Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 19:37     Subject: Re:I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Jabba the Hub

Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 19:34     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
OP, I’m sure you’d husband believes you get lots of time to yourself, when the toddler naps, is babysat, you can go to a gym with babysitting, and honestly a toddler should not need constant attention.

I work and bring home the toddler and while I make dinner I give DD a bowl and spoon and some dried pasta, and that entertains her for the whole time while we ‘cook’ together.

Assuming your DH is a breadwinner, even if it is a desk job it is a lot of weight on the shoulders to worry about providing for his family, and likely can’t slip away and take a nap or go to the gym like you can. He can be drained by the weekend, esp if stressed or long commute and hours every day.

Honestly, you might consider a part time job and preschool

We are an egalitarian household regarding chores, but we both work and that’s part of that arrangement. And we NEVER get time t ourselves to really relax. But we also both have relatively low stress jobs and neither is on the hook for ALL the money.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 18:57     Subject: Re:I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:OP, we both work because my DH would totally take advantage if I didn't put in as many hours or make as much as he does. We are THAT 50/50. That said, we approach time off this way:

Spouse #1: Hey babe, I would like some time off without kids from 9am until 1pm on Saturday. Is that something your schedule can accomodate? I will return the favor on Sunday, Saturday night, or the following weekend - whatever works.
Spouse #2: Ok. (Or, we negotiate if one of us had something we were planning to do but hadn't discussed yet.)

OP, your DH does work, and not that his job is the hardest thing in the world, but he doesn't get alone time, either. The whole point is to give each other a break from everyone else, including your DC.

That's why it's so great when DH is gone, because you get alone time when DC is sleeping. Once you have 2 kids, you realize that you really do need alone time to be happy in a marriage and relationship. You might also consider a scheduled activity every saturday AM - like a fitness class - something that DH can expect and then, in turn, develop his routine with DC. (And yes, the house will be a disaster and DC won't nap and DH will grumble, but he WILL get used to it, and so will you.)



Same here. My H is utterly lazy, stupid and misogynistic around the house — and unappreciative— so no way I’m quitting my career for that.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 18:23     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait ... I'm supposed to get blowjobs? Because I'm a great dad and husband, make good money, do a lot around the house -- and, no bjs. Really, not much sex either.

I'd hate to think it's the dudes like OP's husband who are getting all the loving.


Does your wife really not want to have sex with you, bjs or otherwise? Are you fat? Smell bad?


Yeah, that must be it! You must be new here...


Have you never seen a guy let himself go after he's married? Its no prettier than when a woman does it. No one wants jabba the hut flopping around on them. Just sayin'


Ha ha ha, so true!
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 18:22     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait ... I'm supposed to get blowjobs? Because I'm a great dad and husband, make good money, do a lot around the house -- and, no bjs. Really, not much sex either.

I'd hate to think it's the dudes like OP's husband who are getting all the loving.


Does your wife really not want to have sex with you, bjs or otherwise? Are you fat? Smell bad?


Yeah, that must be it! You must be new here...


Have you never seen a guy let himself go after he's married? Its no prettier than when a woman does it. No one wants jabba the hut flopping around on them. Just sayin'
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 17:46     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
The problem is unrealistic expectations. Women like OP actually believe feminist propaganda that men are supposed to help out with household chores and child care.

Nope.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 17:33     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hate weekends. My S.O. thinks he needs to sleep til noon and acts like all life in the house needs to be on hold as he sleeps. My 4 year old can not make a peep from the time he wakes up til the time my SO wakes up or I will never hear the end of it. I am pregnant with baby #2 and terrified of what life will be with a crying baby on top of it all. What the heck am I to do? I need a sound proof room to keep me and the kids in all the time he is home.


What to do? How is this a question? You go APE SHIT on his ass and he can either get over himself or HE can never hear the end of it. Why are you afraid of bitch-toddler husband? LAY DOWN THE LAW.


The best thing is to screen for certain characteristics before you get married. Do not be the woman who overlooks things in order to snag the man. Op comes from a household where she can afford to stay at home . . . hire help. If this doesn't work, then get a job.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 17:13     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:I hate weekends. My S.O. thinks he needs to sleep til noon and acts like all life in the house needs to be on hold as he sleeps. My 4 year old can not make a peep from the time he wakes up til the time my SO wakes up or I will never hear the end of it. I am pregnant with baby #2 and terrified of what life will be with a crying baby on top of it all. What the heck am I to do? I need a sound proof room to keep me and the kids in all the time he is home.


What to do? How is this a question? You go APE SHIT on his ass and he can either get over himself or HE can never hear the end of it. Why are you afraid of bitch-toddler husband? LAY DOWN THE LAW.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 17:06     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wait ... I'm supposed to get blowjobs? Because I'm a great dad and husband, make good money, do a lot around the house -- and, no bjs. Really, not much sex either.

I'd hate to think it's the dudes like OP's husband who are getting all the loving.


Does your wife really not want to have sex with you, bjs or otherwise? Are you fat? Smell bad?


Yeah, that must be it! You must be new here...
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 17:04     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:Wait ... I'm supposed to get blowjobs? Because I'm a great dad and husband, make good money, do a lot around the house -- and, no bjs. Really, not much sex either.

I'd hate to think it's the dudes like OP's husband who are getting all the loving.


Does your wife really not want to have sex with you, bjs or otherwise? Are you fat? Smell bad?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 16:59     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:I hate weekends. My S.O. thinks he needs to sleep til noon and acts like all life in the house needs to be on hold as he sleeps. My 4 year old can not make a peep from the time he wakes up til the time my SO wakes up or I will never hear the end of it. I am pregnant with baby #2 and terrified of what life will be with a crying baby on top of it all. What the heck am I to do? I need a sound proof room to keep me and the kids in all the time he is home.


What in the hell?
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 16:51     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
I'm just posting this because it's an anonymous forum: get over yourself and get some balls. TELL him what you're going to do. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Change the dynamic - if you change, it will change.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 13:56     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent

You walk up to him and start yelling.

Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 13:48     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Wait ... I'm supposed to get blowjobs? Because I'm a great dad and husband, make good money, do a lot around the house -- and, no bjs. Really, not much sex either.

I'd hate to think it's the dudes like OP's husband who are getting all the loving.
Anonymous
Post 12/20/2018 13:46     Subject: I hate weekends b/c my husband is around but not much help! vent
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:a man doing housework is a bitch



Yea he might be a bitch, but he is sooo getting a blow job later!


Show me where the broom is!


Nonsense. If doing housework meant guaranteed blowjobs, every house in America would be sparkling clean. She'll just find another excuse to withhold sex.