Anonymous wrote:Honestly it gets a little old hearing people talk about how they needed to live their lives before having a kid at 40. You will likely die before your child is finished needing you, and not really get to have much of an experience with grandchildren. Kinda selfish to keep saying me, me, me, I traveled!! Think it, fine, but no one is impressed. You should be less worried about your energy level than the fact that you will probably miss out on a lot of DC's life, and may saddle the kid with an aging parent while he/she has young children. Just sayin', save the "I lived, and that's what's important" crap.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Mom @ 15: I totally respect your position. But I admit that I have used the statutory rape legal argument with my just turned 18 yo son (when discussing his relationship with his 16 yo girlfriend).
Very interesting. My husband is two years older and we honestly never had this discussion nor did I ever have this conversation with my parents. I guess because it didn't apply until I was 16 and by that point, we'd had a child.
Anonymous wrote:Back on topic: If I could have everything I have now, but just be younger, yes. I am 45 with a 6 year old and a 5 month old. At 38 with my first, it wasn't so bad. At 45 with my second, everything hurts, and I am pretty fit.
That being said, DH is 50 and he and I still run around chasing the 6 y.o. and playing. They do keep you young.
DH will be 69 and I'll be 63 when no. 2 graduates from high school. 73 and 67 when she gets out of college. Then we'll travel the world (oh, wait, we did that before kids).
Anonymous wrote:Mom @ 15: I totally respect your position. But I admit that I have used the statutory rape legal argument with my just turned 18 yo son (when discussing his relationship with his 16 yo girlfriend).
Anonymous wrote:Honestly it gets a little old hearing people talk about how they needed to live their lives before having a kid at 40. You will likely die before your child is finished needing you, and not really get to have much of an experience with grandchildren. Kinda selfish to keep saying me, me, me, I traveled!! Think it, fine, but no one is impressed. You should be less worried about your energy level than the fact that you will probably miss out on a lot of DC's life, and may saddle the kid with an aging parent while he/she has young children. Just sayin', save the "I lived, and that's what's important" crap.
Anonymous wrote:Honestly it gets a little old hearing people talk about how they needed to live their lives before having a kid at 40. You will likely die before your child is finished needing you, and not really get to have much of an experience with grandchildren. Kinda selfish to keep saying me, me, me, I traveled!! Think it, fine, but no one is impressed. You should be less worried about your energy level than the fact that you will probably miss out on a lot of DC's life, and may saddle the kid with an aging parent while he/she has young children. Just sayin', save the "I lived, and that's what's important" crap.
Anonymous wrote:PP, you know 15 is below the age of consent, right? In many jurisdictions (including DC) that would be statutory rape. How do you discuss this with your kids?
Anonymous wrote:No, especially when I see the inane things that young parents do.