Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You handled the situation well. Every parent makes mistakes step parents too. I hope you DSS apologized to you as well.

You seem so nice and your DSS is lucky to have you.

Stepmom here and I agree. I generally don't flip out, but when I do, you know I'm pissed about something! Sounds like you just hit your breaking point. Look- you're human. Apologizing and admitting you made a mistake are probably the most important things that happened in this situation.

Like I said you better hope real mom is in a great mood when she here about it. I would show you a shi* move by filing in court. Verbally abuse my kid would ya?

Anonymous wrote:You handled the situation well. Every parent makes mistakes step parents too. I hope you DSS apologized to you as well.

You seem so nice and your DSS is lucky to have you.

Stepmom here and I agree. I generally don't flip out, but when I do, you know I'm pissed about something! Sounds like you just hit your breaking point. Look- you're human. Apologizing and admitting you made a mistake are probably the most important things that happened in this situation.

+ Explaining it is not excusing it.
+ Asking why she asked the boy to kill the bug is not bashing stepmothers, it's questioning a parenting call. One poster who asked about this is herself a stepmother.
+ I'm really, really tired of any criticism of or disagreement with a stepparent as being perceived as bashing!

Anonymous wrote:8:57 I don't think anyone here's celebrating the boys' behavior!

They're excusing it. "He's 12! He's not your husband! You're not his real mom!" He did a shitheaded thing. He's old enough to know better. She apologized for it, and admits that when her daughter is older, she might slip up and do the same thing to her. I get so tired of stepparents getting bashed on this board.

8:57 I don't think anyone here's celebrating the boys' behavior!

Anonymous wrote:Wait until your little girl is 12 and her stepmom calls her names.

You do realize that will be the scenario, right? The odds of your husband's second marriage (to you) lasting are not great.

If my husband and I ever divorce and he remarries, I'll teach my daughter to respect her stepmother the way I teach her to respect ANY adult, and if I caught wind of her shoving a bug in an adult's face out of pure snottiness the way this kid did to OP, I'd make sure she got a second getting-onto when she got back to my house. This kid obviously doesn't respect his elders.

Wait until your little girl is 12 and her stepmom calls her names.

You do realize that will be the scenario, right? The odds of your husband's second marriage (to you) lasting are not great.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP one more time... I'll totally take the flak for my reaction, but I think people are being way over the top with what I asked him to do. Shoot me, I don't like bugs. I happen to know they don't bother him. I asked him to walk a literal 10 feet across the hall to his sisters room to do a five second task to help me out. It's pretty much the same as asking my husband (or dss asking me) to reach something off the top shelf. If it had been a task that would bother dss, I never would have asked, but goodness, we help each other out in our family.

He is NOT your husband. He does not have to take care of you. Especially not at this age. You were wrong for asking him to do it. And NO my ex will not remarry because of dingy chics like this! You called him an expletive and cant seem to see you were at blame for the entire situation.You better pray his mom is in a great mood when she finds out. Name calling is arguably verbal abuse .

The bright side when your old and sick or otherwise unable to care for yourself and he should take care of you... You keep this up and you won't have to worry about him taunting you. He won't be around.

Jesus Christ, it was a slip of the tongue, it happened once, and she felt awful and apologized. You act like she slapped him across the face. And if your husband looks down on "dingy chics" and you're so fucking great and perfect, why are you two divorced?

This kid is 12. 12! 12 year olds can help out around the house. And no matter what permutation of family or gender they happen to be, 12 year olds can be a very challenging pain in one's ass. And sometimes, we slip up and let them know explicitly. It happens.

Seriously. She apologized, she clearly feels bad. Some of these posters act like she took a belt to him and bragged about it.

Because we know she's full of it. She's never slipped and called her daughter anything.

Her daughter's not a 12 year old boy spitefully shoving a bug in her face to be a, yes, shit!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP one more time... I'll totally take the flak for my reaction, but I think people are being way over the top with what I asked him to do. Shoot me, I don't like bugs. I happen to know they don't bother him. I asked him to walk a literal 10 feet across the hall to his sisters room to do a five second task to help me out. It's pretty much the same as asking my husband (or dss asking me) to reach something off the top shelf. If it had been a task that would bother dss, I never would have asked, but goodness, we help each other out in our family.

He is NOT your husband. He does not have to take care of you. Especially not at this age. You were wrong for asking him to do it. And NO my ex will not remarry because of dingy chics like this! You called him an expletive and cant seem to see you were at blame for the entire situation.You better pray his mom is in a great mood when she finds out. Name calling is arguably verbal abuse .

The bright side when your old and sick or otherwise unable to care for yourself and he should take care of you... You keep this up and you won't have to worry about him taunting you. He won't be around.

Jesus Christ, it was a slip of the tongue, it happened once, and she felt awful and apologized. You act like she slapped him across the face. And if your husband looks down on "dingy chics" and you're so fucking great and perfect, why are you two divorced?

This kid is 12. 12! 12 year olds can help out around the house. And no matter what permutation of family or gender they happen to be, 12 year olds can be a very challenging pain in one's ass. And sometimes, we slip up and let them know explicitly. It happens.

Seriously. She apologized, she clearly feels bad. Some of these posters act like she took a belt to him and bragged about it.

