So happy I no longer live in DC.

3rd in your top 20 law school, sad thing is, you don't know what's important in life. You've got tunnel vision. I can read it in what you write and how you write. You bend over so far backwards to congratulate yourself because you are afraid nobody else will, even anonymously, online. And if that's not enough you seek validation via strangers. You try SO hard, and everyone sees it. Ask yourself: who is smarter, the college dropout who gets people, reaches out, and tries to genuinely connect, or the Important Feeling Lawyer who spends hours -- great chunks of time out of every day -- on an online site filled with strangers, laboring over the perfectly crafted comeback for nothing more than the imaginary high fives of the few online strangers you've managed to impress? It's possible you're perfectly nice. It's possible you're a great person with a bad habit of seeking validation for your ability to "zing" someone. But MOST people don't really think it's clever. Most people are not impressed. So why bother with all of that hard work for such an imaginary and sad payout?

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, I'll start. I graduated 3rd in my top 20 law school class and clerked for the US Supreme Court. Now your turn.

I guess you weren't reared to think modesty is a virtue?

Just helping out the fellow DCUMer who seriously doubts that DCUM is talent-filled. And I'm curious about the "excpetionals" among us as well.

Can it be considered bragging if it's anonymous?

Is modesty more of a virtue when it's deserved or when it's not? For example, I have a Harvard PhD, but a rather mediocre career thereafter. I try to be modest about both, but figure I can be prouder of my modesty about the degree than about the career. Is it immodest to brag that I am modest about the degree, or would modesty have stopped me from mentioning it, even anonymously? Have I tied my modesty logic into knots? Have I tortured my attempt at ironic humor to the point of agony?

Let me live in the house by the side of the road where the race of men go by;
The men who are good and the men who are bad, as good and as bad as I;
I would not sit in the scorner's seat, or hurl the cynic's ban;
Let me live in a house by the side of the road and be a friend to man.
-- Sam Walter Foss

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The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

I would seriously like stats on that assertion. Cuz I don't buy it. DC is like any other large-ish city, and I don't think it has the market cornered on the exceptionals.

Ok, I'll start. I graduated 3rd in my top 20 law school class and clerked for the US Supreme Court. Now your turn.

I guess you weren't reared to think modesty is a virtue?

Just helping out the fellow DCUMer who seriously doubts that DCUM is talent-filled. And I'm curious about the "excpetionals" among us as well.

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The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

I would seriously like stats on that assertion. Cuz I don't buy it. DC is like any other large-ish city, and I don't think it has the market cornered on the exceptionals.

Ok, I'll start. I graduated 3rd in my top 20 law school class and clerked for the US Supreme Court. Now your turn.

I guess you weren't reared to think modesty is a virtue?

The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

AHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA! Enjoy the rest of your life here in DC with your kind! You deserve it!

The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

I would seriously like stats on that assertion. Cuz I don't buy it. DC is like any other large-ish city, and I don't think it has the market cornered on the exceptionals.

Ok, I'll start. I graduated 3rd in my top 20 law school class and clerked for the US Supreme Court. Now your turn.

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Anonymous wrote:I am half assuming that someone will post something mean in response to my post. Please resist the urge. Just for Memorial Day?

The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

I would seriously like stats on that assertion. Cuz I don't buy it. DC is like any other large-ish city, and I don't think it has the market cornered on the exceptionals.

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Anonymous wrote:I am half assuming that someone will post something mean in response to my post. Please resist the urge. Just for Memorial Day?

The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

Hm. I'm a former debate champion and have a couple of degrees and yet I don't think it's necessary to be cutting or mean. I love and appreciate a good debate but that's different from the rude for no reason folks, who just don't seem to get it. I don't think that's a sign of "smarts" in any way.

This, a thousand times this. There are some DCUMers who are truly "smart and witty" and use language accordingly. Then there are some bottom feeders who confuse "smart and funny" with 4-letter words and smack-downs.

