My DH would likely be like this. We have a wonderful marriage and he's a great father, but he would be happy no matter what he was doing. If he were single, he'd be happy working and with his hobbies. He was grateful that we just met organically and he didn't have to have strings of first dates. He absolutely would have never done online dating.

After seeing what all our friends had to do to get married, we both joke that we caught the last helicopter out of Vietnam. We both have nice, normal friends who had to make online dating their 2nd job. They had to go on nonstop first dates and really put themselves out there. They were dumped a lot, had to spend so many holidays single. They had to run background checks on guys and some guys were absolutely crazy. Most of the time they weren't exclusively dating and the other person would still be seeing multiple people. DH and I never did that. We just met at a party, dated, and then 3.5 years later we got married. We'd both dated a lot before, but it was fun dating with no intention of marrying.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

Maybe adjust your age setting and check what women your own age are looking for. Then you can find an equal partner - alternate paying for dates, building a great connection not just sexual one etc. Why do you even put so much stress on sex and appearance, in your own words, your T levels are low? Just enjoy a normal human connection. Looks fade anyways over time

So women shouldn't need to change their preferences, but men should?

I date the likes: men of my own age group , looks and income.
You want to date much younger women . Maybe change your self assessment, self acceptance, acceptance of your own aging and why you think you should look attractive to much younger people

You sound self-centered. Maybe men and women don't have the same preferences. And maybe not all women have the same preferences as you.

How is that self centered dating equals ? If you want to date someone who has an asset that valuable to you that you don’t have (age, looks etc) then you need to pay up
As I clearly showed you the investment required to buy a hot young educated woman is $10 million in future divorce settlement to her , legally framed as trust to her at the time of marriage.
Young women are smart they on average make more than the men their own age group and would only date and marry much older men for real assets of interest to them

So you have totally unrealistic expectations of what you bring to table.

I have realistic expectations and have no problems finding relationships, was married for 20 years to a high profile man so my algorithm does work.

Same age=partnership based relationship

Much older man = transactional relationship

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Anonymous wrote:Single man 40 here. I want children but dating has been such a slog that I’ve basically given up. I’m 6’1” and a Navy veteran. Currently making good money in defense tech. Healthy (lift and run regularly) with broad social life.

For some reason the women that I want aren’t interested in me. My hinge is set for 27-32 because I want children. Women closer to my age don’t interest me. I tried dating a few in the 35-43 range and they all struggled with vulnerability and emotional communication. May have been my filtering but these were all professional women who dedicated everything to their careers.

Recently I deleted my Hinge and stopped looking. I don’t want to be an old father. My best friends dad was in his 80s when we were in college and I don’t want that experience if I have children.

I don’t get lonely and I’m used to living alone. So dating is optional and less desirable for me now.

I was in your shoes and dating at 39.

Most of the women in the D.C. area seem to be struggling with one mental illness or another. Don’t need all that extra baggage before a relationship (potentially life-long) even gets started.

Also, from what I encountered, so many American women (at least around here) have other issues, not the least of which are their completely unrealistic expectations of men (their “6-6-6-6” rule, how 90% of women chase the top 5% of men and ignore the rest, etc.).

I lucked out. Married a terrific woman from Europe; one kid off to college in the Fall; another doing exceedingly well in HS. Have advised DS to try to marry a woman who was not raised in the USA.

Could it be that the social policies in the US are driving some of these issues? Seems like European men and women are desirable as partners and have less "issues"....makes you go hmmmm because the very people who marry non-US are usually the ones voting for non-European policies

As far as a 40 yo veteran unmarried its a red flag to younger woman that you havent been able to commit before. You wont be THAT old at college graduation if you start in the next few years, certainly not 80.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

Maybe adjust your age setting and check what women your own age are looking for. Then you can find an equal partner - alternate paying for dates, building a great connection not just sexual one etc. Why do you even put so much stress on sex and appearance, in your own words, your T levels are low? Just enjoy a normal human connection. Looks fade anyways over time

So women shouldn't need to change their preferences, but men should?

I date the likes: men of my own age group , looks and income.
You want to date much younger women . Maybe change your self assessment, self acceptance, acceptance of your own aging and why you think you should look attractive to much younger people

You sound self-centered. Maybe men and women don't have the same preferences. And maybe not all women have the same preferences as you.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

Maybe adjust your age setting and check what women your own age are looking for. Then you can find an equal partner - alternate paying for dates, building a great connection not just sexual one etc. Why do you even put so much stress on sex and appearance, in your own words, your T levels are low? Just enjoy a normal human connection. Looks fade anyways over time

So women shouldn't need to change their preferences, but men should?

