Anonymous
03/17/2016 19:23
Subject: Re:My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
I totally understand. I work second shift, 3-11 from home. I never had a real need to have my LOs schedule differ from mine. We would nurse while I worked, ate, etc. She is now three and will be entering PreK soon, and I cannot get her on a schedule. If I put her to sleep at 8, she is back up by 11pm and then we are up until 2am. I try waking her early to get the day started and again try the early bed time - still she wakes up. I am exhausted. I am so worried about how this is going to play out when school arrives!
Anonymous
06/30/2013 13:13
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Anonymous wrote:Holy Lord. Benadryl?? Just parent MORE and be consistent - honest to God. I say that as nicely as I can - no snark. I have a 3 yr old and a one year old. 1 yr old just dropped her second nap - I seriously cried. Then shook it off. Now 3 year old is dropping hers too....tragic, really. Has to happen though. Now both are overtired and pulling nighttime BS. Little one will be standing in crib when I go up with her hands over her eyes because she is so naughty and sweet at the same time she cant bear to even look me in the eye. She is easy. 3 year old is a pistol. We have been dealing with her waking the little one up now with her shenanigans for a few nights with warnings. Finally last night, she was pulling her stuff and I warned her twice and then third time I went up and as promised hauled her ass downstairs with her blanky and pillow and set her up in the basement cot. It isnt horrible in our basement - it is actually cooler and furnished so it isnt a kid's nightmare but she was hysterical. I told her she made her choice and she can stay down there so that she doesnt wake up her sister and choose differently tonight. She cried for a while and about 15 minutes in, we went down and she was very verbal and said she really wanted to be quiet in her bed. So we took her up ans she went to sleep. Tonight's bedtime came around and I reminded her what happened and she looked very serious. I asked her where she would rather sleep reminding her she would have to be quiet and she chose her room with her sister. Not a peep since then. I didnt enjoy what happened last night either - not one bit. I hate hearing her cry hysterically and it was a shit show. But now look. Peace and quiet and the baby AND toddler get a full night sleep. Tomorrow is looking up. Set limits and keep them. At 3, they can get it.
YES, This. Totally agree, PP. Hard to be this consistent and tough but consistency WORKS. Set limits and make/watch things change.
Anonymous
06/29/2013 22:07
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Op, if your child sometimes falls asleep in front of the tv could you try a "light show" kind of contraption that she can watch? My three year old watches a projection on the wall by a sleep machine that is designed for much younger kids but it seems to help him....we adults can do things like read ourselves to sleep but a three year old cant and may find it hard to wind down without some distraction while falling asleep....worth a try! And I agree about trying for an earlier bedtime....
Anonymous
06/29/2013 06:10
Subject: Re:My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Anonymous wrote:we are 11 here (also three years). It takes him about 30 minutes of laying in bed quietly (with us beside him!) in the dark to fall asleep - it just takes him a while (me too - even as a elementary child it took me 30 minutes to an hour from putting my head down to sleep). And getting him to where he will lay in bed quietly and not romp around has been an ordeal. We are doing 30-45 minutes of book reading now with lights low before turning off the lights- and that seems to help as done the "threat" that if he doesn't lay still his dad will pick him up and dance him (? no clue why he responds to that - it isn't a punishment but just how we used to help him settle down when he was younger. Maybe because it takes him out of bed with me?). He isn't in preschool yet and sleeps till 9 or 10am, so I am hoping when we have a 7:00 or 7:15 morning wake-up that everything will get pushed back and we'll have a 9pm asleep boy. What I suspect is that we'll have a longer nap so that we are just looking at 10:00 rather than 11:00. But at this point, 10:00 seems like a gift.
Good luck.
This is absolutely ridiculous. You need to drop the nap and move waking up time earlier. Sleeping until 9 or 10 in the morning? Don't you see that your child is sleeping 12 hours or so - so if you bit the bullet for a week you could shift that to 7 to 7 or 8 to 8 versus this awful 11 p.m. to 11 a.m. This is NOT healthy for your kid. I have a 5 and 7 year old. The latest they have ever been up is probably 9 and that is a HUGE exception - as in we were out seeing a show maybe 2x ever in life.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 22:25
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Holy Lord. Benadryl?? Just parent MORE and be consistent - honest to God. I say that as nicely as I can - no snark. I have a 3 yr old and a one year old. 1 yr old just dropped her second nap - I seriously cried. Then shook it off. Now 3 year old is dropping hers too....tragic, really. Has to happen though. Now both are overtired and pulling nighttime BS. Little one will be standing in crib when I go up with her hands over her eyes because she is so naughty and sweet at the same time she cant bear to even look me in the eye. She is easy. 3 year old is a pistol. We have been dealing with her waking the little one up now with her shenanigans for a few nights with warnings. Finally last night, she was pulling her stuff and I warned her twice and then third time I went up and as promised hauled her ass downstairs with her blanky and pillow and set her up in the basement cot. It isnt horrible in our basement - it is actually cooler and furnished so it isnt a kid's nightmare but she was hysterical. I told her she made her choice and she can stay down there so that she doesnt wake up her sister and choose differently tonight. She cried for a while and about 15 minutes in, we went down and she was very verbal and said she really wanted to be quiet in her bed. So we took her up ans she went to sleep. Tonight's bedtime came around and I reminded her what happened and she looked very serious. I asked her where she would rather sleep reminding her she would have to be quiet and she chose her room with her sister. Not a peep since then. I didnt enjoy what happened last night either - not one bit. I hate hearing her cry hysterically and it was a shit show. But now look. Peace and quiet and the baby AND toddler get a full night sleep. Tomorrow is looking up. Set limits and keep them. At 3, they can get it.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 21:54
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Wake your kid up earlier. That will nip it in the bud.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 14:46
Subject: Re:My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
we are 11 here (also three years). It takes him about 30 minutes of laying in bed quietly (with us beside him!) in the dark to fall asleep - it just takes him a while (me too - even as a elementary child it took me 30 minutes to an hour from putting my head down to sleep). And getting him to where he will lay in bed quietly and not romp around has been an ordeal. We are doing 30-45 minutes of book reading now with lights low before turning off the lights- and that seems to help as done the "threat" that if he doesn't lay still his dad will pick him up and dance him (? no clue why he responds to that - it isn't a punishment but just how we used to help him settle down when he was younger. Maybe because it takes him out of bed with me?). He isn't in preschool yet and sleeps till 9 or 10am, so I am hoping when we have a 7:00 or 7:15 morning wake-up that everything will get pushed back and we'll have a 9pm asleep boy. What I suspect is that we'll have a longer nap so that we are just looking at 10:00 rather than 11:00. But at this point, 10:00 seems like a gift.
