Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:41     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Non-drinker here. So you guys wouldn't be my friends? I'm surprised - but I guess I should have figured that people are thinking that behind my back.

Just to let you know. I wish I could drink.


Why can't you? FWIW I would not care if you did not drink and were my friend. I would only have an issue if you were smug or condescending about my drinking
Recovering alcoholic. Oh yeah, I hate people who are smug and condescending about this. I usually just don't mention it and let people figure it out when I order a coke.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:35     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
are racist or overly judgmental.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:35     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
who say racist things. judge my parenting style.

i am friends with someone who is mean to her husband. it's embarassing but i don't know what to do??
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:29     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Anonymous wrote:Guess we can't be friends OP, though I have the feeling I wouldn't be missing anything.

I don't drink...I do go to events with my friends who drink and I just order a soda. It doesn't bother me or them, so I really don't see a negative with that. I am usually the dd.

I am not going to complain to my friends about disagreements I have with my dh. I wouldn't want him complaining about me to his friends.

-I can't be friends with people who feel the need to smoke/do drugs around me.
-Gossip, look down upon, tear down others for any little thing



What do you talk about? Policy, politics, religion?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:28     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Anonymous wrote:
yes it really does annoy people. you say you are close and love each other, but you clearly don't like each other. leave the arguing at home.


How is correcting your spouse arguing?

I personally can't be friends with people who are so black/white about everything...like this person.

I prefer friends with an open mind and positive attitude. Not ones who will judge you secretly behind you back if - heaven's forbid - you correct your husband when he gets your anniversary date wrong or something like that.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:23     Subject: Re:I can't be friends with people who.....
who would rather complain and be martyrs than do anything about any problem.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:23     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
OCD people who nit pick their kids so much that the poor kids are self harming. It is so sad. I just can't be around this person and keep my mouth shut.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:22     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Never want to talk about anything but kids/parenting.

Trash talk their spouse. Petty complaints, okay, but if you're just ranting on your spouse, get a therapist.

Can't laugh at themselves or have no sense of humor in general.


Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:21     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
also, being a serial homewrecker. Once I can forgive, but three times now? Come on, get a clue.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:20     Subject: Re:I can't be friends with people who.....
who send me constant chain emails or email forwards
who are racist or bigoted
who bite their fingernails constantly
who MUST drink in order to have a good time
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:20     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Text me constantly, and then get a tude when I don't immediately validate your sensless messages. Serve me alcohol and then say "I bet your DH thinks I am a bad influence." Whatever. Also when I find out you have been telling your other "buddy" the private things I have told you, its over.

Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:19     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:corrects their spouse in front of me (major pet peeve)



Uh oh I do this a lot. Does it really annoy people? We just have that kind of repertoire in our relationship... We still are very close and love each other.


yes it really does annoy people. you say you are close and love each other, but you clearly don't like each other. leave the arguing at home.
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:14     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
people who constantly hit me up for $$$ for their own exercise programs (Team in Training, etc.). . . .
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:14     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Anonymous wrote:....Have out of wedlock kids with a man they just met who happens to already have children.

Sorry, that's just my pet peeve.


Does this come up often?
Anonymous
Post 05/11/2012 13:13     Subject: I can't be friends with people who.....
Anonymous wrote:....Have out of wedlock kids with a man they just met who happens to already have children.

Sorry, that's just my pet peeve.


Let me guess, your ex had a child with someone he just met?