I hate mom blogs, I really think "who cares how great a mom you are"? But I can tell there are a lot of moms out there that need to read what others are doing. They seem to usually make the moms that read them feel inadequate and depressed.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I am going to start my own blog and call it, "ihavealawdegreetoo."

Damn, I was going to use that. Guess I'll have to go with my second choice, "ninetyfourpercentofpeopleindchavealawdegreetoo."

What does this have to do with anything? I don't even know this woman and I feel like I need to defend her honor.
I have read her blog before, and the whole reason she started this blog was becaus she wanted to write about her post biglaw experience. So naming it that had nothing to do with the fact that there are a billion other lawyers out there. I get that this site is anonymous and so people feel like they can be nasty with impunity, but maybe try to remember that there are real people behind these blogs.

And I've done biglaw and I've been a SAHM and I really enjoy reading her blog because I can totally relate. And the first few months out of biglaw were like detox to me. It was all I could think about. But good luck to you two. You seem super awesome.

Oh lighten up, there's no reason for you to get all worked up over people poking fun at the name of a blog.

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Anonymous wrote:I think I am going to start my own blog and call it, "ihavealawdegreetoo."

Damn, I was going to use that. Guess I'll have to go with my second choice, "ninetyfourpercentofpeopleindchavealawdegreetoo."

What does this have to do with anything? I don't even know this woman and I feel like I need to defend her honor.
I have read her blog before, and the whole reason she started this blog was becaus she wanted to write about her post biglaw experience. So naming it that had nothing to do with the fact that there are a billion other lawyers out there. I get that this site is anonymous and so people feel like they can be nasty with impunity, but maybe try to remember that there are real people behind these blogs.

And I've done biglaw and I've been a SAHM and I really enjoy reading her blog because I can totally relate. And the first few months out of biglaw were like detox to me. It was all I could think about. But good luck to you two. You seem super awesome.

I followed the blog of one foreign mother in Australia. Then one of another foreighner who came to Baltimore for 1 year work assignment with her 2 sons.
And another of an immigrant mother in LA for 1 year.
One adoption story. The parents were not American so I was interested to see how the process differs for them

Anonymous wrote:I think I am going to start my own blog and call it, "ihavealawdegreetoo."

Damn, I was going to use that. Guess I'll have to go with my second choice, "ninetyfourpercentofpeopleindchavealawdegreetoo."

I think I am going to start my own blog and call it, "ihavealawdegreetoo."

Maybe I'm old school. I love dooce.com.

This is Shannon (author of butidohavealawdegree.com). I have tried to resist the urge to respond here, but I can't help myself!

I'm sorry that some of you don't like the blog. My advice if you don't - don't read it!

The blog is a place for me to sincerely express myself, and I'm sorry if the PP finds it annoying. I'm not trying to dwell on my biglaw past, nor am I trying to forget it. It has only been 3 months since I left my career, and I admit, I am still reeling from it a bit. I spent a lot of my life either preparing to be a lawyer or working as one, so giving that up has been an adjustment.

(And I will note that not all of my posting are related to law! I've covered multiple other topics, including breastfeeding, nannies, hotel rooms at the St. Regis, sick kids, health care reform, and hangovers, to name a few.)

That being said, I also do hope that this time next year I am not still thinking about it! The blog is about my journey into the new role I have assumed, and part of that journey involves some reflection and self expression. And for better or worse, I have chosen to write about it.

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Anonymous wrote:This is Darcy from No Monsters, thanks so much to whoever posted about my blog, you really made my day. And by the way, I'm also a former big law associate (I worked as an associate for 3.5 years, until my youngest daughter was 18 months old), my husband is still there. I think it's hard when you first leave to forge a new identity and think of yourself as something other than a former lawyer, so let's all cut butidohavealawdegree some slack.

You're kind. And this is true. However, it's also true that obsessing over the old identity isn't the best route to forging a new one.

So far, butidohavealawdegree has been about looking backwards on the BigLaw experience. Even the posts that try to be about her present-day life still find a way to reference the past again and again. It's all about "what used to be." This does not make for interesting reading. In fact, it's pretty annoying.

The author reminds me of the friend who swears she's over her ex-boyfriend, but just can't seem to stop talking about him. Enough already.

I have never posted on this website before, but I came here from butidohavealawdegree.com. I have been a reader since its inception and really enjoy the blog. That being said, I am a biglaw attorney and a mom. So I can really relate to what she writes about. Also, it is refreshing to see someone writing about the reality of biglaw, because you can't really write about it (without losing your job) until you are out of it. I hope she continues to reflect on it, and I think a lot of her readers are lawyers or law students who are interested in her perspective on the topic. Different blogs appeal to different people - maybe hers just isn't for you.

