Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't know why I'm shocked at how nasty people are. To the Mexican food poster: you realize this was to my 2.5 year old, right? I wasn't complaining about frickin' Mexican food. I was barely complaining about the Oscars. I was expressing hurt that my husband lashed out in a way that was surprising and felt like a deliberate low blow. Yes, I understand I can google the Oscars. That wasn't the point. Whatever...

I thought passive aggressive responses were the preferred way of handling marital problems on DCUM. Sounds like your husband reads this site.

OP - I understand your post. DH and I are in marriage counseling now and are on the brink of divorce. We are learning it is the little things that do a marriage in, because they are based on deeper resentments etc. We are trying to figure it all out now. Take my advice and get marriage counseling - it's not healthy to want to hurt each other like this. Marriage is tough, it is normal to get where you are, people all over America are in your same boat. Many people refuse to deal with the issues and the hurt and then divorce. That is what we are hoping not to do. You both need to do something about it. Talk about it, get to the deeper issues.

Look, OP, we all stoop to low places when our lives are seemingly ruled by a little dictator (aka, a 2yo).

But you and OP need to have some make-up sex, apologize, and call a truce. You first. It's ok to laugh about how you're acting like idiots and unhappy with your lives right now...now is the time to have some of those 'when DD is older, we will...go on vaca? buy X? do XYZ?' discussions to give you something to look forward to.

It sucks, but be the bigger man and tell your DH you're sorry you went off on him and it was silly to do so. (Really, your DD will not be scarred for life by this one incident.) Get your frustrations out in the sack and then call a truce. Give each other some space (take turns having 'nights out').

Signed,

someone who is also married to a child

Hahahahahahahaha!!!! Good!!!

OP, I get what you are trying to say, and I get why you are alarmed. Your husband is being very immature. You need to have a talk with him and make sure he realizes that you are now parents and this is NOT how to handle conflicts. Your DD is learning this behavior and it's not setting a good example. Throwing out the strawberries would be just as immature so don't do that. tell him he has to grow up. then get past it. Yes, it was a dumb thing for him to do but remember it could be worse. My DH sometimes reacts in a really childish way and I hate it too! Good luck with everything...

did you grow the strawberries yourself?

15:02 here. I meant to say, "I knew we wouldn't be able to make it to my kids FRIENDS bday party..."

OP
I'm sorry that everyone's being mean. I'm sure you just needed to vent and it came out very quick and not detailed enough. Many of us have done that. I'm sorry you and your husband are having problems.
Maybe he used the restaurant punishment because he truly felt like he needed to give her a real consequence. I've actually done this before. One time I knew we wouldn't be able to make it to my kids birthday party and all week she was being very bratty, so I finally said "if you do that again, we're not going to _____'s bday party" and sure enough, 10 minutes later she did said action. I told her we weren't going. That was that. She was pissed but she was due for a big consequence.
I know you may think it's not right, but maybe he had a reason. I don't think parents should argue and not be on the same page in front of children though.
And you're husband is def being immature with the Oscars thing.

These are the threads that give DCUM a bad name. And it's OP's fault, not the responders. OP will surely swear off DCUM and say that it's all a bunch of nasty bitches. And the stereotype will continue. OP will not understand that her post made no sense to a bunch of people who have no reference other than what was written. I have no idea if they are having other problems, if she is a perfect wife at all other times and he's a jerk, if they're both immature, what on earth she means by the story with the Mexican food, etc. Here's my summary as far as I understood it from reading - "My husband was teasing my daughter about Mexican food, I got pissed, he deleted the Oscars, and now I'm going to throw out all these chocolate covered strawberries in front of him."

Mexican food, trivial gossipy TV and wasted desserts - hysterical, OP, you have to admit.

If you want real advice or just want to rant, then say so, and describe the situation with some detail and background so we have some idea what you want or what you're upset about. Then I promise you the a-hole to helpful poster ratio will be much more balanced to the latter.

what would have been worse for OP would be if the husband deleted the DVR AND gave away all the winners to her in the morning to rub it in.

just ruin it completely for her in case she was able to get online and see the replay.

You forgot about making brownies with ex lax. Then you taunt him with brickbats like, "smooth move, slick."

Anonymous wrote:wet your finger and stick it in your husbands ear when hes sleeping.

take his teddy bear away from him when you two go to bed

break his playstation or erase his high score on his favorite game

give him the silent treatment

TP his car

put a ton of salt in his dinner tonight

any of the above should make him see the error of his ways.

Don't forget the classic: put his hand in a bowl of warm water while he's sleeping.
Oh yeah, and short sheet his side of the bed. That'll teach him.

Withhold anal.

and youll be back OP. this isnt the "last time" youll be posting in this thread