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Anonymous wrote:I am half assuming that someone will post something mean in response to my post. Please resist the urge. Just for Memorial Day?

The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

Yuck, you are so full of yourself, I need to vomit

And she's wrong in many cases. There are some smart people here - you can usually tell by the writing. But there are some real morons who *think* they're incredibly smart and that we all need to benefit from their incredible wit. I wish the latter would go stick their heads in the Potomac.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure you will consider this mean, OP, but that's not why I'm writing it. It just strikes me as odd when people come on here asking everyone to be nice when that is clearly not the character of this particular message board. Who are you that you expect everyone else to change just to make you comfortable? We can check with Jeff but I really don't think the mean posts are written by a few disgruntled people. I think a lot of people like DCUM the way it is. Nobody has a gun to your head to read the mean posts, or to even come on here at all. (Once you've been on here a while you will be able to tell pretty quickly whoch threads are likely to get snarky.). There are thousands of other message boards if this one is not right for you. But coming on here and expecting something different from what it is seems either very naive or very entitled, or both.

Thank you! I enjoy this place for exactly what it is, a place to hear exactly what people think - uncensored. I post things here to get a real opinion. Sometimes, it hurts, but if you can't take it - go to babycenter and get someone to give you (((((hugs))) and baby dust and sprinkle rainbows and sunshine up your ass.

Some people want the cold, hard, truth.

Truth and candid words don't equate to rudeness and a lack of kindness.

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Anonymous wrote:I am half assuming that someone will post something mean in response to my post. Please resist the urge. Just for Memorial Day?

The problem with DCUM is it's frequented by very smart and witty people whose smarts and wit are often laced with snark and cutting humor because, well, that's who they (we) are. They (we) also have strong opinions, and being D.C., most of us are former debate champions, law review editors, or the like. Yes, it would be nice if they (we) could check ourselves more often. But it's hard denying who we are. And, it's also liberating to truly let loose every once in a while.

Hm. I'm a former debate champion and have a couple of degrees and yet I don't think it's necessary to be cutting or mean. I love and appreciate a good debate but that's different from the rude for no reason folks, who just don't seem to get it. I don't think that's a sign of "smarts" in any way.

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure you will consider this mean, OP, but that's not why I'm writing it. It just strikes me as odd when people come on here asking everyone to be nice when that is clearly not the character of this particular message board. Who are you that you expect everyone else to change just to make you comfortable? We can check with Jeff but I really don't think the mean posts are written by a few disgruntled people. I think a lot of people like DCUM the way it is. Nobody has a gun to your head to read the mean posts, or to even come on here at all. (Once you've been on here a while you will be able to tell pretty quickly whoch threads are likely to get snarky.). There are thousands of other message boards if this one is not right for you. But coming on here and expecting something different from what it is seems either very naive or very entitled, or both.

Thank you! I enjoy this place for exactly what it is, a place to hear exactly what people think - uncensored. I post things here to get a real opinion. Sometimes, it hurts, but if you can't take it - go to babycenter and get someone to give you (((((hugs))) and baby dust and sprinkle rainbows and sunshine up your ass.

Some people want the cold, hard, truth.

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Anonymous wrote:Eh, just ignore the mean posts. Really. Don't let them get to you and scroll on by.

Sometimes people are just having a bad day and take it out on here. Better that, then they take it ou on their kids! Or, not to be totally crude, but I'm convinced that some of the mean posters in here really just need to get laid more.

In fairness, some of the meanies freely admit this.

My DH can get like this sometimes. If I feel like he's being cranky for no good reason, I'll sometimes think about the last time we had sex and realize that's all it is. Amazingly enough, he's in a much better mood the next day! Works for me too, but seems to affect DH a bit more.

If we go more than about 2 days without sex (usually if DH is on a work trip) I start acting kind of wonky. Quick fuse, short temper. DH can usually read these moods and tell me I need my "smart injection." LOL.