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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but let's keep it in perspective. My mom passed away 10 years ago and I would do anything to have her embarrassing me on Facebook.

I agree with others who say posts like these are annoying, dismissive of how others feel, and selfish.

How 'bout we up the ante and say YOU need to keep things in perspective, because some people are born to mothers who die in childbirth?

So I'm annoying and selfish because I said I wish mom was around to embarrass me on Facebook? Nice.....

I didn't judge any of you so don't judge me.

And about this being a competition....if that is what this is then I would gladly lose.

But that's not what you said, is it? You told the OP she needed to keep things in perspective, and implied that she shouldn't complain about her mother at all.
I'm very sorry for your loss, but to suggest that people can't grumble, gripe or complain about their mothers because yours passed away is pretty ridiculous, and yes, selfish. It's a very "look at me, my issue/pain/complaint is more pronounced than yours" attitude.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but let's keep it in perspective. My mom passed away 10 years ago and I would do anything to have her embarrassing me on Facebook.

I agree with others who say posts like these are annoying, dismissive of how others feel, and selfish.

How 'bout we up the ante and say YOU need to keep things in perspective, because some people are born to mothers who die in childbirth?

So I'm annoying and selfish because I said I wish mom was around to embarrass me on Facebook? Nice.....

I didn't judge any of you so don't judge me.

And about this being a competition....if that is what this is then I would gladly lose.

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Anonymous wrote:Can people stop using the lovely expression "Debbie Downer"? Not so nice for those of us who go by the name.

And yet here you are demonstrating how appropriate the saying is, Debbie. Go figure.

Nah, not really.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but let's keep it in perspective. My mom passed away 10 years ago and I would do anything to have her embarrassing me on Facebook.

I agree with others who say posts like these are annoying, dismissive of how others feel, and selfish.

How 'bout we up the ante and say YOU need to keep things in perspective, because some people are born to mothers who die in childbirth?

When my mom first got onto FB, she would respond to other people's posts in her status updates, so it would be totally random: "So glad you had a great birthday Steve!" "So sorry to hear about Dorothy." We had to sit her down and explain to her how it worked. Now she's better but if someone could teach her how not to text me constantly IN ALL CAPS I would be grateful.

Huh. When I think of Debbie it's always in the context of "does dallas". Downer seems like an improvement, Deb.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a Debbie Downer but let's keep it in perspective. My mom passed away 10 years ago and I would do anything to have her embarrassing me on Facebook.

GOD I hate posts like yours. "You can't be mad about your kids jumping on the bed because MY kid doesn't have LEGS!"

I hate posts like that, too! It's so totally dismissive of what someone is feeling. It's like a form of one-upmanship. You're entitled to miss your mother but that doesn't mean OP can't want her mother to stop embarrassing her!

I can't be the only one who remembers the thread about being grateful for your chatty Cathy (hah!) 3yo because he could be deaf and mute instead, can I?

Negative Nancy is a fair replacement, at least until Nancy pipes up.

My friend coined the phrase "momment" to describe this.

Just filter her out. Let her see photos (or whatever) and occasionally post something that everyone can see so that she doesn't figure it out. And if she asks say that you still chat with your friends on FB about silly stuff but you don't involve your whole list in the discussions.

My mom was on FB for about 3 weeks total. She's computer illiterate and told me that she thought "fb was slowing down her computer" I enthusiastically agreed and canceled her account at her request.
Her sister sends copies of our posts to her, which I guess is fine, at least we all know she's doing it.

Anonymous wrote:Thank the Lord your mother is alive. I would take another 10 minutes with mine, in any state. Seriously.

It's the most terrible loss, and I had my precious mom for a long time. I can't begin to say how many times a day I have at least a fleeting thought of some wonderful time we had together--even as small an event as talking and sipping iced tea on her back porch in the summer (after her stroke).

I always enjoy the night musings of DCUM.

Anonymous wrote:Can people stop using the lovely expression "Debbie Downer"? Not so nice for those of us who go by the name.

And yet here you are demonstrating how appropriate the saying is, Debbie. Go figure.

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Anonymous wrote:Can people stop using the lovely expression "Debbie Downer"? Not so nice for those of us who go by the name.

Hi Deb!

Huh. I thought it was Ms. Downer.

PP you are an ass.