Chiming in late, and I hope this issue has gotten better. I don't know if anybody has said this, but I would definitely talk to the preschool director. As a former teacher, I would say that it's not acceptable for your child's teacher to label students and especially not to do so in public. The fact that she went on the offensive when you asked her to change her behavior signals that she is overwhelmed and unable to address the situation--and that's what principals are for. I feel like you were really compassionate in the way you laid out the situation on this forum, and I'm sure you will not come across to the principal as a whiner. I really hope that s/he can address the situation with the teacher and perhaps have a follow-up meeting with both of you so you can clarify expectations and proceed on a friendly note.

I'm glad you posted here, though, because if you had the sense that the teacher's behavior was unacceptable, you are absolutely right. Your child deserves to have his best self welcomed into the class every day, and you deserve that for him, too!

OP, have you heard about Hearts Apart?

It is a wonderful program put on by the base family support centers (they all have different acronyms depending on branch of service).

This program is a wonderful resource for families facing deployment. They offer regular family events where they feed you, entertain your children, and provided you with networking and friendship opportunities with other spouses in the same position. They have resources available to help you and your child cope with the emotional upheaval of deployments, many designed especially for children like your son.

Is your husband part of a squadron? Did he leave a point of contact for his organization?

They should be in regular contact with you. If not, give them a call and find out the contact info for your key spouse. This person is specially trained to act as a mentor and liason for spouses like you.

There are so many wonderful, free resources available through the bases; please look into this. You are strong but no one can face a deployment by themselves. You need the base network, and other spouses who really understand.

Anonymous wrote:I'd pull him. I had an issue with a preschool, where they said horrible things about my child. They diagnosed him with all kinds of things, said he would never read, or be in a mainstream classroom. Fast forward 5 years, he is in fine. No diagnosis, no issues, I have no idea what they were talking about. We spent years running to therapy and evaluations chasing something that wasn't there.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. This seems to be very common nowadays.

I'd pull him. I had an issue with a preschool, where they said horrible things about my child. They diagnosed him with all kinds of things, said he would never read, or be in a mainstream classroom. Fast forward 5 years, he is in fine. No diagnosis, no issues, I have no idea what they were talking about. We spent years running to therapy and evaluations chasing something that wasn't there.

Anonymous wrote:maybe he has a career in stand up

LOL!!! He probably will.