Because we know she's full of it. She's never slipped and called her daughter anything.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP one more time... I'll totally take the flak for my reaction, but I think people are being way over the top with what I asked him to do. Shoot me, I don't like bugs. I happen to know they don't bother him. I asked him to walk a literal 10 feet across the hall to his sisters room to do a five second task to help me out. It's pretty much the same as asking my husband (or dss asking me) to reach something off the top shelf. If it had been a task that would bother dss, I never would have asked, but goodness, we help each other out in our family.

He is NOT your husband. He does not have to take care of you. Especially not at this age. You were wrong for asking him to do it. And NO my ex will not remarry because of dingy chics like this! You called him an expletive and cant seem to see you were at blame for the entire situation.You better pray his mom is in a great mood when she finds out. Name calling is arguably verbal abuse .

The bright side when your old and sick or otherwise unable to care for yourself and he should take care of you... You keep this up and you won't have to worry about him taunting you. He won't be around.

Jesus Christ, it was a slip of the tongue, it happened once, and she felt awful and apologized. You act like she slapped him across the face. And if your husband looks down on "dingy chics" and you're so fucking great and perfect, why are you two divorced?

This kid is 12. 12! 12 year olds can help out around the house. And no matter what permutation of family or gender they happen to be, 12 year olds can be a very challenging pain in one's ass. And sometimes, we slip up and let them know explicitly. It happens.

Seriously. She apologized, she clearly feels bad. Some of these posters act like she took a belt to him and bragged about it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP one more time... I'll totally take the flak for my reaction, but I think people are being way over the top with what I asked him to do. Shoot me, I don't like bugs. I happen to know they don't bother him. I asked him to walk a literal 10 feet across the hall to his sisters room to do a five second task to help me out. It's pretty much the same as asking my husband (or dss asking me) to reach something off the top shelf. If it had been a task that would bother dss, I never would have asked, but goodness, we help each other out in our family.

He is NOT your husband. He does not have to take care of you. Especially not at this age. You were wrong for asking him to do it. And NO my ex will not remarry because of dingy chics like this! You called him an expletive and cant seem to see you were at blame for the entire situation.You better pray his mom is in a great mood when she finds out. Name calling is arguably verbal abuse .

The bright side when your old and sick or otherwise unable to care for yourself and he should take care of you... You keep this up and you won't have to worry about him taunting you. He won't be around.

Jesus Christ, it was a slip of the tongue, it happened once, and she felt awful and apologized. You act like she slapped him across the face. And if your husband looks down on "dingy chics" and you're so fucking great and perfect, why are you two divorced?

This kid is 12. 12! 12 year olds can help out around the house. And no matter what permutation of family or gender they happen to be, 12 year olds can be a very challenging pain in one's ass. And sometimes, we slip up and let them know explicitly. It happens.

Anonymous wrote:That is just beyond the pale. I would be furious if I was his real mom - what does she think of this? Or his dad for that matter. I cannot imagine a situation where I would ever call a child a little shit. Jesus lady.

Really? I have, in moments of absolute frustration, told my bio son to stop acting like an asshole. Was it the rigth thing to do? No. Did I apologize? yes. Keep living.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP one more time... I'll totally take the flak for my reaction, but I think people are being way over the top with what I asked him to do. Shoot me, I don't like bugs. I happen to know they don't bother him. I asked him to walk a literal 10 feet across the hall to his sisters room to do a five second task to help me out. It's pretty much the same as asking my husband (or dss asking me) to reach something off the top shelf. If it had been a task that would bother dss, I never would have asked, but goodness, we help each other out in our family.

He is NOT your husband. He does not have to take care of you. Especially not at this age. You were wrong for asking him to do it. And NO my ex will not remarry because of dingy chics like this! You called him an expletive and cant seem to see you were at blame for the entire situation.You better pray his mom is in a great mood when she finds out. Name calling is arguably verbal abuse .

The bright side when your old and sick or otherwise unable to care for yourself and he should take care of you... You keep this up and you won't have to worry about him taunting you. He won't be around.

Jesus Christ, it was a slip of the tongue, it happened once, and she felt awful and apologized. You act like she slapped him across the face. And if your husband looks down on "dingy chics" and you're so fucking great and perfect, why are you two divorced?

Not your best parenting moment. We've all been there. You've apologized, a number of times, so at this point I would let it go with your DSS.

I agree it was probably a bit of an over reaction, but would challenge anyone to say that they've never had a less than ideal reaction in the moment sometimes. My 1yr old toddler is going through a hitting phase. 99 times out of 100 I say "don't hit" and redirect. Yesterday she caught me off guard and it hurt, and my reaction was a sharp "NO!". I didn't yell, but it was much more stern than I've ever been. I instantly felt horrible.

It happens. Don't let it happen again.

Anonymous wrote:OP one more time... I'll totally take the flak for my reaction, but I think people are being way over the top with what I asked him to do. Shoot me, I don't like bugs. I happen to know they don't bother him. I asked him to walk a literal 10 feet across the hall to his sisters room to do a five second task to help me out. It's pretty much the same as asking my husband (or dss asking me) to reach something off the top shelf. If it had been a task that would bother dss, I never would have asked, but goodness, we help each other out in our family.

He is NOT your husband. He does not have to take care of you. Especially not at this age. You were wrong for asking him to do it. And NO my ex will not remarry because of dingy chics like this! You called him an expletive and cant seem to see you were at blame for the entire situation.You better pray his mom is in a great mood when she finds out. Name calling is arguably verbal abuse .

The bright side when your old and sick or otherwise unable to care for yourself and he should take care of you... You keep this up and you won't have to worry about him taunting you. He won't be around.