Divorce your loser husband.

Anonymous wrote:Rule #1 never help anyone move.

Rule #2 never drive anyone to the airport.

If these people can navigate around europe for a couple of weeks by themselves they can certainly pack themselves into a cab and get to their car parked in Fairfax.

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Rule #1 never help anyone move.

Rule #2 never drive anyone to the airport.

If these people can navigate around europe for a couple of weeks by themselves they can certainly pack themselves into a cab and get to their car parked in Fairfax.

Anonymous wrote:It's nice to have someone you love welcome you home. So clearly OP should not go.

OP is not going. Her H is going.

It's nice to have someone you love welcome you home. So clearly OP should not go.

THat is insane. We live 20 min from Dulles and a cab there is pretty inexpensive, around 30-35$.

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You're not angry about the car ride, you're upset that DH isn't spending more time with DD. He's showing that he is in fact capable of showing devotion to family----it's just that it's not to you guys, his DW & DD, but to his parents.

Address this issue, not the ride to Dulles.

I agree.

But I can also relate to the absurd indignation of being picked up by a car service. When my cousin got married, her mom's friend flew in from England and expected the mother of the bride to pick her up from the airport the night before the wedding. This was an indian wedding, so a 3-day affair. My aunt literally had not slept the night before, so sent a car service (a limo, no less) to pick up her friend. Upon seeing that her friend hadn't *personally* picked her up, she turned around and took the next flight back to London. Crazy, right?

For reals? Are they friends now? How did they mend the relationship?

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You're not angry about the car ride, you're upset that DH isn't spending more time with DD. He's showing that he is in fact capable of showing devotion to family----it's just that it's not to you guys, his DW & DD, but to his parents.

Address this issue, not the ride to Dulles.

I agree.

But I can also relate to the absurd indignation of being picked up by a car service. When my cousin got married, her mom's friend flew in from England and expected the mother of the bride to pick her up from the airport the night before the wedding. This was an indian wedding, so a 3-day affair. My aunt literally had not slept the night before, so sent a car service (a limo, no less) to pick up her friend. Upon seeing that her friend hadn't *personally* picked her up, she turned around and took the next flight back to London. Crazy, right?

You're not angry about the car ride, you're upset that DH isn't spending more time with DD. He's showing that he is in fact capable of showing devotion to family----it's just that it's not to you guys, his DW & DD, but to his parents.

Address this issue, not the ride to Dulles.

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Anonymous wrote:And what does DCUM have to do with this? What kind of help are you expecting?

Really just venting ....and maybe a reality check to see if this is truly crazy or maybe I'm just not seeing it right.

You're not seeing it right. It's common courtesy to pick relatives up at the airport. Duh.

The only thing I will add to this is that it sounds like the parents LIVE in this area and were trying to save money etc. by not parking at the airport or taking a taxi to/from the airport etc. I do think this is different than a relative coming in town to visit you. It's also not a situation where the parents can't drive or don't have the money (I'm assuming) to get themselves to and from the airport. If I am supposed to take off work and have an insane rush hour commute to go to the airport - not to spend time with you, but to drive you to your car 15 minutes away - no way. That to me is a transportation favor not a courtesy/guest pickup and it would be well within my rights to say I can do it around my schedule (e.g. you will have to eat dinner at the airport and I get there 2 hours after your flight) or say that I can book you on supershuttle (if want to pre-pay for your parents). It may have been since brother was so close to the airport it made sense for the parents to save money by parking there and having that son drive them 15 minutes to the airport - it wasn't asking for a big inconvenience (assuming their flight didn't interfere with the son's work hours) at the time. The return flight however is shaping up to be a different story. The issue with DH not spending enough time with DD etc. - different issue altogether.

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Anonymous wrote:And what does DCUM have to do with this? What kind of help are you expecting?

Really just venting ....and maybe a reality check to see if this is truly crazy or maybe I'm just not seeing it right.

You're not seeing it right. It's common courtesy to pick relatives up at the airport. Duh.

But in your country, multiple generations live in the same house.

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Anonymous wrote:And what does DCUM have to do with this? What kind of help are you expecting?

Really just venting ....and maybe a reality check to see if this is truly crazy or maybe I'm just not seeing it right.

You're not seeing it right. It's common courtesy to pick relatives up at the airport. Duh.

I find it obnoxious. I have never asked anyone to drive me to the airport. The shuttle services are great. I refuse to impose on friends and family. My husband and I are mostly aligned with this though his family asks for some crazy shit and sometimes he does it just to shut them up.

When I was younger a college friend insisted on visiting me at grad school. She pushed and I was more eager to please then. I had to pick her up at the airport-long drive, but NBD. What was a big deal is her return flight left crazy early in the morning and I had to leave to drive her to the airport at 3:00am after taking her out that evening and I had a crazy schedule the next day. Ever since that I have used the word "no" with more confidence.

That would annoy me too. Especially if your husband doesn't have time to spend with you/your family. Suggest the limo idea and if he's not interested, then let it roll off your back and just enjoy your time with your child.

Anonymous wrote:I don't get this mentality, but my father had the same mindset: there is something about being picked up/dropped off at the airport by family that means something and asking him to take a cab was like some kind if rejection or insult. Had nothing to do with the $$ saved on cab fare, either.

+1. My mom is like this. She would be highly insulted if we asked her to take the metro or taxi or super shuttle. Now, to her credit, she understands that rush hour traffic is insane and would be flexible on her arrival time so we aren't picking her up in rush hour traffic or she would offer to eat at the airport and wait for us etc. if there was no other option on flights. I could in a strange way see her not get insulted if we had a car service for a time we were in a pinch. So bottom line, DH can say he can do it, but not until later that day so he is only catching some of rush hour traffic and they wait at the airport till he can get there or he and his brother go in for a car service. Give up forcing the taxi idea unless you want this to cause problems.