I date the likes: men of my own age group , looks and income.
You want to date much younger women . Maybe change your self assessment, self acceptance, acceptance of your own aging and why you think you should look attractive to much younger people

The men on here complaining about hot women not being interested in them, women being too independent, women being "crazy' . . . instead of taking ownership of their choices, their prejudices, their own "requirements" is so, so typical.

Newsflash to those men: that's why your single. Because of you. No one else. And no woman owes you a date, relationship, etc.

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

"All women"? I guess the every single man i know who doesn't fit this requirement must be the exception? They found the few women willing to try something outside your category.

Anonymous wrote:Novelty wears off from women and relationships + T levels drop. As a young man (virgin) the only thing I could think about was wanting a girlfriend and getting laid. Now after several female partners and marriage, I still like female company but realize that being single has a lot of advantages. I’m divorced and definitely won’t want to get married again, and most older women don’t really appeal to me physically. Could I get a younger woman who I’m attracted to for casual relationship? Not easily and this is the case for most men 35+. Women our age become less appealing over time and most of us can’t pull the hot 25 year old.

So. This is why your single. Women can smell a misogynist pig from a mile away.

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Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

Maybe adjust your age setting and check what women your own age are looking for. Then you can find an equal partner - alternate paying for dates, building a great connection not just sexual one etc. Why do you even put so much stress on sex and appearance, in your own words, your T levels are low? Just enjoy a normal human connection. Looks fade anyways over time

So women shouldn't need to change their preferences, but men should?

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

Maybe adjust your age setting and check what women your own age are looking for. Then you can find an equal partner - alternate paying for dates, building a great connection not just sexual one etc. Why do you even put so much stress on sex and appearance, in your own words, your T levels are low? Just enjoy a normal human connection. Looks fade anyways over time

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Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

Oh, like a relative who wants a woman who looks like a model, earns at least $150,000, and will have dinner ready every night when he gets home?

Absolutely all men on this thread show that they are of this category. Not making much /retired veteran, want a 28-32 yo woman when he's already in his early 40s.

Mass media completely shifted their expectations to unrealistic, non-existent celebrity world. They identify themselves with Bradley Cooper somehow but will never be one.

Men in their 40s look WAAAY worse than women in their 40s. I'm a bisexual woman and I manage to find many attractive women my own age (late 40s) but men completely let themselves go

You come across as a reliable narrator...

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

For starters, start looks at what women your own age want. Why do you feel entitled to 25-35 yo woman from a diferrent generation? Of course she would want the "premium" for dating your old saggy balls

It all stems from men's unrealistic attitude towards women/wanting young and fresh bodies only.

So you go and pay up for the younger body!

To give you an idea, I married at 26 yo, he was 11 years older. His net worth was over $3m in year 2003, and he had multiple awards, publications, and a PhD from an Ivy League school. That translates into 20+ million net worth in modern terms

After my divorce (5 million settlement) I dated someone in their early 60s and he was an actual billionaire flying private.

So every 10 years in age difference realistically should translate into at a minimum 10 million you can bring to table to catch an attractive woman in her age group

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.

Change your algorithm. This is mostly an internet thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Most men I know 35+ who are single are delusional about what they bring to the table. They are 4-6’s who think they deserve an 8-10 woman. Unless they are rich it’s just not attainable for them. When they aren’t successful they just stop trying to date. They don’t understand what their lane is and that if they stayed in it they’d find a partner. There truly is a lid for every pot.

Oh, like a relative who wants a woman who looks like a model, earns at least $150,000, and will have dinner ready every night when he gets home?

Absolutely all men on this thread show that they are of this category. Not making much /retired veteran, want a 28-32 yo woman when he's already in his early 40s.

Mass media completely shifted their expectations to unrealistic, non-existent celebrity world. They identify themselves with Bradley Cooper somehow but will never be one.

Men in their 40s look WAAAY worse than women in their 40s. I'm a bisexual woman and I manage to find many attractive women my own age (late 40s) but men completely let themselves go

It doesn't hekp when women constantly state that their minimum requirement is 6 foot tall and 200K (preferable more) income per year and between the ages of 25 and 35. That is only about 150,000 men in the US who meet the minimum eligibility requirements for all women.