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Anonymous wrote:I do miss my DINK life at times, but also realize that I had outgrown it.
OP here. How did you know that you had outgrown the DINK lifestyle? What if you feel you haven't outgrown the DINK lifestyle yet? Should you just go ahead and have kids if you're already in your mid-30's or should you wait until you feel you've outgrown it? I haven't gotten to the point of feeling bored of the DINK lifestyle yet, probably because I feel that even though DH and I have been married a long time, we haven't gotten to spend that much quality married time together because of DH's long hours and stressful job (70 hour weeks plus some weekends).
OP, no, you shouldn't have kids just because you are in your mid-30s.
It sounds like your husband works long hours and you don't feel you have seen a lot of him, traveled enough with him, and done all the things you want to do. He won't suddenly have more time to spend with you if you have kids! You haven't outgrown your DINK lifestyle and it sounds like that lifestyle is quite important to you.
I don't think you should try to have children until your heart is really pulling you to do so. yes, that might mean that having chidlren won't be something you do. But that's OK!