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Anonymous wrote:No. YOU do not have enough money to quit your job. You are a dependent.

That’s an odd way to see a marriage. We treat ours like a partnership. I take care of the home and he works for now. There was a time it was reversed but no one ever feels like a dependent.

If the OP cannot support herself financially without her husband, she is essentially his dependent.

Are you currently working full time?
Can you try go part time/ decrease hours increase time off first before deciding to completely quit?
See how you feel.

DH and I agree that once our networth goes beyond 3 mil, I can afford to go half time. But we didn’t do that until about a year later. Now our networth is now double , I’m working 0.5fte. I think it’s my sweet spot. If I completely quit my job I may feel very lost because the drastic change to my schedule. At 0.5 fte help me ease into my new routine.

Anonymous wrote:You can’t “afford to quit your job” until both of you can afford to quit both jobs.

You have a second from being an empty nester. Once your kids drive you will hardly even see them.

Hire someone to help at home if you are taxed.

What else is going on? Something is off here,

I guess I don't understand what you mean by the first sentence. I don't think anything else is going on here - not fulfilled by job, would like to find some other sense of fulfillment.

I can afford to quit my job but I’m a federal employee and I’m 4.5 years away from taking health insurance into retirement at 57. So I work for the dangly carrot of continued health insurance. I do enjoy the work and adore my coworkers though.

Part time is the answer if possible.

You can’t “afford to quit your job” until both of you can afford to quit both jobs.

You have a second from being an empty nester. Once your kids drive you will hardly even see them.

Hire someone to help at home if you are taxed.

What else is going on? Something is off here,

Can you go part time? I’ve been considering that as my son enters high school

Ignore the fact that she has kids for a second. She hates her job. She’s worried about what she will do 5 years from now but she’s miserable today. She needs to change that first.

Would quit the second I could afford to. My job is brutal, and I do it only for the money.

Anonymous wrote:You're unhappy, there is a way out. Make great memories with your family for the next 6 years.

She doesn’t have 6 years because her kids are already teenagers. It’s not developmentally appropriate for them to spend most of their time with their mother.

Unless you are raising them to stay home with you for the long term. Plenty of young adults like that now a days.

We could live without my salary (husband is in biglaw), but I love working. I was able to find a position that allows me to take 3 months of unpaid leave every summer, so I don't work the last 2 weeks of June until mid September. I take my kids to their grandparents' lake house, we travel, there's no stress about camps or activities. It really feels like a nice balance.

You're unhappy, there is a way out. Make great memories with your family for the next 6 years.

I would, and I did — at 37!

Anonymous wrote:No. YOU do not have enough money to quit your job. You are a dependent.

That’s an odd way to see a marriage. We treat ours like a partnership. I take care of the home and he works for now. There was a time it was reversed but no one ever feels like a dependent.

Absolutely! I’m mid50s and am FIRE/Coast FIRE (do about 15 hours per month consulting for my former employer). I get to do my hobbies during the week and spend weekends with my family, which is awesome!