Anonymous wrote:There's no arguing what's known to the most successful people: always write a thank-you note after every interview (private school, college, internship, job, etc.). I always write a thank-you, and so do my children. My children and I have gotten into every school to which we have ever applied, and I mean HYP. . . .

Anonymous wrote:We didn't write any thank you notes and my son was accepted to GDS, Sheridan and Sidwell and waitlisted at Maret and rejected at Beauvoir. This was 2 years ago.

I do write thank you notes for every gift, vacation house freebie, dinner party and random unexpected nicety that comes my way. Like when my neighbor picked me up at the Sibley ER last year as a favor. I force my kids to write thank you notes for gifts although, I am sad to say, they hate it and complain all the way.

I will urge DC to write TYs to a college recruiter who spends time interviewing them, really talking to them, etc.

I make no apologies for not "thanking" the admissions staff for hosting a cattle call tour, playdate and Q and A session known as an "open house."

Your DC didn't get my DC's spot.


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Anonymous wrote:There's no arguing what's known to the most successful people: always write a thank-you note after every interview (private school, college, internship, job, etc.). I always write a thank-you, and so do my children. My children and I have gotten into every school to which we have ever applied, and I mean HYP. . . .

My dc have gotten in everywhere too. I/we. did not write a thank you note to any.

Anonymous wrote:There's no arguing what's known to the most successful people: always write a thank-you note after every interview (private school, college, internship, job, etc.). I always write a thank-you, and so do my children. My children and I have gotten into every school to which we have ever applied, and I mean HYP. . . .

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who serves on an admissions committee of a competitive school that's talked about on these boards all the time. The one and only piece of advice she gave me for going through this process is to write a thank you letter after our interview. In a sea of otherwise similar applications (great WPPSI scores, playdate, teacher rec), when you have one file with a thank you letter, it stands out and will almost always come out ahead of the other similar applications w/o a letter.

Was your DC accepted (at schools other than where your friend is in the admissions committee) or are you currently applying?

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who serves on an admissions committee of a competitive school that's talked about on these boards all the time. The one and only piece of advice she gave me for going through this process is to write a thank you letter after our interview. In a sea of otherwise similar applications (great WPPSI scores, playdate, teacher rec), when you have one file with a thank you letter, it stands out and will almost always come out ahead of the other similar applications w/o a letter.

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Anonymous wrote:Non-thank you note writing PP here. Why would I thank them? It seem pretentious to thank them. I think we have very different views on education/role of private schools.

Np here. (kid had 3 accepts 2 yrs ago). They're selling you something. Why would you show gratitude to an entity that is hoping to sell you a product?

When you tour Equinox, LA fitness and Sport and Health, because you want to find a good gym for you, do you hand write a letterhot the membership manager thanking for his time after he gives you a tour and after your 1hr complimentary workout (playdate)? Would it occur to you at all to wax on about how you could "really see yourself there" and how Equinox seems like such a great fit?

Private school is the same business model but with more limited membership. And that's the crux --competition. Not manners. Writing letters to school is about competing. So do write if you think it means you're more likely to win, but stop insulting everyone by claiming you're more "polite" and demonstrating good manners by writing.

Wrong analysis. The selling model you use is inapt to school applications. School interviews are analogous to college interviews and job interviews: good form is to write a thank-you note after an interview.