Anonymous wrote:i always feel guilty having coffee in front of my mormon nanny. especially if its my second cup.

don't feel guilty. Trust me, she doesn't care!

Mormon nanny here... I don't care at all what you drink so long as it doesn't directly affect me or the kids. The only thing I ask is that you please respect my choice not to drink. Don't pour a glass of wine for me after I've repeatedly declined and then force me to do cheers with it because it's so and so's b-day. For me, that is EXTREMELY awkward because it's not my custom. I will never give you flack for drinking coffee, alcohol, whatever, but please respect me when I decline to partake myself. No means no.

Anonymous wrote:Of course!

I would refrain if the person was an alcoholic, but, for religion, no.

+1

Of course!

I would refrain if the person was an alcoholic, but, for religion, no.

Anonymous wrote:When in doubt, ask. "Do you mind if I order a glass of wine?"

Generally I don't think they would mind. I don't mind if people eat wheat/gluten in front of me even though I can't eat it. I have vegetarian friends who wouldn't blink if I ate meat in front of them (although if they told me it did, I would respect that).

+1. This was what I was going to say. The OP seems to be concerned about the courtesy. If you're trying to be courteous, ask them if they mind if you have a drink.

When in doubt, ask. "Do you mind if I order a glass of wine?"

Generally I don't think they would mind. I don't mind if people eat wheat/gluten in front of me even though I can't eat it. I have vegetarian friends who wouldn't blink if I ate meat in front of them (although if they told me it did, I would respect that).

Anonymous wrote:i always feel guilty having coffee in front of my mormon nanny. especially if its my second cup.

We had a few Mormons and Seventh Day Adventists who cared for Dad when he was ill (CNAs).

very judgmental overall

They didn't last.

i always feel guilty having coffee in front of my mormon nanny. especially if its my second cup.

I have a friend who is religious and doesn't drink. She also doesn't like other people to drink if we're all out at a restaurant. I no longer go out to eat with her.

BTW, I'm a Christian and have no problem with drinking or others who do.

Anonymous wrote:I have several Mormon friends and I have never seen any of them care at all if alcohol is consumed around them.

+1

They don't care because they have no desire to drink.If we were talking about a recovering alcoholic, that would be a different story

I would not drink around them if it was the 12 step religion.

Anonymous wrote:I am Mormon and couldn't care less when people drink around me. It would make me feel akward if I knew someone was passing up something that they enjoyed just for my PERSONAL choice. Most of my Mormon friends feel the same way, so I wouldn't give it another thought.

+1 on that sentiment (Muslim here who does not drink for religious reasons). Along those same lines, we don't care if you eat/drink around us while we are fasting during Ramadan. It's simply an "opt-out" mentality.