Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 11:04     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
To be fair, expensive weddings are fun and easy way to impress people but their debt can fracture or even shatter marriages.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 10:12     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
Weddings being so expensive and overwhelming is one of the major reasons for delays and decline in marriages.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 08:00     Subject: Re:Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
Most do not. Most, I have seen over the past 30+ years have been that each set of parents chip it something and the couple chips in too.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 06:17     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
Anonymous wrote:We have daughters. No sons. We’ve paid for three very nice weddings (mid 5 figures and up) without expecting anything from the grooms’ families and have been fine with it.


Seems like you’re suckers. Why blindly follow outdated traditions? Are you a lemming?
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 05:12     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
My DS was married 3 years ago. The couple had no money (just out of school). We split the cost.
Anonymous
Post 06/12/2026 02:04     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
I am the bride and my parents did not contribute one cent.

Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 22:51     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
Anonymous wrote:Brides paying for weddings was from the days when women did not work and the husband was responsible for all the financial load after the wedding.


This.

ZERO reason for bride’s family to pay for the wedding. ZERO. ZE-RO. And grooms’ parents who don’t pay their fair share are cheap free-riders.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 22:47     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
This tradition of wasting life’s savings on weddings burden so many families. I’m all for parents helping kids celebrate but a simple budget wedding. Wish and pressure for high budget weddings keeps people postpone their weddings for years.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 20:51     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
I thought weddings were trending smaller and cheaper for this generation?

I only have sons. I dont plan to pay for their weddings. If they marry a woman whose parents pay good for them. Otherwise they can split it.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 19:09     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Explain to me why we're spending $$$$ on weddings in the first place. One of the most idiotic customs I've ever experienced.


Just because you don’t like something and you think it’s stupid doesn’t make it so.


And just because you like something and you think it’s not stupid, doesn’t make it wise or desired.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 19:07     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
I don’t understand why weddings can’t be a small and simpler affair? Quality of wedding and quality of marriage have no connection. Half of the people divorce anyways, even half of them with choreographed and themed fancy weddings.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 19:02     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
We are South Asian, both families share. If bride and groom can afford it, they pay themselves and sometimes pay parents back when they can.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 18:58     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
All you have to do is say no. They are adults, they should pay for their own choices.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 18:57     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If the grooms family was classy they would offer to split. Now at least you know what you're dealing with


Agreed. I think both should split it.

I plan on giving my DDs and DS the same amount of money and they can either buy a house or have a wedding with it. I took the money from my parents and bought a house at 22, got roommates who paid my entire mortgage.


If the parents' splitting, who's going to pay for the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon?


Pp here. I consider the rehearsal dinner part of the wedding costs.

I don’t know anyone whose parents paid for a honeymoon! Even my wealthy friends. Couples can pay for it themselves out of $$$ gifts they receive.
Anonymous
Post 06/11/2026 18:57     Subject: Can Someone Please Explain Why We continue this ridiculous custom...
Anonymous wrote:...of the bride's parents paying for the wedding??? It's 2026.

I feel like we're going backwards.


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