OP, good luck in dealing with this. I don't know how I would react, because I've never been in your shoes. Logically, I would want to keep an open line of communication with the boy's family and follow-up, talk to my child's pediatrician, and allow only supervised play with the other boy. If you trust your child's pediatrician, I would definitely carefully consider his/her advice.

There could be abuse, or the boy could have seen pornography or accidentally witnessed his parents having sex. He could have overheard an older child talking about the act. There is more than one possibility. While I agree that kids can start this behavior quite early and without the provocation of abuse, I do find it rather odd that a child would use the term "suck," as another PP pointed out.

It's time to start talking to your son about touching and teach him the proper terminology for body parts. I see nothing wrong with kids using nicknames like 'wee," but they should know the anatomical term as well. I don't think it's a good idea to imply that his privates are in any way "dirty," or that touching himself is bad. I think he needs to feel empowered to say, "no" and to object to coercion.

It's such a tricky issue. Get some educated advice and read some books. Good luck. And I'm sorry.

Anonymous wrote:OP: Your son will be fine. My friend had an incident like this when he was 5 but the other boy was 12. My friend is fine. He had a happy family and supportive mom. Still does...

I will share a "normal" story with you. WHen I was 12 I was babysitting 3 cousins. Two boys aged 3&4 and another girl aged 4. I left them in their room, they got quiet, and when I went in there, all of them were naked with their clothes off and saying, and I quote "look at my weiner" and "lay on me" and "it's my turn to lay on you".

FF. WE are all adults now, friendly, and we've talked about abuse for a variety of reasons. None of them was sexually abused.

I know nothing about abuse, so perhaps I am painfully naive, but I wouldn't assume abuse just because little 3 or 4 year olds got naked with each other. Scary topic.

OP: Your son will be fine. My friend had an incident like this when he was 5 but the other boy was 12. My friend is fine. He had a happy family and supportive mom. Still does...

I will share a "normal" story with you. WHen I was 12 I was babysitting 3 cousins. Two boys aged 3&4 and another girl aged 4. I left them in their room, they got quiet, and when I went in there, all of them were naked with their clothes off and saying, and I quote "look at my weiner" and "lay on me" and "it's my turn to lay on you".

FF. WE are all adults now, friendly, and we've talked about abuse for a variety of reasons. None of them was sexually abused.

The creepy feelings could be because something something very creepy and awful could be happening to the boy who initiated this. I admit, the initial post sounded weird to me too (strangely expressed).

On the other hand, sexual abuse is much more common than we like to admit. It happens in all levels of society. Could be happening in a family of "super nice" people. I'm not trying to make people paranoid (imo, we're already too paranoid as a society.) I just think people shouldn't be in denial when they come across something. I think it's much more likely that the post was by someone who came across evidence of child sexual abuse than it is that the post was made up by a pedophile. That seems more far-fetched.

One of my best friends, who I was in school with from kindergarten, was sexually abused by an older brother for a decade from a very young age. I never knew til after college (though I did find that older brother a little creepy and wouldn't have wanted to be alone with him. Still, that something was happening to her had never occurred to me.) It's hard to see, and OP needs support and advice.

OP,

I hope you will start by talking to the boy's mother and getting a sense of how she plans to handle this. This could be abuse or it could be exposure to porn but something is clearly amiss, children this age only do this if they're exposed to it directly or directly. You said it's a classmate so I know socially this is awkward but this is definitely serious enough behavior that you have to deal with it. I'm not sure what you'd do next ... Gosh, I feel for you.

As for people wondering if you're real or not, there have been two posts, one just last month, in recent memory that turned out to be fake. So people are more suspicious than usual.

Please update us.

It would be unfortunate if this is a real post and folks are saying it's not, but I agree with the poster who said it didn't add up. Seriously, if my son were in a room with another child and they had their pants off and were playing, I would say "why are your pants off?" and not just tell them to put them back on. This really did not raise a red flag for OP? And then, you left them again? Is it typical for four year olds to play alone without supervision for long enough for this to take place?

If this is real, I'm very sorry for the OP, her son, and the other little boy. However, I hope NOBODY will offer any other details of any type of molestation. I also get a really fake feeling from this post, and something about it seems off, particularly the details of the story and the way the OP shared them. I'm getting a creeped out feeling.

Several people have reported this thread and suggested the post might be fake. I have no reason to believe that it is not a truthful thread. The original poster has always identified herself in subsequent posts and has done nothing to suggest that she is not honestly dealing with a very difficult situation.

I think Jeff should hand over all information from this post (IP address, approximate location, post details) to the appropriate police department and FBI.

Jeff - two years ago I reported a post similar to this to the FBI and they called me exactly 1 year later thanking me for my tip because 7 people I had never met went to jail for life as a result of the things they did to a child.

This post very well could be an abuser or someone aware of abuse that is lying about going to authorities and needs to be taken seriously.