If the neighbor didn't tell OP to get a sitter, then forget about the swinging and x-rated movies. You guys are hilarious, how would that work with OP's bored five-year-old wandering around?

Conversely, if OP is worried about the remote chance these are swingers, and she's not into it, then bring the kid along. Problem solved!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They're swingers. That's how it starts.

yes, agree

We were "approached" in a similar manner. Apparently, the networks are large!

They must think you're a hot couple!

yuck

what happened?

Anonymous wrote:They're swingers. That's how it starts.

My thoughts exactly, haha!!

Swinging ALWAYS starts in basements? So there are no swingers without basements?

Anonymous wrote:I wish I had a neighbor who would invite us over for movies. It sounds fun. Not sure I understand what difference it makes whether it is in the basement or not. Some people don't have room for a big TV on their main floor. If the issue is that you don't know what to do with your child, that makes sense, and you just need to explain it. But I don't see why the "basement" should have anything to do with this.

ITA! In fact, some folks consign the TV to a finished basement or bedroom (and at least she didn't invite you there!) because they think it's tacky to have a huge, honking flat screen in the living room. Also, it could indeed be what's called a "media room" around here, with a big home theater. More likely, it's probably nicer than just the moldy couch and milk crates, or she wouldn't have invited you.

My guess is, she likes you guys well enough to suggest moving from formal neighborhood do's to something cheap, friendly and casual. We'd normally offer dinner at our house not a movie, but maybe she's thinking dinner too. Or maybe she's really bad at small talk, or doesn't want to spend dinner having it out with your crazy (insert political party here) DH. No reason to assume swinging at the mention of basements (who are you people?) or even r-rated movies, since she suggested bringing your kid along.

But if you don't like movies period, then you need to decide whether her request hasn't permanently destroyed your opinion of her. If you still think there's hope, then suggest something different like dinner.

Anonymous wrote:They're swingers. That's how it starts.

yes, agree

We were "approached" in a similar manner. Apparently, the networks are large!

They must think you're a hot couple!

yuck

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I were in the situation, I'd just tell them that my husband can't sit through a movie. It's completely true. He has no interest in going to the movies and only rarely will watch one at home. It cuts into his smoking cigars and reading the Economist time. Seriously, we would never accept an invite like that because it would bore my husband to tears.

If you ask me, reading the Economist and smoking isn't a rip roaring good time either. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

your husband sounds like the dork.

I would assume they have a very nice finished basement with a nice home theater and huge tv, and they want to do something low key. Have a few drinks and watch a movie. Millions of people do that every night. OP is a weirdo.

Anonymous wrote:If I were in the situation, I'd just tell them that my husband can't sit through a movie. It's completely true. He has no interest in going to the movies and only rarely will watch one at home. It cuts into his smoking cigars and reading the Economist time. Seriously, we would never accept an invite like that because it would bore my husband to tears.

Smoking cigars...so disgusting.

Such snobs here! I would assume it's an entertainment room, ask if it's a kid friendly movie, and GO. I guess no one here makes new friends ever.

That's a lot of question marks in one post, OP! Just decline and move on.

Anonymous wrote:If I were in the situation, I'd just tell them that my husband can't sit through a movie. It's completely true. He has no interest in going to the movies and only rarely will watch one at home. It cuts into his smoking cigars and reading the Economist time. Seriously, we would never accept an invite like that because it would bore my husband to tears.

If you ask me, reading the Economist and smoking isn't a rip roaring good time either. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

In our house the kids watch the movie in the basement and the adults sit upstairs in the kitchen or outside drinking wine and talking.

Anonymous wrote:If I were in the situation, I'd just tell them that my husband can't sit through a movie. It's completely true. He has no interest in going to the movies and only rarely will watch one at home. It cuts into his smoking cigars and reading the Economist time. Seriously, we would never accept an invite like that because it would bore my husband to tears.

We should be friends! This sounds like my husband...wait, IS this my husband?

^^absolutely! There is no way I would agree to it under any circumstances. I would not want to feel obligated to sit there (especially if I was hating the movie) or to pay a babysitter for that night either.

I would rather poke my own eyes out than do that.

I'm sorry but my first thought is that they are swingers seeing if you are into the lifestyle. Do you mean 'adult movie' or 'grown up movie?'

Why would they mention a basement? Why not just say 'wanna come over for a movie' instead of 'wanna come down to my basement?' It sounds weird.