I honestly probably wouldn
't notice you and certainly would not be able to identify that your purse was a fake. I don't post snarky comments on this site about someone's appearance, but I can't imagine anyone in real life is thinking such things. Unless they are 12.

+1. Only label whores notice other label whores. I wouldn't know a designer bag if it rained down on me. The only people I ever notice are the ones who dress like me and whose style I admire. Think elegant, less trendy

Anonymous wrote:What do all the put-together thin women do for a living?

I ask because in my experience, the really brainy women (and men) do not make fashion a priority. I mean nerdy brainy. Scientists, accountants, policy wonks in the back rooms crunching numbers, etc.

They marry rich men.

And I do judge women who wear outrageous clothes. Saw a senior citizen in a minidress with a whole lot of cleavage last night.

I'm not thin or fat (I'm "athletic" which means leg muscles but not slender), not rich and I buy clothes that are comfortable, easy to take care of, and look nice. Cotton, Target, Jcrew, and shoes I can actually walk in go a long way.

Here's the thing, I'll admit that sometimes I silently judge how other women look when bored (say, when riding Metro). Truth be told, I'm no fashion icon myself, so who am I to judge others anyway? Also, I find my superficial judgments go out the window as soon as I know more about the person. After even a five minute conversation, it's their personality/spirit that I find either attractive or unattractive.

Anonymous wrote:I don't know anyone rich or skinny that rides the Metro. Since you brought it up.

Some of us slum it from time to time, you know, to remain cultured.

Op, as a woman who is thin, fashionable, and semi well-off, I will tell you that most of us that fit in that category are only watching each other, noticing shoes bags hair jewelry etc. sad but true, you're not on our radar.

OP I hope you continue to lose weight If nothing else you will be healthier and likely feel better. As you lose weight, you might decide to buy different types of clothing. Not necessarily more expensive, but maybe more stylish. Smaller sizes tend to be more stylish. When you are at a better weight and dressing better, how will you look on people like the version of yourself you described in your post?

I am a nerd with a job that requires me to sit on panels, pose for photos, etc. I buy most of my clothes from athleta. I can work out, shower, put the workout dress back on with a jacket and jewerly.. . I am presentable. My cheeks are flushed from exertion, so I don't need much make-up. I will put on heels. Don't know. . .makes me feel like a grown-up when I doubt my material.

OP- Considering how much time I devote to my appearance, I would NEVER cast jugement on others. This is just me, but I would consider it a good day if I was clean, in clothes that were comfortable and appropriate for wherever I was headed, and that my kids didn't weren't neglected in the process of me getting ready.

That's just me. Be comfortable in your own skin. Don't worry what other people think. Do what makes sense for you.

NP here. I am not rich or thin but hope every day that I at least look "cute" and pulled together and hope that others who might see my extra weight might take into consideration that I am a busy mom who works and takes care of my children who hasn't yet found the time for exercise and all the other things that go into a healthier lifestyle.

I truly believe that in about a year, I will be freed up to focus more on myself. Do others believe that this could actually be true and not just a cloud of denial?

I'm not thin, but I'm not fat. I'm not poor, but I'm not rich. I'm a solid size 10.

I work out pretty much every day because I enjoy it. I also eat a good amount. If I'm hungry, I eat. I usually eat healthy, but I don't deprive myself of anything. My motto is everything in moderation. I don't understand these women that starve themselves. If I am hungry, I turn into a mean, nasty bitch to my family (not usually to strangers) so to avoid that I eat regularly.

I own my own business, but usually work from home. I wear work-out clothes and sneakers 90% of the time. I can wear the same thing to work when I work out of the house. My hair is usually in a ponytail. I love being comfortable. If I'm going out, shower, brush my hair, and put on something cute, (but comfortable).

Maybe you think I'm frumpy. I don't really care. I take care of myself and I also clean up pretty well. I have more important things to do than spend massive amounts of time getting ready in the morning. I have no one to impress. You can like me for who I am or not.

I don't know anyone rich or skinny that rides the Metro. Since you brought it up.

OP, tell me seriously that you are not concerned about what people on DCUM think?!?!?!

Some of my good friends are very wealthy and you would never know it. They don't have to impress anyone and certainly not anyone here.

Are they all thin? Nope. One has a really bad health disorder that she never asked for. She was thin all her life, then when she became sick she became bigger. Probably three of her old self, probably four times her old size. I know it bothers her. But frankly, she is the nicest person I know, and a world class mom. She happens to be very bright also. Do I hate her and judge her? No way. While she seems to have everything from the outside, we all have our battles. Don't ever think that one person has it better than the next, or you would be sorely mistaken, very naive and missing out on some great friendships.

Anonymous wrote:I have a comfortable income and am thin. I don't post judgy remarks about people's looks/attire. Perhaps this post does not fully apply to me but I'll offer the following comments.

If you watch the show "What Not To Wear," Clinton/Stacy never tell anyone to lose weight. They try to get people to wear clothing that is size appropriate and flattering to their body type no matter what the size of the week's guest. Everyone has a body type and figure, no matter how overweight. Pear shape, round, square, whatever. Dress to that type. For instance, they point out that capri pants shorten the body and do not flatter. Loud prints and blaring colors similarly are not flattering; neither is an all-black palette.

Work with what you have. Dress with taste and with confidence. And judgy women are never in style and no one on DCUM likes their obnoxious posts.

This! Watch "What Not To Wear" and figure out what you look good in based on your body type. It's all about rocking your silhouette. And don't forget your confidence. It goes a long way to feeling good in your own skin and in the world. Have you considering a stylist? It's expensive, but they can teach you what works for you and target your shopping. For example, I have large breasts. I know I have to find v-necks, even when I spy pretty tops that would never work out for me.

I wouldn't remark on your capris, more casual mommy style ever. I'd be more likely to notice you struggling with your three kids in a metro elevator and offer to help. FWIW - I'm not rich or super thin, just happy with myself. I think you need to indulge a little in your inner sexy. Just saying.

I definitely don't care what you wear!!! I wouldn't even notice. I am on the thin side because I have always exercised--though muscular--not a stick.

I am on the wealthy side for dcum too and considered attractive. I dont dress up anymore since I now WAH full-time. I got rid of all of my nice work clothes about 5 years ago. I wear my workout clothes (and not lulu lemon) during the day since I head to the gym NW save time by showering after picking kids up. This means all daytime errands I look like crap and like I don't have a job or any $. I don't care.

I pull out the make-up and a hot outfit, heels the nights we go out. I also tend to dress a little nicer at casual events since I never dress up during the week.

I live in an urban neighborhood and most moms dress similar to me. At Whole Foods some bitchy in office worker women will give me the puss face because they assume I am a SAHM taking up their lunch time--but I am on my lunch break too.

DH and I are definitely the 'millionaire next door types'. Our house was really expensive--but we aren't into designers or fancy cars.