Good luck.
Good luck.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 10:18
Subject: Re:My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
- Cut the nap. Lay down the law at preschool.
- Start bedtime earlier. Finish by reading a book laying down together (this helps lower the adrenaline tremendously)
- She is definitely chronically overtired. Try to physically wear her out for the first few days you try this new strategy (no nap, earlier bedtime) -- maybe this weekend. No TV, go outside and get her to run around, do something fun (playseum, swimming, etc) then earlier bedtime.
- Start bedtime earlier. Finish by reading a book laying down together (this helps lower the adrenaline tremendously)
- She is definitely chronically overtired. Try to physically wear her out for the first few days you try this new strategy (no nap, earlier bedtime) -- maybe this weekend. No TV, go outside and get her to run around, do something fun (playseum, swimming, etc) then earlier bedtime.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 08:09
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My three and five year olds go to bed no earlier than 10:30pm. I wish I could convince my wife to stop allowing this.
Aren't you part of the bedtime routine sometimes? My husband gets frustrated with me on bedtime sometimes but also won't participate. Youcant criticize if you aren't willing to help. Bedtime issues sometimes are a result of me being so f*cking exhausted that I will do whatever I can to get some sleep. Husband watching TV or on his phone while I do baths and teeth and bed dont bother me unless he starts in with his "suggestions." My "suggestion" that he take over while I relax was met with total silence on his part.
Wow you are one angry woman. You have no idea what he dynamic is like in the PPs house or what he has tried or what he does. Stop projecting and deal with your anger issues.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 08:06
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Anonymous wrote:10 is normal for my 3yo. She seems wired similarly to me.
Her DD is falling asleep in the car and in front of the TV. Both signs she is sleep deprived and overtired. It isn't normal or healthy to be sleep deprived.
OP dos your daughter wake up on her own in the am or do you have to wake her up - if you have to wake her up that is another sign that she isn't getting enough sleep.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 07:07
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Anonymous wrote:My three and five year olds go to bed no earlier than 10:30pm. I wish I could convince my wife to stop allowing this.
Aren't you part of the bedtime routine sometimes? My husband gets frustrated with me on bedtime sometimes but also won't participate. Youcant criticize if you aren't willing to help. Bedtime issues sometimes are a result of me being so f*cking exhausted that I will do whatever I can to get some sleep. Husband watching TV or on his phone while I do baths and teeth and bed dont bother me unless he starts in with his "suggestions." My "suggestion" that he take over while I relax was met with total silence on his part.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 02:03
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Who are these crazy ppl advising a parent to give a child medication? Jeezus.
Looks like what I was going to say has been said before: cut the nap.
I have a 5 almost 6 year old who sometimes has a long wind down, especially in the summer when the sun's out 'til 9. We are happy if she stays in bed, even if she brings in a zillion books. Eventually she falls asleep in the pile. If our evenings are quiet, we're good with that.
PS: Morning rolls in the hay are very nice.
Looks like what I was going to say has been said before: cut the nap.
I have a 5 almost 6 year old who sometimes has a long wind down, especially in the summer when the sun's out 'til 9. We are happy if she stays in bed, even if she brings in a zillion books. Eventually she falls asleep in the pile. If our evenings are quiet, we're good with that.
PS: Morning rolls in the hay are very nice.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 00:56
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Anonymous wrote:Would drop the nap. Would tell daycare she needs to sit quietly with a book or puzzle but not sleep. I would have a stroke if my kids didn't go to bed until 10!
We had the same problem and this is what we had to do. Your DD is ready to drop her nap. That's why she is up 2 hours longer than she is supposed to be at night. Trust me, this is a transitional period. You will get past it and soon you will be on a better routine. Hand in there!
Anonymous
06/28/2013 00:32
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Time to tell daycare to stop with the naps.
Anonymous
06/28/2013 00:00
Subject: My 3-year-old won't go to sleep until 10
Do NOT give a small child Melatonin and Never cut a pill!