Anonymous wrote:I hope it is one Neanderthal man attacking OP. Her H didn't ask her to buy certain foods, he didn't go out and buy what he had been eating (assuming it is her job to do all the shopping, which is quite an assumption), he didn't tell her this wasnt working for him and ask her to propose a solution. He went out and bought junk he never eats at home. At the very start of her diet.

That's hostile. They aren't roommates, they're partners. A lot of men get nervous when their wives improve their appearance. This is a much more likely explaination then that OP was starving him.

That one gave me a chuckle. OMG she's not fat anymore, she has options!

Anonymous wrote:If he wants to eat his junk food in his house, then there isn't any reason why he shouldn't do so.

It isn't his responsibility to keep his wife dieting, and if he suggested that she need to eat better he would be pilloried on this forum.

Apart from love and support of his partner. Or the fact that he could easily eat junk once or twice a day outside of the house at work or elsewhere. What kind of view of marriage do you have?

If he wants to eat his junk food in his house, then there isn't any reason why he shouldn't do so.

It isn't his responsibility to keep his wife dieting, and if he suggested that she need to eat better he would be pilloried on this forum.

"I started eating only fish/pasta/veggies and keeping the house full of mostly healthy food options---translation: I didn't buy anything at all at the store that my husband likes and I threw out all the stuff that I might eat and shouldn't"

Oh, come on. He's a grown up. He likely works and can eat whatever he wants 5 days a week for breakfast, lunch and snacks. He likely also has opportunities on weekends, whether out running errands, at parties, etc., to eat whatever he wants. There's no excuse for him filling the house with junk, and frankly no reason why he can't eat whatever OP is preparing for dinner, at least most of the time. And if he truly can't live without junk food in the house, he presumably also has a mouth and can use it to suggest that OP buy him one or two items per week for himself to eat with the promise that he'll keep it in a separate place so it won't tempt OP. He's just being a passive aggressive ass.

I hope it is one Neanderthal man attacking OP. Her H didn't ask her to buy certain foods, he didn't go out and buy what he had been eating (assuming it is her job to do all the shopping, which is quite an assumption), he didn't tell her this wasnt working for him and ask her to propose a solution. He went out and bought junk he never eats at home. At the very start of her diet.

That's hostile. They aren't roommates, they're partners. A lot of men get nervous when their wives improve their appearance. This is a much more likely explaination then that OP was starving him.

Anonymous wrote:Where did OP day she was imposing her diet on him?

----I started eating only fish/pasta/veggies and keeping the house full of mostly healthy food options---translation: I didn't buy anything at all at the store that my husband likes and I threw out all the stuff that I might eat and shouldn't---

Anonymous wrote:Where did OP day she was imposing her diet on him?

She didn't this time. But his actions say he had to in the past. People often omit the little details that don't support their side of the story. But I bet tree used to be lots of rules about what food was not allowed due to her past diets.

Where did OP day she was imposing her diet on him?

Unilaterally imposing your poor diet choices on your husband is nasty. He's probably tired of the diet of the week=plain fish and steamed naked veggies, with minuscule portions. Eat real food in reasonable portions, avoid the nasty yukky processed carb crap, and move your fat rear...this will equal real sustainable weight loss.

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Anonymous wrote:(Obese) DH here.

If the guy hasn't brought junk food before, this is pretty odd and I don't think the OP deserves the flaming she's getting.

Agree. OP, if he doesn't normally buy that type of food, at best he is totally freakin' clueless, or at worst, he is a passive aggressive ass. I would try to talk to him about it if you can.

While it is true that it is ultimately up to you, it sure makes it a heck of a lot easier if your loved ones support you. If you can't get the support from home and are interested, I would recommend taking a look at Weight Watchers. You can go to meetings and/or join online. They have message boards (like DCUM, but nice ) where you can get tips support.

Best of luck OP.

He sounds like a guy who's been let off a very tight leash. I bet dollars to donuts that this guy has been living with his wife's diets for years, but on this go-round he's finally free to eat what he wants for the first time. So he's going to live it up for a while now that he's free to do what he wants. OP is pissed but she is not admitting that she drove him crazy before.

He may be threatened by the idea of a hotter you.

Wow people are missing the fact that OP's husband bought junk he doesn't usually buy. In response to her dieting he brought crap into the house. That's a mean move. I'm sorry, OP.

Please succeed at being healthy anyway. I wish you luck.

Maybe he just wants more of you to love.

Husband sounds like a passive aggressive, immature, sabotaging PITA, in my opinion. GL w/ the diet, OP!

DH may be being a jerk, but your diet does not have to be his diet. What you should do is compartmentalize his food and your food. Have a part of the fridge reserved for your food and part reserved for his. Get two cabinets, one for yours and one for his and this way you can avoid his food and reduce the temptation. But as bad as it is for him to bring temptation to you, is for you to require him to diet with you when you want to lose weight, especially if he was not consulted about changing his diet.