You probably enjoy it because reading it validates your decision to keep working. She presents herself as someone who can't move forward and enjoy her new role because she's so mired in the fact that she worked in big law for a few years. Big law isn't for everyone but, it's not so bad that it should color the rest of your life.

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Anonymous wrote:This is Darcy from No Monsters, thanks so much to whoever posted about my blog, you really made my day. And by the way, I'm also a former big law associate (I worked as an associate for 3.5 years, until my youngest daughter was 18 months old), my husband is still there. I think it's hard when you first leave to forge a new identity and think of yourself as something other than a former lawyer, so let's all cut butidohavealawdegree some slack.

You're kind. And this is true. However, it's also true that obsessing over the old identity isn't the best route to forging a new one.

So far, butidohavealawdegree has been about looking backwards on the BigLaw experience. Even the posts that try to be about her present-day life still find a way to reference the past again and again. It's all about "what used to be." This does not make for interesting reading. In fact, it's pretty annoying.

The author reminds me of the friend who swears she's over her ex-boyfriend, but just can't seem to stop talking about him. Enough already.

I have never posted on this website before, but I came here from butidohavealawdegree.com. I have been a reader since its inception and really enjoy the blog. That being said, I am a biglaw attorney and a mom. So I can really relate to what she writes about. Also, it is refreshing to see someone writing about the reality of biglaw, because you can't really write about it (without losing your job) until you are out of it. I hope she continues to reflect on it, and I think a lot of her readers are lawyers or law students who are interested in her perspective on the topic. Different blogs appeal to different people - maybe hers just isn't for you.

Anonymous wrote:This is Darcy from No Monsters, thanks so much to whoever posted about my blog, you really made my day. And by the way, I'm also a former big law associate (I worked as an associate for 3.5 years, until my youngest daughter was 18 months old), my husband is still there. I think it's hard when you first leave to forge a new identity and think of yourself as something other than a former lawyer, so let's all cut butidohavealawdegree some slack.

You're kind. And this is true. However, it's also true that obsessing over the old identity isn't the best route to forging a new one.

So far, butidohavealawdegree has been about looking backwards on the BigLaw experience. Even the posts that try to be about her present-day life still find a way to reference the past again and again. It's all about "what used to be." This does not make for interesting reading. In fact, it's pretty annoying.

The author reminds me of the friend who swears she's over her ex-boyfriend, but just can't seem to stop talking about him. Enough already.

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Anonymous wrote:Hate mom blogs -

Love Darcy's "blog" if you will http://bedtimemonsters.blogspot.com/ it has actual info I can use.

Another No Monsters fan - I saw the link for the "indoor play spaces" and keep coming back. I'm tired of blogs that just are "woke up. fed kid. went to bed" - blech. Nice to see someone blog about stuff that is actually real. And not ME! ME! ME!

I agree. No Monsters is full of great ideas for activities and outings, and it's all very practical and full of common sense.

My favorite posts are probably the ones about her art and cooking projects with the kids. The ideas are all fun and engaging -- and surprisingly easy to do. Not that it ever would have occurred to me to do them unless I saw them on her blog first. I don't have a creative bone in my body, which is why her blog is such a great resource! (Plus, I love the "eye candy". Her photos are just gorgeous!!)

Anonymous wrote:Google Nie Nie. That bitch makes Amalah look like a saint!

Just curious why you don't like her, she seems pretty different from amalah.

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Anonymous wrote:Hate mom blogs -

Love Darcy's "blog" if you will http://bedtimemonsters.blogspot.com/ it has actual info I can use.

Another No Monsters fan - I saw the link for the "indoor play spaces" and keep coming back. I'm tired of blogs that just are "woke up. fed kid. went to bed" - blech. Nice to see someone blog about stuff that is actually real. And not ME! ME! ME!

Isn't that what a mom blog is for? To blog about yourself?

In any event, I have been following www.familybondingtime.blogspot.com. It's by a mom who was just diagnosed with breast cancer, at the same time her husband was diagnosed with colon cancer. They have a toddler. So sad and inspiring at the same time.

Anonymous wrote:Hate mom blogs -

Love Darcy's "blog" if you will http://bedtimemonsters.blogspot.com/ it has actual info I can use.

Another No Monsters fan - I saw the link for the "indoor play spaces" and keep coming back. I'm tired of blogs that just are "woke up. fed kid. went to bed" - blech. Nice to see someone blog about stuff that is actually real. And not ME! ME! ME!